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Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy and
can't talk?
By: Hmmm Date: April 20, 2020, 11:03 am
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My two sisters who will always answer their phone even when it
is inconvenient. I seldom (i.e. maybe once every 10 years) have
emergencies that would require any of them to immediately
confirm my call wasn't an emergency. Now that I am contacting
them at least daily this habit of theirs is bugging me more.
Sis 1 lives alone and during the quarantine enjoys chatting in
the evenings. I try to call when I think she's available but 3
times in this weekend she'd answer to just say "What's up?" and
when I said just calling to chat she'd respond that she was "at
the drive thru", "watching a movie" or "outside chatting with
her neighbor" and each time said she'd call me back. I would
prefer she just not answer my call because by answering it makes
me feel like I am interrupting and it takes up more time than me
just hanging up or leaving a message.
Sis 2 is handicapped and lives with her husband. She also will
answer her call. Yesterday when I called she said she'd just
finished showering and was drying her hair. The day before she
said her husband had just served her breakfast.
Do other's feel the need to always answer their phone? Do you
prefer your call be answered? Does anyone else find this
annoying.
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: STiG Date: April 20, 2020, 11:33 am
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Depends on who it is and what is going on. At home: If I'm
expecting a call about something important, I'll answer. If it
turns out it isn't important, I'll ask if i can call them back.
If I'm not expecting a call, I'll let it go to voicemail and
call them back. Out and about and/or in the car: I let it go
to voicemail and call them back unless it is someone I have been
trying to reach and/or it is one of my Dad's caregivers.
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: sandisadie Date: April 20, 2020, 11:40 am
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I also think it depends who is calling and what I'm doing when
the phone rings. I don't usually carry my phone around with me
unless I'm expecting a call. But, for instance, if I was
carrying on a conversation with someone and the phone is ringing
and ringing then I'd answer it and say I'd call back or they
could call back, depending on who it is.
#Post#: 50649--------------------------------------------------
Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: Luci Date: April 20, 2020, 11:56 am
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No, I don’t answer the phone if I am busy. Everyone knows about
voice mail by now, so I check as soon as I can for voice mail.
I rarely call other people just to chat, and then I ask if they
are busy or have time to talk. A lot of people feel compelled to
answer the phone and it does kind of annoy me. The thing I
really don’t understand is why people insist on justifying .
Just, "I'm busy, but I’ll get back to you." I really don’t want
to hear that you are cleaning the hamster cage.
[quote author=sandisadie link=topic=1688.msg50647#msg50647
date=1587400822]
I also think it depends who is calling and what I'm doing when
the phone rings. I don't usually carry my phone around with me
unless I'm expecting a call. But, for instance, if I was
carrying on a conversation with someone and the phone is ringing
and ringing then I'd answer it and say I'd call back or they
could call back, depending on who it is.
[/quote]
I carry my phone for my own needs to call for help, but I don’t
answer it.
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: jpcher Date: April 20, 2020, 12:00 pm
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About a hundred years ago ;) when I was small (don't remember
what age) and wasn't allowed to answer the phone, when it would
ring I would get all excited and run out to the back yard (or
wherever my parents were) and yell "Phone is ringing!"
My father told me that "The phone is there for my convenience. I
don't need to answer it if I don't want to." (This was before
answering machines.)
I hold true to that comment still today. If I'm busy, leave a
message. I'll call you back when I have time.
I'm not going to be tied to my phone and drop everything every
time it rings.
Luci -- you posted while I was typing. ;D
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: BlueWave Date: April 20, 2020, 12:54 pm
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I hate voice mail with a passion, esp when the message is just,
"call me back." So yes, in my core group of friends and family,
I'll answer and say I'm busy and will call them back in [x]
amount of time. That's easier and takes a lot less time than
wading thru the voicemail system to hear a 1 sec message. For
everyone outside of that core group (which is about 8 people),
I'll let them leave a message or I'll reject the call and text
them right away that I'll call when I'm available.
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: Soop Date: April 20, 2020, 1:22 pm
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Unless it's from someone that I know must talk to urgently, no,
never. They can leave a voicemail or text me or I might, without
a message, just call them back if I want to talk to them.
My family, especially, my brother are very, very good at calling
during meals, no matter what time of day we are eating. It's a
like a sixth sense with them. I refuse to answer while eating.
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: April 20, 2020, 1:23 pm
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It depends. Generally, I would let it go to voice mail.
But with everything going on right now, if my father calls, I am
going to answer it because I don't want to listen to the voice
mail an hour from now to hear him say that the ambulance is
taking him to the hospital. So if he (or another close family
member) calls, I will answer, make certain that it isn't
anything dire, and then say quickly that I will have to get back
to them.
Although, considering that my father is 89 years old, I would
answer no matter the circumstance, just to eliminate the
possibility of anything bad happening.
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: lisastitch Date: April 20, 2020, 1:36 pm
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I generally don't answer my phone if it's at an inconvenient
time. it's not that hard to get to my voicemail, so I'd rather
finish up what up whatever I'm doing, check the voice mail, and
call back. There are a few people whose calls I probably would
take just to be sure there isn't an emergency. Somehow, it
seems harder to interrupt what I'm doing, answer the phone to
say, "I'm really busy right now. Can I call you back?", finish
up what I'm doing, and return the call than to let it go to
voice mail.
Everyone seems to have their own preferences, so I'd probably
just try to be really clear that I'd rather you not answer if
you're busy. Of course, then we have to remember people's
preferences!
Just don't take it personally when someone says, "I can't talk
now".
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Re: Do you answer calls when you are busy to just say your busy
and can't talk?
By: lowspark Date: April 20, 2020, 3:09 pm
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Only if it's one of my kids calling. And only because they
normally text so if they are calling, it's possibly, though not
necessarily, important.
These days, though, I'm by myself and human contact is a hugely
high priority for me so I'll interrupt almost anything for a
phone call or FaceTime call from a friend. I don't tell them
that, though. I just put other stuff aside and enjoy the chat.
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