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#Post#: 52838--------------------------------------------------
Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: Rho Date: June 8, 2020, 10:47 pm
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This is an akward situation for me so I will ask your opinions.
Several gifts were sent to my nieces three children recently.
I packed up and mailed baby clothes; she politely sent a
wonderful paper Thank You--postmarked June 3.
Meanwhile I ordered two items for her new baby from a online
store. I looked at the site yesterday and it claims one item
was delivered May 26 and one is still on order (grrrr).
I wonder if the May 26 item was really delivered to her front
stoop but hate to contact her as if I'm fishing for another
Thank You note.
Should I e-mail her explaining it's akward but I want to be sure
the kick@ss personalized item I ordered did indeed arrive?
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Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: Aleko Date: June 9, 2020, 3:05 am
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Yes, I think you should. You can slip in a mention of having
received her delightful thank-you for the first item, just to
make clear that you aren't accusing her of not doing her social
duty. At a time when mail and delivery services are all over the
place, it's 100% legit and reasonable to warn someone to expect
a parcel, and ask them just to send an email as soon as it
arrives safely (rather than a lovely letter which might take
just as long to reach you).
My DH ordered a present for me from the USA in what should in
ordinary times have been plenty of time for my birthday; it took
four weeks for the carriers to move it between Albuquerque and
LA, and another fIve days to arrive at our local post office. He
watched its progress on the carriers's site so at least he knew
it was on its way, however slowly. But if he had ordered it for
some other family member at another address, and hadn't had a
tracker site for it, he would have been left wondering if it had
arrived weeks ago and the recipient just hadn't bothered to send
thanks, or had sent them by snail mail and that response was
also stuck in the post.
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Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: Dazi Date: June 9, 2020, 4:23 am
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Yes, just let her know that you want to confirm that she got the
item since it was a mail order item. Sometimes things go astray.
Last month I had an order that stated it was hand delivered to
me, but it was delivered across town. Had I not been the one to
order it, I would have had NO IDEA. I actually got into a slight
argument with the company because it showed it was hand
delivered until I flat out told them I wouldn't have opened the
door no matter what since I was positive for covid-19 and
quarantined.
#Post#: 52841--------------------------------------------------
Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: Rose Red Date: June 9, 2020, 6:36 am
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Yes, kindly say something. The package can get lost, delivered
to another address, or stolen.
#Post#: 52843--------------------------------------------------
Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: DaDancingPsych Date: June 9, 2020, 7:55 am
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I agree with the others. Ask about the package and stress that
it is out of concern that it may not have been delivered. I
would also mention that a second one is coming so that she knows
to watch for it. I love the idea of mentioning the lovely thank
you note as it seems to help focus the message that you are
sending (confirmation of the delivery and not a demand for
thanks.)
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Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: VorFemme Date: June 9, 2020, 8:52 am
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Last year, I ordered some purple plaid linen (end of the bolt)
and it was marked "delivered" but the location it was "delivered
to was some five miles away (wrong intersection). I contacted
the post office by phone twice, ran in to the usual mail man at
the mailbox & mentioned it again (after I'd contacted the
company about a smaller remnant that was the last of the fabric
that they had - no more available - but not quite enough for the
project "as planned"). The usual mailman went looking around (I
told him were it had been delivered - intersection of two other
streets) and he tracked it down and it was in my mail box a day
or two later. I tend to try to stay on top of things that I'm
expecting...especially when it is something that is not still in
production.
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Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: kckgirl Date: June 9, 2020, 9:29 am
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I agree with everybody else that you should contact her. I sent
a wedding gift from a registry once and asked them to deliver it
to the bride. She didn't know who sent it. They didn't include
anything in the package to tell her, and she was hoping someone
would ask her about it.
Sometimes the people who receive misdirected packages don't know
where they belong. My friend got a computer circuit board
delivered to her that she didn't order. Another lady on my Next
Door app got a package with someone else's name and her address
on it.
#Post#: 52850--------------------------------------------------
Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: Hmmm Date: June 9, 2020, 11:11 am
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I agree that you can email. I'd go with a "Hi, was checking
status of the order from kids store. I see that one was
delivered on 26 May but the other items is on backorder. I'll
let you know when I get an update on shipping schedule so you
can be on the lookout for it."
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Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: Moviefan Date: June 10, 2020, 12:48 am
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[quote author=VorFemme link=topic=1743.msg52844#msg52844
date=1591710771]
Last year, I ordered some purple plaid linen (end of the bolt)
and it was marked "delivered" but the location it was "delivered
to was some five miles away (wrong intersection). I contacted
the post office by phone twice, ran in to the usual mail man at
the mailbox & mentioned it again (after I'd contacted the
company about a smaller remnant that was the last of the fabric
that they had - no more available - but not quite enough for the
project "as planned"). The usual mailman went looking around (I
told him were it had been delivered - intersection of two other
streets) and he tracked it down and it was in my mail box a day
or two later. I tend to try to stay on top of things that I'm
expecting...especially when it is something that is not still in
production.
[/quote]
I'm impressed with your letter carrier! Excellent service on his
part.
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Re: Did you receive the gift huh? huh? huh?
By: Gellchom Date: June 12, 2020, 3:12 pm
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Ordinarily I'd say no, but in this case you did get a nice note
from her, so it gives you some breathing space. I'd still be
super tactful about it, though. Referencing her sweet note for
the other gift is a good idea, I agree. Maybe something like,
"Let me know when the personalized gredunza arrives -- I hope
you like it" or something like that. You'll find some way of
making sure that it's clear you aren't chastising them for not
writing sooner. It really hasn't been THAT long, anyway.
Maybe, "By the way, I got a notice that the personalized
gredunza was delivered, so if it wasn't, please let me know so I
can follow up." Not mentioning WHEN you had been told it was
delivered might help a bit. And for sure I would include this
as an oh-by-the-way in a longer message, not a message only
about the gift.
As others have noted, sometimes there is no enclosure saying who
a gift is from. My daughter lives overseas and just set up a
registry; she is having her baby gifts sent to our home in the
US for us to bring when we come. I was surprised that two of
the four packages that have come so far had no enclosure saying
who sent it. She is able to find out from her registry. In
both cases, they were separately shipped parts of orders; the
other parts had come with an enclosure. One time one shipment
was from an independent retailer, the other time both were from
Amazon. So it does seem that it is becoming more common for
mistakes to happen with enclosures and delivery addresses,
perhaps because the merchants are getting overwhelmed right now
when everyone is ordering instead of shopping.
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