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       #Post#: 51676--------------------------------------------------
       Chub Rub
       By: NFPwife Date: May 14, 2020, 3:44 pm
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       Now that the catchy title caught your eye, let me tell you what
       just happened.
       There's a FB challenge about doing 25 push-ups a day for your
       mental health. With a little blurb about MH and then you
       nominate someone every day. Cousin I like, let's call her
       Leanne, posts it and nominates me. I reply that I'm doing the
       album challenge, I'll do this in a little while although it's
       not going to be push-ups because push-ups everyday are, IMO, a
       bad idea and would ruin my MH. (laughing crying emoji) I then
       added that for my MH I just bought some cute summer t-shirt
       dresses and a new pair of prescription sunglasses to wear on my
       evening walks. I figured I won't be able to go anywhere for
       vacation so I'm creating my own vacation vibe.
       Cousin who annoys me (let's call her Amanda) replies with,
       "Aren't you worried about chub rub?"
       I started to say, "Nope, because, unlike you, my thighs are
       practicing social distancing." (She's had posts and pics that
       flaunt social distancing. Memes about going the wrong way in the
       store, etc. etc.) I realized that was too snarky, so I posted,
       "Nope, my thighs are practicing social distancing." And went on
       about my business. A couple people gave that a laughing
       response.
       A couple people in the thread talked about chub rub and
       recommended products for it. Then I get a message from Michelle,
       mutual friend, that Amanda was upset with my comment and thought
       it was rude to point out that my thighs don't rub. I said,
       "Ruder than her assuming they do and asking publicly?" Nothing
       more from Michelle.
       Then, Amanda changed her comment to "I'd be worried about chub
       rub," it shows as edited and now my comment of "Nope. My thighs
       are practicing social distancing," sits under that and could be
       construed as rude. (I'm 10000% sure that Michelle had something
       to do with the change, she can't stand conflict. I'm willing to
       bet Amanda complained to her, then she reached out to me, then
       went back to Amanda with my reply. She's more meddler trying to
       make peace than flying monkey.)
       So, would you change the reply? If yes, what would you say? I'm
       tempted to leave it because Amanda is on my nerves, but I
       realize that's probably my irritation talking so I'll let your
       cooler heads prevail.
       #Post#: 51682--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Chub Rub
       By: bopper Date: May 14, 2020, 4:15 pm
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       I think what you said was fine.  You are talking about
       yourself...and it even if your thighs normally touch, you are
       making a joke.
       It is more strange that she brought the topic up.
       #Post#: 51685--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Chub Rub
       By: gramma dishes Date: May 14, 2020, 4:17 pm
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       I think your response was funny and it still is even though she
       changed her original post.   I would just drop it.
       #Post#: 51686--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Chub Rub
       By: TootsNYC Date: May 14, 2020, 4:45 pm
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       I might go change it to something like, "I'm lucky, my thighs
       are..."
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       Re: Chub Rub
       By: Hanna Date: May 14, 2020, 4:51 pm
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       I think people are touchier than ever!
       Your response was funny!!!
       #Post#: 51694--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Chub Rub
       By: Pattycake Date: May 14, 2020, 5:27 pm
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       your response was funny! I'd leave it. Least said and all that.
       #Post#: 51697--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Chub Rub
       By: LurkingGurl Date: May 14, 2020, 5:31 pm
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       I would unfriend Amanda, delete her comment and then set my
       computer on fire!
       Or wait.  Maybe I would change my response to "You probably
       should be.  I'm not!!!"  [emoji48]
       Geez!  So much drama!
       But seriously, I would just delete her comment and any other
       comment that mentioned "chub rub."
       This pandemic has been really difficult for everyone.  And
       you're trying to do something for your MH that eases that
       stress.  You don't need to be even thinking about "chub rub" or,
       honestly, any other negative thing posted by some nincompoop on
       your FB feed!
       And the fact that you actually received a phone call about the
       benign comment you made?
       OMG!  That's where I would just feel like setting my computer on
       fire.
       
       No matter how much we progress technologically, there will
       always be someone who just has to crap on our party.
       Unless you enjoy her presence on your FB in other ways, there is
       no rudeness in unfriending her.  She's being a drag.
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       Re: Chub Rub
       By: Winterlight Date: May 14, 2020, 11:02 pm
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       Amanda sounds like a pill, and she's rude to boot. Michelle is
       her flying monkey. Leave it as is, I'd see her comment and think
       she's a jerk and you're funny.
       #Post#: 51722--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Chub Rub
       By: Twik Date: May 15, 2020, 9:11 am
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       I'm sorry - "chub rub"? Is Amanda trying to imply that OP is too
       fat to walk without skin damage? And then sends a flying monkey
       to try to further shame her?
       Oh no, Amanda. No.
       #Post#: 51726--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Chub Rub
       By: oogyda Date: May 15, 2020, 10:17 am
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       I just don't see how doing push ups is going to prevent chub
       rub.
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