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       Re: Preemptive strike? (Trying to avoid lectures from relatives)
   DIR By: Lkdrymom
       Date: June 24, 2020, 1:21 pm
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       Or you could respond......"well what did Fred say when you
       brought this up to him?"  I bet you'd hear a lot of stammering.
       "No, you haven't spoken to him, well why not? "
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       Re: Preemptive strike? (Trying to avoid lectures from relatives)
   DIR By: SnappyLT
       Date: July 22, 2020, 11:57 pm
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       OP here. Thank you to the people who replied. The topic of
       family dicussion has moved on and the problem is no more.
       I only ended up listening at length to the two relatives who had
       already started in on me before I wrote the original post.
       The way I avoided being lectured by other relatives over the
       phone was by mentioning that two other relatives (whom I left
       unnamed) had fussed at me - before I mentioned Fred's
       experience. That set the tone for the remaining relatives to be
       sympathetic. After all, I was telling them I'd felt attacked, so
       it sort of set up an expectation that of course they'd be
       lecturing me.
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       Re: Preemptive strike? (Trying to avoid lectures from relatives)
   DIR By: TootsNYC
       Date: August 17, 2020, 12:26 pm
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       That's a smart move, I think!
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       Re: Preemptive strike? (Trying to avoid lectures from relatives)
   DIR By: Hanna
       Date: August 18, 2020, 6:10 am
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       That’s a good update.
       I really like the phrase “I’m going to stop you there.” For
       interrupting someone that needs interruption due to content.
       So you can also say “I’m going to stop you there. I’m not going
       to discuss Fred’s actions today. It’s a topic that’s been done
       to death for me.” Or whatever.
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