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You know you're not going to eat it...
By: lowspark Date: July 15, 2020, 10:52 am
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Just for discussion....
You go to a restaurant and decide to order the chicken dish. It
comes with a side of green beans. You don't like green beans so
you know you're not going to eat them. They are going to go to
waste if they appear on your plate.
Do you just order the chicken and not mention it? Or do you let
the server know to leave the green beans off?
It's not that you're expecting a substitution. You'll be
perfectly happy just to have the chicken dish completely as is,
minus green beans.
Is it more polite to ask the server to leave them off the plate,
or not to bother the server with an additional request knowing
they will get tossed?
#Post#: 54565--------------------------------------------------
Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: blueyzca Date: July 15, 2020, 11:29 am
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I always explain to the server that I'm not going to eat
something and request that the chef doesn't need to put that
item(s) on my plate, because I hate wasted food.
That said, if the item ends up on my plate, I'm not going to
bother saying anything. Why waste everyone's time when it's too
late? I feel better knowing I tried.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: Rose Red Date: July 15, 2020, 11:33 am
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I've done it before. I just say a simple "No green beans,
please."
Some ask if I want a substitution and some don't.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: Hmmm Date: July 15, 2020, 11:53 am
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When I was low carb, I'd often ask for no rice or no potatoes.
Primarily because if there, it was too hard to not just have a
bite. Most often, the waiter would ask if I wanted a different
vegetable or side.
I think asking to leave something off is pretty common request
so I don't view it as an additional burden on the server or
kitchen staff. Just part of the job. To me it's no different
than asking for no onions on a burger or for sauce to be served
on the side or dressing on the side.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: TootsNYC Date: July 15, 2020, 12:00 pm
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[quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1781.msg54566#msg54566
date=1594830819]
I've done it before. I just say a simple "No green beans,
please."
Some ask if I want a substitution and some don't.
[/quote]
This is what I do. For one thing, saying, "Oh, I don't want the
green beans" allows them to offer a substitution, which is good
for them--no extra cost, really, but they're making a customer
feel welcome and catered to, which is a positive for them. Even
if I decline, or knew I would decline.
And it eliminates later conversations with everybody about
whether there was something wrong with the green beans, etc.
I don't feel bad if I forget, but if I know, I ask them not to
bring it.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: Soop Date: July 15, 2020, 12:18 pm
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If money is an issue, make sure to ask if the substitution is an
extra charge. I been out for for breakfast with my BIL and he
doesn't like homefries/hashbrowns so always says to leave them
off. At one place the server asked if he would like a small cup
of oatmeal instead. He said yes and then was surprised to find
an up-charge for oatmeal on the bill. no mention of that by the
server when she offered it.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: DaDancingPsych Date: July 15, 2020, 1:49 pm
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I would simply tell the server I don't need the side. (Although,
I'm not a picky eater, so rarely is there something that I won't
at least try.) More often than not the server will beat me to
the punch with something like "are fries fine?" which I can
decline. (Note: I've never declined fries!) I think it only
becomes rude if I INSIST on a substitution.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: gramma dishes Date: July 15, 2020, 2:53 pm
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[quote author=Soop link=topic=1781.msg54576#msg54576
date=1594833524]
If money is an issue, make sure to ask if the substitution is an
extra charge. I been out for for breakfast with my BIL and he
doesn't like homefries/hashbrowns so always says to leave them
off. At one place the server asked if he would like a small cup
of oatmeal instead. He said yes and then was surprised to find
an up-charge for oatmeal on the bill. no mention of that by the
server when she offered it.
[/quote]
Honestly I suspect that was just a mistake. I'd have enquired
about it when settling the bill. I doubt if she really
intended to charge you.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: NyaChan Date: July 15, 2020, 4:08 pm
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[quote author=gramma dishes link=topic=1781.msg54585#msg54585
date=1594842819]
[quote author=Soop link=topic=1781.msg54576#msg54576
date=1594833524]
If money is an issue, make sure to ask if the substitution is an
extra charge. I been out for for breakfast with my BIL and he
doesn't like homefries/hashbrowns so always says to leave them
off. At one place the server asked if he would like a small cup
of oatmeal instead. He said yes and then was surprised to find
an up-charge for oatmeal on the bill. no mention of that by the
server when she offered it.
[/quote]
Honestly I suspect that was just a mistake. I'd have enquired
about it when settling the bill. I doubt if she really
intended to charge you.
[/quote]
I’d say it probably was the correct charge - from my extensive
brunching experience (hehe), switching hashbrowns for oatmeal is
likely to be an upgrade which costs more. She should have
disclosed that when asking him if he wanted that instead.
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Re: You know you're not going to eat it...
By: baritone108 Date: July 15, 2020, 4:12 pm
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I usually ask the waiter to leave whatever item it is off the
plate. Most times they voluntarily offer a substitute item but
I normally don't ask for one.
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