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Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: DaDancingPsych Date: May 24, 2020, 5:17 pm
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When I post something on Facebook and someone comments on it, I
always figured the polite thing to do was to acknowledge that
comment. For example, if I post of picture of me rock climbing
(HA! Yeah, that's not a thing I do) and someone comments "That's
an awesome photo!", I will post "Thanks!" or "It was taken in
Fantasyland." or "The natural light was on my good side." You
know, something to let them know that I received their comment.
If I don't know how to reply, I may just like it.
However, I have noted that with a few friends that they never
acknowledge my comments. I try to be careful that I'm not saying
something hurtful. I also try to limit my comments (I don't post
on every posts that one person makes.) Still no comment in
return and no like of mine. I don't really take it personally
(sometimes we get busy), but when there's never an
acknowledgement, I start to wonder if I'm being taken the wrong
way. I always find that those who don't reply don't reply to
ANYONE's comments. This feels rude to me. People are "saying"
things to them and they are just sitting there without any kind
of social interaction. So, what do you think the etiquette is?
Should one try to interact with their friends or is it ok to
ignore them?
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: TootsNYC Date: May 24, 2020, 5:49 pm
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I've noticed that when I look at my notifications, often I don't
need to go to the actual post to see what they wrote. In that
case, I don't always bother with the extra steps of going to
that page and scrolling down to find your comment and clicking
the "like."
The more notifications I have when I go to check, the less
likely I am to try to reply.
And a simple "thanks" just seems like clutter to me.
I do sometimes like to have a back-and-forth, but I don't think
of it as rude for someone to not do that.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: DaDancingPsych Date: May 24, 2020, 6:05 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1729.msg52298#msg52298
date=1590360582]
I've noticed that when I look at my notifications, often I don't
need to go to the actual post to see what they wrote. In that
case, I don't always bother with the extra steps of going to
that page and scrolling down to find your comment and clicking
the "like."
The more notifications I have when I go to check, the less
likely I am to try to reply.
And a simple "thanks" just seems like clutter to me.
I do sometimes like to have a back-and-forth, but I don't think
of it as rude for someone to not do that.
[/quote]
That's totally fair. I hadn't really thought that my comments
might be causing more work or clutter for the other person, but
it's an interesting perspective that might explain things.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: Gellchom Date: May 24, 2020, 6:18 pm
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It depends on what it is. Every exchange has to stop somewhere.
If someone writes something extensive and meaningful, I'm
likely to reply, and I agree with you that it might seem rude or
rude-ish not to.
But to reply individually to every single comment anyone makes,
even just a "Great job!" or "Congrats!" or "So cute!" or
something seems excessive to me. Like, if 100 people wish you
happy birthday, somewhere in there I think it's nice to say
"Wow, thanks, everyone!" or put up another post thanking
everyone who wished you happy birthday. But a separate reply to
every single one is excessive and starts to get meaningless and
even look a bit compulsive. Like writing a thank you note for a
greeting card.
Plus, every one of them will get a notification that you did it.
So if everyone did that, everyone's notification folder would
start to be as cluttered as the news feed, and I'd probably stop
bothering to check mine.
Remember that scene in that (awful, IMO) movie, Crocodile
Dundee, where the outback guy walks down a busy US city street
saying "G'day" to EVERY SINGLE PERSON he passes? That's a bit
like what it would seem like to me.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: VorFemme Date: May 25, 2020, 9:30 am
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If a close family member or friend says something about my post,
I try to recognize their input. If a random person on that
Facebook forum (as opposed to my personal page) says something,
it may depend on if it's a "like" or a question - the latter
might need follow up, the former...not so much.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: lakey Date: May 25, 2020, 11:22 am
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Couldn't this just be because some people don't go on Facebook
that much? I have accounts because sometimes people use it to
post baby pictures, and so on. DaDancingPsych mentioned that
some of the people also don't respond to others' posts, not just
hers. Maybe they just aren't on Facebook that much.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: oogyda Date: May 25, 2020, 12:34 pm
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I think it's perfectly okay to continue doing things the way
you're doing them and in a way that feels "right" to you.
While I do check my facebook account almost every day, I'm not
on it much and I don't use it for a lot of things other people
do. I'm not really even aware of it's vast capabilities. With
that in mind, I have my notifications turned off for all things
facebook related. I'll look at it when I want to. If I miss
something, oh well. There are a few people who I keep as
friends but have "unfollowed" because they post a lot and I
don't really want to see 10 or more posts of theirs when I do
look at it.
What I'm saying to the OP here is that if people feel like
you're overloading their page, they have a variety of ways to
limit what they see of yours and whether or not they get
notifications.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: BlueWave Date: May 25, 2020, 6:51 pm
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I am on Facebook for hours every day. I admin several groups and
pages as well as my own timeline. I don't know if I've
overwhelmed the FB system or what, but I very often don't get
notifications for comments on posts that I started or followed,
especially once there have been several comments made. So I know
I miss responding to some comments here or there because I don't
even realize they've been made.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: lowspark Date: May 26, 2020, 8:18 am
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I'm relatively new to Facebook and when I first joined, I did
like you. I replied to or acknowledged with a Like or some other
reaction, every reply to a post I made. I realized though, that
that's not really necessary. Most people do not do that. So if
it is something that needs a reply, or if I have one naturally,
I will reply. If someone posts something extraordinarily
complimentary, I will "like" or post a reply. But mostly, I just
read them and move on. I figure people know I've read their
reply and don't necessarily need acknowledgement every time.
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Re: Facebook Comment Etiquette
By: Hmmm Date: May 26, 2020, 11:05 am
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1729.msg52334#msg52334
date=1590499102]
I'm relatively new to Facebook and when I first joined, I did
like you. I replied to or acknowledged with a Like or some other
reaction, every reply to a post I made. I realized though, that
that's not really necessary. Most people do not do that. So if
it is something that needs a reply, or if I have one naturally,
I will reply. If someone posts something extraordinarily
complimentary, I will "like" or post a reply. But mostly, I just
read them and move on. I figure people know I've read their
reply and don't necessarily need acknowledgement every time.
[/quote]
I agree with this. I don't think it is necessary to respond to
every comment. I do try to at least "like" their comments so
they know they were read, but I don't think that is necessary in
general.
You posted a photo to a large audience. A few of that audience
made a personal remark back. The conversation can then drop at
that point or continue on.
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