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Concern with receiving thank you note from previous quarantined
residence
By: Hmmm Date: June 8, 2020, 2:16 pm
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Forgot the link.
HTML https://www.uexpress.com/miss-manners/2020/6/8/thanking-people-from-a-safe-non-contagious
The first letter in Miss Manners, the LW's home had been hit
with Covid-19 and were quarantined for 32 days. They received
much help with food delivery and meals from friends and family.
LW was holding off on sending out thank you notes due to concern
others would be afraid to receive something in the mail but was
concerned about waiting 2 months to formally thank friends and
family.
She posed the concern to a friend who told her he thought she
should only use electronic communication as no one would be
comfortable receiving something from them.
I know people have different levels of concern. I personally
wouldn't want a hand delivered note from an actively infected
household. But I would not have any qualms about getting a note
2 or 3 weeks delivered through the mail after their family
quarantine was lifted. I know friends who've had the flu or
other infectious decease has sent thank you notes out once well.
Miss Manners seemed to recommend in a round about way, doing a
"virtual visit" to thank in person instead of mailing a card.
What would your preference be? A emailed or texted thank you, a
phone call, a mailed card, or the virtual visit? Or is there
another option? I am one of the odd ones who feels just as
thanked if I receive it via email or text or phone call, so I go
with that option. The virtual visit is probably my least
favorite way but I don't like Facetiming or other video
interactions. Did it too much with work about 6 years ago and
done with video meetings and chats.
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Re: Concern with receiving thank you note from previous quaranti
ned residence
By: Mrs Rat Date: June 8, 2020, 3:44 pm
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As far as I'm concerned a thank you is appreciated however it is
done.
I think maybe in this case if they are concerned about mailing
out thank you's they can do it by phone or e-mail now and follow
up with a nice card in the future when things have calmed down
for them.
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Re: Concern with receiving thank you note from previous quaranti
ned residence
By: DaDancingPsych Date: June 8, 2020, 4:14 pm
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I am with Mrs Rat. In the moment, I would probably send an
informal thank you. A text acknowledging the groceries. A phone
call to express my appreciation for the favor. Then at the end
of it all, I may write more formal notes thanking people for
their assistance during the time and celebrating that I would
not have made it through it without their help.
We have all continued to receive mail and there's a possibility
that someone connected to the virus has handled something that
we have received. I am sure that we have all found ways of
dealing with the mail that allows for our comfort. For me, my
guest half bath (which isn't seeing any visitors) is just off my
front door. So, all outside items go in their to be quarantined
for a few days. This includes the mail. I would probably handle
this letter like I do any other. Maybe it might sit in there a
few extra days, but I'm not even sure that I would go that far.
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Re: Concern with receiving thank you note from previous quaranti
ned residence
By: Aleko Date: June 8, 2020, 4:45 pm
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It's also perfectly easy, if one is worried, to give any
incoming mail a squirt of virocidal spray as it lies on the mat,
then turn it over with some utensil and spray the other side.
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Re: Concern with receiving thank you note from previous quaranti
ned residence
By: Rho Date: June 8, 2020, 9:54 pm
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Somewhere it was discovered the virus lives 24 hours on paper.
All mail delivered to my house is put in a designated spot until
24 hours later.
Multiple Thank Yous would not be necessary for me. Written
either on paper or digitally would be O.K. Virtual or phone are
something I am not comfortable with but that's me.
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Re: Concern with receiving thank you note from previous quaranti
ned residence
By: lisastitch Date: June 14, 2020, 4:54 pm
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We are bringing mail in, opening it, putting the envelopes in
recycling, and then washing our hands thoroughly. I would be
more worried that a postal carrier sneezed or coughed on it than
that it still had germs from the original house.
But, to answer the original question, I'd probably use email--I
can get a thank you email that gives me warm fuzzies because the
person is clear and specific about why I'm being thanked and the
appreciation for specifically what I did, and I can get a mailed
one that leaves me cold because it's boiler-plate. ("Thanks so
much for the runner and placemats. I'm sure that we will use
them a lot. We appreciate your generosity", rather than "thanks
so much for the runner and placemats! They're the perfect
colors to go with our stoneware, and look great when they're
just sitting on the table. We're really looking forward to
entertaining in style.")
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Re: Concern with receiving thank you note from previous quaranti
ned residence
By: lowspark Date: June 23, 2020, 1:51 pm
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I think an email or phone call should be sufficient given the
circumstances.
After time passes and the quarantine is lifted, if the recipient
wants to follow up with a written note, that's also nice, but I
probably wouldn't expect it, again, given the circumstances.
If you and people in your household are/have been seriously ill,
not sending a TY note is eminently forgivable! Not something to
sweat about, that's for sure.
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