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#Post#: 47165--------------------------------------------------
"I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: TeamBhakta Date: February 11, 2020, 6:29 pm
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Per a Reddit post, a wedding guest brought her own photographer
to a friend's wedding. Miss Wedding Guest wanted pics for
Instagram. Her boyfriend was a plus one; the photographer was
her second (and unauthorized) plus one. The bride let the
photographer stay, but wasn't happy about it. How would you
handle a guest like that, if it was your wedding ?
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#Post#: 47166--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: kckgirl Date: February 11, 2020, 6:37 pm
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I would tell her the photographer cannot stay. If she put up a
fuss, I'd ask them all to leave.
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Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: Soop Date: February 12, 2020, 7:30 am
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The letter writer mentioned the bride let it go, because she
didn't want to create drama. Maybe I have a twisted sense of
humour, but I'd be fine with creating that kind of drama. Would
be a story to tell for years. I have no crazy stories from my
wedding.
#Post#: 47186--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: Hmmm Date: February 12, 2020, 7:54 am
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Oh, hell no. As the bride I might not be the one to confront the
friend but you can bet I'd be getting a sister, mother, aunt or
someone to tell the friend that she was confused. It wasn't her
wedding day but the couple's wedding day and if she wanted to
use their wedding as a prop for her social media pages then she
could pony up some money to pay for the event or else decide to
take her photos at a different location or dismiss her employee
for the day.
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Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: lowspark Date: February 12, 2020, 7:58 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1628.msg47186#msg47186
date=1581515676]
Oh, hell no. As the bride I might not be the one to confront the
friend but you can bet I'd be getting a sister, mother, aunt or
someone to tell the friend that she was confused. It wasn't her
wedding day but the couple's wedding day and if she wanted to
use their wedding as a prop for her social media pages then she
could pony up some money to pay for the event or else decide to
take her photos at a different location or dismiss her employee
for the day.
[/quote]
Yup. I'd get someone else (as bride, I wouldn't want to be
dealing with it personally) to quietly and politely show them
the door.
All one would need to do is say to the guest, "bring your
photographer and bf, there's something I'd like to show you
outside." Then, after you are well out of the venue and away
from other guests, you ask them to either ditch the photographer
or all leave.
#Post#: 47201--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: TootsNYC Date: February 12, 2020, 9:43 am
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[quote author=Soop link=topic=1628.msg47183#msg47183
date=1581514224]
The letter writer mentioned the bride let it go, because she
didn't want to create drama. Maybe I have a twisted sense of
humour, but I'd be fine with creating that kind of drama. Would
be a story to tell for years. I have no crazy stories from my
wedding.
[/quote]
Back when I wrote a weddings etiquette column, I used to say,
"I"m not saying you should hope someone drops the cake on the
dance floor, but if they do, you can dine out on that story for
ages."
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Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: Kimberami Date: February 12, 2020, 10:58 am
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I don't see myself throwing the friend out of my wedding, but I
would be cutting that so called friend out of my life
afterwards. I can't even fathom the gall of usurping someone
else's special event for my own benefit.
#Post#: 47210--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: DaDancingPsych Date: February 12, 2020, 12:14 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1628.msg47201#msg47201
date=1581522224]
[quote author=Soop link=topic=1628.msg47183#msg47183
date=1581514224]
The letter writer mentioned the bride let it go, because she
didn't want to create drama. Maybe I have a twisted sense of
humour, but I'd be fine with creating that kind of drama. Would
be a story to tell for years. I have no crazy stories from my
wedding.
[/quote]
Back when I wrote a weddings etiquette column, I used to say,
"I"m not saying you should hope someone drops the cake on the
dance floor, but if they do, you can dine out on that story for
ages."
[/quote]
Hijack... Toots, I had no idea that you wrote such a column. I
would be interested in reading these (if you should ever care to
share.)
My reply... from my comfy chair, I want to say to kick that
photographer out! But really it's your wedding day and sometimes
there are more important things to worry about. But what a tacky
friend. I would still be unimpressed, but I hope that this
friend at least shared any photos that were taken, at least the
ones that included the HC.
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Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: Copper Horsewoman Date: February 12, 2020, 12:41 pm
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[quote author=kckgirl link=topic=1628.msg47166#msg47166
date=1581467848]
I would tell her the photographer cannot stay. If she put up a
fuss, I'd ask them all to leave.
[/quote]
Oh, I would get on the D.J.'s microphone, and inform the guests
that "name" has brought her own photographer for her Instagram
page, and that she will be responsible for getting image release
forms from EVERYBODY who MIGHT be in a photo posted to her page.
Also announce "influencer's" contact info AND the photographer's
contact info, so that if any images appear of guests without
permission, they should contact her for compensation.....
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Re: "I'm on Instagram. I brought my own photographer."
By: TootsNYC Date: February 12, 2020, 3:17 pm
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I would bet the photographer isn't planning to photograph anyone
else at all.
They'll be photographing our Instagrammer exclusively.
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