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Facebook birthdays
By: oogyda Date: August 1, 2020, 2:25 pm
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I'm not a fan. Especially since they added the "make a donation
to XXX for friend's birthday" option. I think it was last year
when I started noticing those. On my birthday, facebook oh, so
graciously directed me to choose a cause for my friends to
donate to. I declined. But I think that's when I became
dispirited with the facebook birthday reminders. It all just
felt forced and fake.
So I decided I wasn't going do birthday well wishes over
facebook anymore. Of course, I send some sort of Birthday
Greeting to my nearest and dearest. I either know those
birthdays off the top of my head, or at least have them written
down in that section of my address book.
In the spirit of fair play, I also took my birthday information
out of my profile. You would be right if you guessed that I did
not receive a single birthday greeting over facebook this year.
My nearest and dearest managed to get to me via other means.
I get that a quick little greeting that could brighten someone's
day can be a good thing. I get that some people keep track
(cough, cough YDN). For me, it's one more thing not to like
about facebook.
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: Sycorax Date: August 1, 2020, 9:35 pm
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I decided last year to stop wishing everyone a happy birthday on
Facebook. If we're RL friends (or special in some way), I
*might* post a message. I do appreciate when someone takes a
few seconds out of their day to write something to me on my
birthday.
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: vintagegal Date: August 2, 2020, 8:04 am
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I used to feel sad that no one sent me FB b'day wishes. Then I
realized that My Settings did not allow anyone to see my b'day
on FB. That explained a lot. I left it that way.
And as much as I would like to raise money for my favorite
charity, nope, not gonna beg people on FB. I'll donate by
myself.
It happens to be my b'day today. I got one card via mail from
stepdaughter and family, and a FB message from stepson.
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: August 2, 2020, 12:26 pm
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I actually like the birthday wishes from FB acquaintances. From
friends in RL, it's up to them.
I detest the fundraising with a passion. It just irritates me
unreasonably.
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: lakey Date: August 2, 2020, 2:49 pm
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I almost never go to facebook, so I'm curious about this:
[quote]Especially since they added the "make a donation to XXX
for friend's birthday" option. [/quote]
Does Facebook get a percentage?
At any rate, asking people to donate to something because it is
your birthday just seems odd to me.
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: gramma dishes Date: August 2, 2020, 3:07 pm
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[quote author=pierrotlunaire0 link=topic=1807.msg55519#msg55519
date=1596389181]
I actually like the birthday wishes from FB acquaintances. From
friends in RL, it's up to them.
I detest the fundraising with a passion. It just irritates me
unreasonably.
[/quote]
No. No matter how intensely you detest it, the degree of
irritation you feel is not unreasonable!
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: Codewoman1125 Date: August 3, 2020, 12:40 pm
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[quote author=oogyda link=topic=1807.msg55483#msg55483
date=1596309919]
I'm not a fan. Especially since they added the "make a donation
to XXX for friend's birthday" option. I think it was last year
when I started noticing those. On my birthday, facebook oh, so
graciously directed me to choose a cause for my friends to
donate to. I declined. But I think that's when I became
dispirited with the facebook birthday reminders. It all just
felt forced and fake.
So I decided I wasn't going do birthday well wishes over
facebook anymore. Of course, I send some sort of Birthday
Greeting to my nearest and dearest. I either know those
birthdays off the top of my head, or at least have them written
down in that section of my address book.
In the spirit of fair play, I also took my birthday information
out of my profile. You would be right if you guessed that I did
not receive a single birthday greeting over facebook this year.
My nearest and dearest managed to get to me via other means.
I get that a quick little greeting that could brighten someone's
day can be a good thing. I get that some people keep track
(cough, cough YDN). For me, it's one more thing not to like
about facebook.
[/quote]
I had to look and see if I wrote this post. Same issues based on
the same reasons!
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: oogyda Date: August 3, 2020, 12:56 pm
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[quote author=lakey link=topic=1807.msg55521#msg55521
date=1596397752]
I almost never go to facebook, so I'm curious about this:
[quote]Especially since they added the "make a donation to XXX
for friend's birthday" option. [/quote]
Does Facebook get a percentage?
At any rate, asking people to donate to something because it is
your birthday just seems odd to me.
[/quote]
I looked into that. Apparently, the first year they did this
they did take a 5% fee. Since then, they don't take a fee for
this type of charitable fundraisers.
There are over 750,000 charities to choose from on their list
and facebook has verified their non-profit status. But, it's
still up to you to investigate what the charity does with
donations.
Facebook does get a percentage + flat fee. of "personal
fundraisers". For example, if you're asking for money to get
your pet donkey's ears pierced.
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Re: Facebook birthdays
By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 20, 2020, 1:36 pm
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[quote author=vintagegal link=topic=1807.msg55502#msg55502
date=1596373464]
It happens to be my b'day today. I got one card via mail from
stepdaughter and family, and a FB message from stepson.
[/quote]
Happy Belated Birthday!!! (I hope that that best reflects your
wishes.)
I appreciate the wishes, but I do tend to note who takes the
time to acknowledge my birthday and who interacts with my posts
throughout the year. Those are the people who I figure
appreciate hearing from me and I will acknowledge theirs. But
otherwise, I don't get crazy with it. But I'm also not a fan of
the donation button.
A friend was using his Facebook page to post political memes
that he deemed funny. The strange thing is that they were from
various sides of the issues and not from just one political
party. Apparently, this upset people and they messaged him in
mass that he was confusing people??? (I didn't see it any
different than if he supported one party that was opposite to
me. If I didn't want to see his posts, I could scroll or use one
of the features to hide them.) Anyways, I mention this as it
caused him to close his page a week prior to his birthday. I had
his birthday saved on a separate calendar, so I texted him my
wishes. I have never seen someone so disappointed that no one
else remembered his birthday; he really appreciated my message.
I guess it's really a individual thing as to what you want.
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