DIR Return Create A Forum - Home
---------------------------------------------------------
Bad Manners and Brimstone
HTML https://badmanners.createaforum.com
---------------------------------------------------------
*****************************************************
DIR Return to: Life in General
*****************************************************
#Post#: 47709--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: Sycorax
Date: February 21, 2020, 1:34 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
Cake pops are pretty small, I don't think I'd have trouble
carrying 2 along with 2 drinks, especially if they were wrapped
like lollipops.
#Post#: 47743--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: Dr. F.
Date: February 21, 2020, 11:11 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
"Oh, are you having a cake pop? Cool! I'll go get one or two for
myself."
* On second thought, might rephrase as "Are there cake pops
available? etc. etc."
#Post#: 47773--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: Limmershin
Date: February 22, 2020, 2:30 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
--- Quote from: Amara link ---
>
> I just don't believe there was a man or a date. I am of the
opinion that she made this up to sell books because it's too
convenient, right? It's Valentine's Day, she writes romance, the
coffee shop had these heart-shaped cakes, she goes on Twitter
and gets it retweeted all over.
>
--- End Quote ---
And Kimpossible writes: "The fact that she used the situation to
plug her books makes me suspect of the entire situation."
Or -- alternative situation -- maybe it's true; and the man
hoped to do her a good turn by providing inspiration for her,
for a new romance novel: beginning with date where the hero acts
boorishly in just this way -- heroine initially writes him off
as a hopeless oaf, but in the course of the narrative, his
sterling qualities progressively become more apparent, and the
ending is true-love-and-hearts-and-flowers. (With an outside
possibility that the real Mr. Two-Cake-Pops might, via his kind
inspiration-type favour done, win the author's heart in real
life.)
#Post#: 47781--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: chigger
Date: February 22, 2020, 4:43 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
--- Quote from: Amara link ---
>
> I just don't believe there was a man or a date. I am of the
opinion that she made this up to sell books because it's too
convenient, right? It's Valentine's Day, she writes romance, the
coffee shop had these heart-shaped cakes, she goes on Twitter
and gets it retweeted all over.
>
--- End Quote ---
Yep, no date, no man! Don't believe it in the least!
#Post#: 47789--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: andi
Date: February 22, 2020, 10:26 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
--- Quote from: Jayhawk link ---
>
> I think after he asked her what she wanted to drink and she
answered, he should've said something like, "I'm getting myself
a cake pop, would you like one, too or something else to eat?"
>
--- End Quote ---
This.
#Post#: 48471--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: Victoria
Date: March 10, 2020, 1:16 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
--- Quote from: SioCat link ---
>
> I would have just spoken up. One of those cake pops is for me,
right. Maybe he just had a brain blip and this lets him fix it.
>
--- End Quote ---
I think that we're in a sort of etiquette loop here. It's rude
of him to not offer her a cake pop but it's also rude to point
out the rudeness of others, and saying "That's for me, right?"
or "Is that for me?" gives him really no other choice but to
give her one of them.
#Post#: 48472--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: LurkingGurl
Date: March 10, 2020, 1:54 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
--- Quote from: Victoria link ---
>
> [quote author=SioCat link=topic=1640.msg47706#msg47706
date=1582312377]
> I would have just spoken up. One of those cake pops is for me,
right. Maybe he just had a brain blip and this lets him fix it.
>
--- End Quote ---
I think that we're in a sort of etiquette loop here. It's rude
of him to not offer her a cake pop but it's also rude to point
out the rudeness of others, and saying "That's for me, right?"
or "Is that for me?" gives him really no other choice but to
give her one of them.
[/quote]
If she doesn't ask then she is assuming that he's being rude.
If anything, she is giving him the chance to be decent.
Also, it's not always rude to point out someone's rudeness.
#Post#: 50747--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: Chez Miriam
Date: April 22, 2020, 10:33 am
---------------------------------------------------------
My take was romantic novelists spend their entire working lives
writing about people who cannot communicate with each other, and
not saying what they mean/meaning what they say, hearing what
the person said but interpreting it to mean the opposite...
Lather, rinse, repeat.
My guess (if indeed there was a date):
Bloke: "What can I get you?"
Author: <oh, I don't want him to think I'm greedy, better not
ask for Death by Chocolate, with extra cream and extra caramel
sauce, although I'm really hungry and the thought alone is
making me salivate; I hope I don't drip drool all over this
table> "Oh, I'll just have a skinny latte, thanks"
Bloke: "Are you sure?"
Author: <is he hinting that I eat too much? Does he think I'm
fat? OMG, what do I do?!?!!!> "Yes, I couldn't eat a thing!"
But perhaps* I have read too much romantic fiction? I'm not
great at the mindreading thing where you are "supposed" to press
a person to "go on, have a piece of cake" however many times it
is before they are "allowed" to say "yes, please", so I tend to
assume an adult** knows if they need/want cake. Or not.
I suspect she wouldn't have got so much press if she'd tweeted:
"guy asked me what I wanted, I said no to cake but yes to
coffee, and he didn't get me any cake. Wah!!!!".
Maybe he did only ask what she wanted to drink, but most times I
meet up with anyone it's a bit of "what would you like?", "are
you having any food?", "I've just eaten lunch, but if you wanted
cake I wouldn't force you eat it alone", "well, I wasn't sure
about cake, but if we both had some, neither of us would feel
guilty". The thing of "I would like to be led astray and have
cake, but if you have willpower, I will dig mine out and dust it
off (so please say you want cake)".
Would she have complained if he'd had two types of side-salad
and ate them both?
* I have: there are a few authors I find write well, but every
time I'm wading through dross I promise myself I will
never.do.this.again... And yet, just like the "heroines" that
irritate me so much, I do not learn! ;) ;D
** With one small blip, when I was 17, I have only ever dated
adults. [And once someone told me the gym-bodied 6' hunk with 5
o'clock shadow was 14 that nascent relationship was jettisoned
like a hot stone!! :o :o]
#Post#: 51020--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Is one of those treats for me, dear date ?"
DIR By: peony
Date: April 28, 2020, 8:22 am
---------------------------------------------------------
I think if he came back with two pops, there is the reasonable
assumption that he meant to give one to her. I wouldn't fault
her for feeling bad not being offered one.
*****************************************************
Page 3 of 3
DIR Previous Page