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Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info online
By: Hanna Date: February 16, 2020, 10:33 am
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DH was googling to find the name of a company where a former
coworker, Alex, works. They are more than acquaintances but
don't talk frequently. They have nown each other 10 years. Went
through the hard times together - divorce, raising teens, etc.
Not close now but have lunch or drinks out occasionally, usually
with a group and if we have a big party Alex is invited.
By just searching friends name DH found his kids' youtube
channels on page 1 of results, front and center was a video his
DD made talking about having been assaulted and never telling
anyone. Sounds like it was made for Mental Health Awareness
Month.
His inclination and mine is that this is not our business to
pass along. But we both agree we would want to know if it was
our child.
What are your thoughts?
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: Copper Horsewoman Date: February 16, 2020, 12:19 pm
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How old is this child? If an adult, BYOB. If a minor, I would
mention, in a general way, that monitoring ones' children's
online presence is a good idea. If then caught out, admit that
you ran across it while searching for something else. (Certainly
true!)
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: Jem Date: February 16, 2020, 12:21 pm
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I would stay out of it. It isn’t your DH’s information to share.
The daughter has reached out as she feels comfortable. I would
hate for your DH’s well meaning comments to cause additional
pain for her.
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: Hanna Date: February 16, 2020, 4:12 pm
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She’s college age. I agree with you JEM
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: SioCat Date: February 16, 2020, 4:27 pm
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If it were my child, I’d like them to tell me when they were
comfortable and ready.
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: Isisnin Date: February 16, 2020, 5:37 pm
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Hopefully the daughter told her parents before she discussed it
on Youtube.
And most probably people have already told the parents. How old
the video?
I agree with you Hanna and your husband. The information is not
yours to pass on.
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: Rose Red Date: February 16, 2020, 6:15 pm
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[quote author=Isisnin link=topic=1636.msg47428#msg47428
date=1581896234]
Hopefully the daughter told her parents before she discussed it
on Youtube.
[/quote]
I was thinking the same thing. Since it's for an awareness
message in such a public website, Alex may already know about
his children's channels.
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: Winterlight Date: February 16, 2020, 7:27 pm
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I wouldn't bring it up. If Alex is aware, it's going to be hard
to talk about. If he's not aware, then DH bringing it up will be
awkward as heck.
Also, "I never told anyone" may mean that she didn't tell at the
time it happened.
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: Hanna Date: February 16, 2020, 9:15 pm
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I don't know why we didn't think about her having told him when
the video was posted.
I hope that is the case.
Thanks everyone.
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Re: Trigger warning sexual assault - Accidentally found info onl
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By: NFPwife Date: February 17, 2020, 9:47 am
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I agree with Winterlight, the "I didn't tell anyone" might be
that she didn't tell anyone at the time or could mean that she
didn't pursue legal intervention.
I think just acting as if your DH never saw this is the way
forward.
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