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Re: The driving dilemma
DIR By: AnnNottingham
Date: July 1, 2020, 3:49 pm
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Thanks, all! I have an update:
I've had other experience with this sort of thing, namely when
my father cut across four lanes of traffic at O'Hare Airport
:o. He surrendered his license but still had options to get
out.
Another coworker, "Evette", mentioned to me that Sue wouldn't be
in tonight. Evette isn't management, but she was promoted to
supervisor, so a rung above me (and Sue). Evette and Sue are
also closer friends than Sue and I. So I confided in Evette
about what had happened. Her response was "And you were about
to $#%^ your pants, right?" The same had happened to Evette and
she won't ride with Sue anymore but instead insists on driving
when they're going someplace.
Evette has concerns that Sue is severely depressed and grieving
over her late husband, that she is becoming forgetful and thus
not taking her medicine correctly or remembering to eat, and
that she might be drinking too much :(.
The plan is that Evette will have a "come to Jesus" talk with
Sue and hopefully she'll agree to get help (besides addressing
driving). If that doesn't go well, then I don't know, but I
think I did the right thing. Evette knows I told her out of
concern and friendship, not malicious gossip.
Thanks, everyone!
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Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #10
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: July 1, 2020, 9:37 pm
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This seems like a positive update. I do hope that Evette is able
to help Sue; it sounds like a rough time for her.
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Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #10
DIR By: LifeOnPluto
Date: July 2, 2020, 6:54 am
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--- Quote from: DaDancingPsych link ---
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> This seems like a positive update. I do hope that Evette is
able to help Sue; it sounds like a rough time for her.
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Agreed. I feel sorry for Sue if she is grieving and depressed,
but if she's a danger on the roads, she definitely shouldn't be
driving. I hope she finds a solution - be it using Uber, or
taking some extra driving lessons, or even taking retirement.
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Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #10
DIR By: gramma dishes
Date: July 2, 2020, 9:20 am
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--- Quote from: LifeOnPluto link ---
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> Agreed. I feel sorry for Sue if she is grieving and depressed,
but if she's a danger on the roads, she definitely shouldn't be
driving. I hope she finds a solution - be it using Uber, or
taking some extra driving lessons, or even taking retirement.
>
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If they take away her driver's license I suspect taking
retirement would be the worst possible thing for her. Then
she'd have no way to get around and her loneliness would
multiply. It would probably be healthier both physically and
mentally for her to get rid of her car altogether and with the
savings in gas, maintenance and insurance she can afford to take
a cab or whatever services are available in her area.
That way she could keep her job.
For other types of socialization with friends (or family?) she
can hitch a ride with others and chip in a bit for gas.
#Post#: 53981--------------------------------------------------
Re: The driving dilemma
DIR By: Hello Ducky
Date: July 3, 2020, 2:11 am
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> In my personal experience, people in their mid sixties who are
driving this badly have cataracts or some other eye issues.
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I know my night-driving issues are because of cataracts, having
been asked by the eye dr. at my last exam about symptoms. I had
a couple he brought up, specifically the "glare" and "halos"
from headlights and street lights. He said that was because of
my cataracts; unfortunately, after the exam he said they still
weren't to the point where surgery was recommended. The one
time I was hoping for a surgery, too. He recommended yellow
tinted sunglasses made specifically for night driving and they
help tremendously! Still looking forward to having the
cataracts removed one day, though.
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Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #10
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: July 3, 2020, 10:49 am
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I'm glad you felt you could bring this up to someone without it
causing issues and that you cared enough to do so. I hope for a
good outcome.
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Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #10
DIR By: Aleko
Date: July 3, 2020, 12:43 pm
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> I'm glad you felt you could bring this up to someone without
it causing issues and that you cared enough to do so. I hope for
a good outcome.
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Me too. And it strikes me that Sue is absolutely right to want
to keep working, if she possibly can, in this environment where
she has at least two (maybe more?) colleagues with such
supportive, sympathetic, but realistic attitudes. May we all
have such colleagues in our own times of trouble!
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Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #10
DIR By: mime
Date: July 6, 2020, 8:58 am
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From the other side of the situation: my uncle was killed in a
car accident caused by a man (in his early 90s) who should not
have been behind the wheel. He drove right through a stop sign
and onto the highway, hitting multiple cars in the process.
Multiple people were hospitalized and my uncle died there. At
the scene, the man yelled at the injured people, and at the
deputies, because nobody was driving him home and his car was
ruined.
THANK YOU for stepping up to take action where so many people
turn a blind eye. You don't know how many lives and how much
heartache you could be saving.
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Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #10
DIR By: AnnNottingham
Date: July 24, 2020, 6:16 pm
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Another update:
Suellen's sister-in-law prevailed on her to check herself into
the hospital. There, her myriad physical problems can be
addressed and she can go through a detox. Turns out that our
fears were right: she was doctor-shopping and taking all kinds
of prescriptions incorrectly and sometimes with alcohol.
Celebrities that flame out doing the same get all the news, but
it's regular people too. Prescription abuse is the drug abuse
no one wants to talk about.
No word if or when she might work again. Her health is far more
important.
#Post#: 55014--------------------------------------------------
Re: The driving dilemma UPDATE #17
DIR By: Rain
Date: July 25, 2020, 10:12 am
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Thanks for the update
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