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       #Post#: 55341--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: Hanna Date: July 29, 2020, 5:44 pm
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       I was thinking along the lines of it being a civic duty and a
       thing that responsible people either do, or do not do for a good
       reason. It did feel a bit like how ChezMiriam described. If I
       wasn’t registered it’s not because I’m not able to sort out how
       that works.
       In every state where I’ve resided it’s an option when you change
       your driver’s license address. It’s not a big secret or a
       difficult task.
       I wouldn’t really ask anyone if they flossed (though I do
       actually think it’s of the utmost importance and expect people
       are less educated about flossing than about registering to
       vote.) I meant that tongue in cheek.
       I smiled and said “yes, I am.”
       Funny enough, after I posted this the new neighbor brought me
       gorgeous flowers from her yard. I really love my new neighbors
       already.
       #Post#: 55369--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: Kimberami Date: July 30, 2020, 7:49 am
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       It feels like a "Did you change your address at the post
       office?" kind of question. I'm a grown up person. With Google's
       help, I can adult most of the time. I'm not sure I'd want to
       discuss voting in any capacity at a welcome to the neighborhood
       party.
       #Post#: 55371--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: Hmmm Date: July 30, 2020, 8:07 am
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       [quote author=Hanna link=topic=1798.msg55341#msg55341
       date=1596062684]
       I was thinking along the lines of it being a civic duty and a
       thing that responsible people either do, or do not do for a good
       reason. It did feel a bit like how ChezMiriam described. If I
       wasn’t registered it’s not because I’m not able to sort out how
       that works.
       In every state where I’ve resided it’s an option when you change
       your driver’s license address. It’s not a big secret or a
       difficult task.
       I wouldn’t really ask anyone if they flossed (though I do
       actually think it’s of the utmost importance and expect people
       are less educated about flossing than about registering to
       vote.) I meant that tongue in cheek.
       I smiled and said “yes, I am.”
       Funny enough, after I posted this the new neighbor brought me
       gorgeous flowers from her yard. I really love my new neighbors
       already.
       [/quote]
       I think if you are uncomfortable with a question, then "Why do
       you ask?" is a perfect response.
       It could be that the questionnaire is a local registrar and
       could offer assistance. It could be they were planning to
       provide you with information about which voting places in your
       area have the shortest lines or where the easiest place to get
       to for runoffs, if you are a voter. (Or it could be her litmus
       test that she was able to bring up something about voting and
       you didn't jump into a tirade for either side. So well done, you
       passed and got a flower for it! ;))
       I wouldn't assume if someone asked "Have you found a local
       dentist" meant they thought my teeth were in bad shape and I
       needed to go in for a cleaning. However, I'm sure there are
       those who are sensitive about the look of their teeth and would
       take the question as insensitive or overly familiar or
       judgmental.
       I just hate jumping to the decision that someone is being
       intrusive by asking what could really be an innocent question.
       #Post#: 55376--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: TootsNYC Date: July 30, 2020, 9:32 am
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       [quote]provide you with information about which voting places in
       your area have the shortest lines or where the easiest place to
       get to for runoffs[/quote]
       I've never voted anywhere that I was allowed to choose my
       polling place.
       #Post#: 55380--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: Hmmm Date: July 30, 2020, 10:31 am
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       [quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1798.msg55376#msg55376
       date=1596119578]
       [quote]provide you with information about which voting places in
       your area have the shortest lines or where the easiest place to
       get to for runoffs[/quote]
       I've never voted anywhere that I was allowed to choose my
       polling place.
       [/quote]
       Our State allows counties to offer county-wide polling, so as
       long as you show up at a polling place in the county, you can
       vote. It's still only a couple of years old law and new comers
       are unfamiliar. So another reason a neighbor might be offer
       advice about voting to a registered voter new to the county.
       #Post#: 55381--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: NFPwife Date: July 30, 2020, 10:31 am
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       [quote author=Victoria link=topic=1798.msg55304#msg55304
       date=1596044377]
       [quote author=PVZFan link=topic=1798.msg55299#msg55299
       date=1596043136]
       [quote author=Victoria link=topic=1798.msg55294#msg55294
       date=1596042308]
       I think that it's intrusive. In the United States, people who
       are convicted felons aren't allowed to vote. There may be other
       highly personal circumstances where the person isn't registered.
       I don't think that the ease of being able to lie and say "Yep,
       I'm all set" negates the intrusiveness of the question.
       I also wonder what the follow-up to that question would be, if
       you said "No I'm not." Because presumably someone who's willing
       to ask isn't going to settle for a "No."
       I don't think that "Do you floss your teeth?" is an analogous
       question, in that I don't think it's going to make the person
       asking the first question feel like they've made an error. I
       think it would just confuse them.
       [/quote]
       To the bolded, not in every state. In Maine and Vermont, felons
       never lose their rights to vote. In fact, felons retain or
       regain voting rights in more states than losing them
       indefinitely - the chart at this link is interesting
  HTML https://www.ncsl.org/research/elections-and-campaigns/felon-voting-rights.aspx<br
       />(FWIW, I think the prevailing thought that "felons can't vote"
       keeps more people from registering and voting. I worked at a
       halfway house for a bit and many of the women thought they
       couldn't vote, when, in fact, they were eligible. One of my
       roles was helping them register.)
       Because voter registration and voting requirements are unique to
       each state and community, I could see asking a new neighbor if
       they've registered as a way of getting in front of any barriers
       that one might encounter.
       [/quote]
       Yes, you're right, I was in a rush and didn't caveat that
       properly. I was in a rush and overgeneralized.
       But to your point, I still think it's intrusive if someone is
       probing into my reasoning or barriers that I may have to
       voting...I could see someone saying "Let me know if you need any
       help with voter registration, voting is something I'm passionate
       about" and leaving it at that.
       [/quote]
       The problem with the over-generalization is it's very
       exaggerated. More states allow people with felonies to vote than
       not. (In a few there are steps to complete.) The spreading of
       the misinformation is one way that votes are suppressed. People
       with felonies are told by "someone" that they can't vote, don't
       want to ask out of embarrassment (more accurately, shame), and
       never try to vote. (I'm not implying you're trying to suppress
       anyone's vote, I'm just clarifying why it's important to be
       accurate.)
       [quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1798.msg55376#msg55376
       date=1596119578]
       [quote]provide you with information about which voting places in
       your area have the shortest lines or where the easiest place to
       get to for runoffs[/quote]
       I've never voted anywhere that I was allowed to choose my
       polling place.
       [/quote]
       
       Me either. Well, except for when I voted by mail in the most
       recent primary. I chose to vote from the couch. With a coffee in
       my hand. It was wonderful. 5/5 highly recommend.
       #Post#: 55388--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: kareng57 Date: July 30, 2020, 11:12 am
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       I can tell you that in my area of Canada if would be considered
       intrusive.  Registration is easy and can be done on Election
       Day.
       #Post#: 55391--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: TootsNYC Date: July 30, 2020, 12:11 pm
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       [quote author=kareng57 link=topic=1798.msg55388#msg55388
       date=1596125524]
       I can tell you that in my area of Canada if would be considered
       intrusive.  Registration is easy and can be done on Election
       Day.
       [/quote]
       In which case, I don't think the topic would even come up.
       In the US, registering to vote is a completely separate
       procedure and often must be done in advance, which can be an
       issue when you move.
       #Post#: 55394--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: oogyda Date: July 30, 2020, 1:41 pm
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       [quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1798.msg55376#msg55376
       date=1596119578]
       [quote]provide you with information about which voting places in
       your area have the shortest lines or where the easiest place to
       get to for runoffs[/quote]
       I've never voted anywhere that I was allowed to choose my
       polling place.
       [/quote]
       In my very rural county, early (days not hours) voting is
       allowed for those that require assistance.  Basically, a person
       pulls up in a vehicle and the voting apparatus is brought to
       them.  This is done at a few places instead of every polling
       place.  On the day of the vote, assistance can be provided at
       every polling place.
       To answer the OP:  I get why it feels intrusive, but I think it
       does relate to moving in that you will have to change your
       address with the DMV and that's a good time/place to register.
       If it's someone who is active in the local political scene, it
       would be on their mind.
       #Post#: 55403--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Is this intrusive?
       By: jpcher Date: July 30, 2020, 2:56 pm
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       I think that if I were in your position, OP, I would have said
       "Oh, I don't talk politics, religion, and how to nurse babies at
       parties. Let's have fun!" Bean Dip.
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