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Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: Kimberami
Date: May 18, 2018, 6:34 pm
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Hello All.
My DD14 has joined a school group that focuses on etiquette. The
goal of the group is to prepare the young ladies for their 12th
grade cotillion. There are several events planned for the
summer. The first one is an afternoon tea party. My daughter is
excited, and we plan to start shopping this weekend.
The dress code given to us was a sundress, tea gloves, and a
hat. I have been looking online to get an idea of what would be
appropriate attire. With the royal wedding this weekend, every
hat suggestion I've found has been a fascinator. Is this right
for a tea party. She's afraid of looking like either a little
girl playing dress up or an "old lady." She specifically wants a
knee length dress. Does anyone have any suggestions? Any help
would be greatly appreciated.
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: May 18, 2018, 6:51 pm
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--- Quote from: Kimberami link ---
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> Hello All.
> My DD14 has joined a school group that focuses on etiquette.
The goal of the group is to prepare the young ladies for their
12th grade cotillion. There are several events planned for the
summer. The first one is an afternoon tea party. My daughter is
excited, and we plan to start shopping this weekend.
> The dress code given to us was a sundress, tea gloves, and a
hat. I have been looking online to get an idea of what would be
appropriate attire. With the royal wedding this weekend, every
hat suggestion I've found has been a fascinator. Is this right
for a tea party. She's afraid of looking like either a little
girl playing dress up or an "old lady." She specifically wants a
knee length dress. Does anyone have any suggestions? Any help
would be greatly appreciated.
>
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Wow, my DD (and DS) went through similar at that age and I don't
remember a hat being a requirement.
I think hat style (and those in the UK would be better than me)
depends on if the party is a garden party or an indoor party. If
garden party, more of a floppy wide brimmed hat would seem
appropriate like this.
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But if indoors, I'd probably go with a fascinator like this
HTML https://www.amazon.com/Flower-Cocktail-Headwear-Feather-Fascinators/dp/B06ZZP99N3/ref=cts_ap_1_vtp?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=76154825667896829&pf_rd_r=3902a79c-5af6-11e8-a613-b9d9bb0a92af&pd_rd_wg=v1xx2&pf_rd_s=desktop-detail-softlines&pf_rd_t=40701&pd_rd_i=B01JE3DCL2&pd_rd_w=sQG7V&pf_rd_i=desktop-detail-softlines&pd_rd_r=3902a79c-5af6-11e8-a613-b9d9bb0a92af&_encoding=UTF8
I hope she has fun. My DD loved it and my son says he tolerated
it, but the photos and videos of them at the formal dances and
dinners show he actually had a pretty good time.
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: guest260
Date: May 18, 2018, 6:54 pm
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--- Quote from: Kimberami link ---
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> Hello All.
> My DD14 has joined a school group that focuses on etiquette.
The goal of the group is to prepare the young ladies for their
12th grade cotillion. There are several events planned for the
summer. The first one is an afternoon tea party. My daughter is
excited, and we plan to start shopping this weekend.
> The dress code given to us was a sundress, tea gloves, and a
hat. I have been looking online to get an idea of what would be
appropriate attire. With the royal wedding this weekend, every
hat suggestion I've found has been a fascinator. Is this right
for a tea party. She's afraid of looking like either a little
girl playing dress up or an "old lady." She specifically wants a
knee length dress. Does anyone have any suggestions? Any help
would be greatly appreciated.
>
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So I would try pin up and vintage websites - pin up girl
clothing etc. they’re usually your best bet for a hat that’s
suitable for afternoon tea, rather than a races-style
fascinator. You’ll also get some great knee length dresses and
skirts on there.
I would personally not go for a feather-y fascinate type thing
for afternoon tea, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong per se. I’d
be looking for something closer to a veiled cloche, or a beret.
Some IG accounts might give you a good idea of what to look for,
someone like vintage vandalizm or rachelannjensen?
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: jazzgirl205
Date: May 19, 2018, 11:54 am
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I would choose a picture hat that matches her shoes or her
sundress. My mother, who used to make my Summer dresses, would
buy me an inexpensive straw hat and make hatbands to match my
dresses. A white picture hat, white shoes, and a white handbag
would look quite sophisticated with most pastel sundresses.
Most department stores carry attractive hats. Take your
daughter with you so you can be sure the hat is something she
likes. Remind her that hats look best worn toward the front of
the head and tilted slightly. I'm sure she'll have a great time
at the tea party. :D
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: Thitpualso
Date: May 20, 2018, 1:30 pm
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May I ask what are considered ‘Tea gloves’? I assume they’re
wrist-length and white but I could be wrong. Should they be
made of solid material? Would a crocheted pair be acceptable?
I remember that, in my youth, the only acceptable colors for
women’s gloves were white, pale grey, black or (perhaps) tan.
Pastel pink gloves with a pink dress would have been considered
not quite respectable.
I agree that, for a young lady, a straw hat with a fairly wide
brim would be both practical and appropriate. It’s always
possible to decorate it with a ribbon and an artificial flower
or two. A modest straw fedora worn at the angle suggested by an
earlier poster could also work.
I hope your daughter has a wonderful time at the party.
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: Kimberami
Date: May 20, 2018, 2:30 pm
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Thanks for the help. She and I went shopping today. We went with
a white sun hat, teal knee length sundress, and a simple pair of
white gloves. I might be biased, but she looks absolutely
adorable.
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: Pattycake
Date: May 20, 2018, 6:30 pm
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Well, she's certainly going to look a lot smarter and more
appropriate than me, my friend, and her 16 yo daughter tomorrow!
LOL! They are coming over for "tea" tomorrow afternoon. We will
have tea and scones, and little spiral sandwiches and raspberry
shortcake, and will probably be wearing shorts and runners and
summer tops. No hats or gloves, that's for sure! Hope she has a
wonderful time.
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: RevMaxx
Date: May 20, 2018, 9:44 pm
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I just loved knowing that there are still cotillions! bless
my heart.
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: andi
Date: May 21, 2018, 10:01 pm
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> I just loved knowing that there are still cotillions! bless
my heart.
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Me too!! I want to go!
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Re: Afternoon Tea Party Attire
DIR By: betty
Date: May 21, 2018, 11:28 pm
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My son went to a cotillion class. It was maybe 8 sessions,
culminating in a dinner dance. The goal was for the young men
and ladies to learn manners (table manners, handshaking, how to
act at an interview, etc.) and enough dancing to be comfortable
in a more formal setting.
I remember chatting with an instructor and saying that I thought
it was a little funny that the girls had to wear gloves. She
told me the main reason was so that no one had to worry about
sweaty, clammy hands when holding hands for dancing! The girls
had the gloves, the boys would be holding the gloves. Brilliant!
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