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Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: lowspark Date: February 11, 2020, 11:11 am
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This is sort of a tangent, but I've never really understood
keeping medicines in the bathroom. I keep mine in the kitchen.
That's where I'm gong to take them, especially if I need to
swallow something with a glass of water. I keep band-aids and
neosporin in the kitchen, too. That's where I most often need
them!
#Post#: 47144--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: JeanFromBNA Date: February 11, 2020, 2:06 pm
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1625.msg47114#msg47114
date=1581434141]
[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47066#msg47066
date=1581368950]
I also remember reading about this in a Miss Manners book from
many years ago. It's a dumb thing to do, unless you have a
history of mutual practical jokes.
Our guest bathroom medicine cabinet has Tylenol, antacids,
Benadryl, tampons, and a few other things that a guest might
need but not have. We don't keep anything private in it. All
the prescriptions, etc. are up in our bathroom off of our
bedroom. One time, a guest who was staying over with two other
guests asked if he could use our bathroom. I told him it was
fine. I was surprised when he took a shower. "Use the
bathroom" usually means the toilet and sink. I was embarrassed
because we hadn't specially cleaned our shower, or set out
towels, and he went hunting around for a towel and washcloth.
[/quote]
I'm curious about this. Do you mean they were spending the night
at your house but you weren't expecting them to take a shower
before bed or in the morning?
[/quote]
We expected them to take a shower in the full guest bathroom
where we had towels, washcloths, etc. ready for them. Because
of the low water pressure, you can't take two showers at the
same time, so they wouldn't have been able to use our shower and
the guest shower, unless they wanted to stand under a slow drip.
#Post#: 47163--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: TootsNYC Date: February 11, 2020, 5:58 pm
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If someone were staying overnight with me, and it was
morning-shower time, I'd assume that "use your bathroom" meant
the whole thing.
And if I were a visitor, I'd never think that both showers
couldn't go at once (and there's benefit in being able to shower
while someone else is toiletry-ing or toileting).
I think that aspect--an overnight visitor--threw the
communication off.
#Post#: 47175--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: Venus193 Date: February 11, 2020, 10:33 pm
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In absence of more information I think the host was way out of
line and so were the guests who were in the know and who bullied
the victim for the rest of the evening.
If that had been me I would have left and not looked back at
these people. This is middle-school nonsense.
#Post#: 47185--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: Hmmm Date: February 12, 2020, 7:49 am
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[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47144#msg47144
date=1581451575]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1625.msg47114#msg47114
date=1581434141]
[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47066#msg47066
date=1581368950]
I also remember reading about this in a Miss Manners book from
many years ago. It's a dumb thing to do, unless you have a
history of mutual practical jokes.
Our guest bathroom medicine cabinet has Tylenol, antacids,
Benadryl, tampons, and a few other things that a guest might
need but not have. We don't keep anything private in it. All
the prescriptions, etc. are up in our bathroom off of our
bedroom. One time, a guest who was staying over with two other
guests asked if he could use our bathroom. I told him it was
fine. I was surprised when he took a shower. "Use the
bathroom" usually means the toilet and sink. I was embarrassed
because we hadn't specially cleaned our shower, or set out
towels, and he went hunting around for a towel and washcloth.
[/quote]
I'm curious about this. Do you mean they were spending the night
at your house but you weren't expecting them to take a shower
before bed or in the morning?
[/quote]
We expected them to take a shower in the full guest bathroom
where we had towels, washcloths, etc. ready for them. Because
of the low water pressure, you can't take two showers at the
same time, so they wouldn't have been able to use our shower and
the guest shower, unless they wanted to stand under a slow drip.
[/quote]
Ah, thanks, didn't get that by "our bathroom" you mean your
master bath and not the guest bath.
#Post#: 47217--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: NewHomeowner Date: February 12, 2020, 1:15 pm
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1625.msg47138#msg47138
date=1581441063]
This is sort of a tangent, but I've never really understood
keeping medicines in the bathroom. I keep mine in the kitchen.
That's where I'm gong to take them, especially if I need to
swallow something with a glass of water. I keep band-aids and
neosporin in the kitchen, too. That's where I most often need
them!
[/quote]
I keep mine in a suitcase. Once a month I pull out the suitcase
and fill up 4-5 weeks' worth of daily meds, then pack it all
away again. I have a LOT of meds, and usually 3 or more months
of each.
#Post#: 47222--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: Gellchom Date: February 12, 2020, 1:45 pm
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1625.msg47185#msg47185
date=1581515358]
[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47144#msg47144
date=1581451575]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1625.msg47114#msg47114
date=1581434141]
[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47066#msg47066
date=1581368950]
I also remember reading about this in a Miss Manners book from
many years ago. It's a dumb thing to do, unless you have a
history of mutual practical jokes.
Our guest bathroom medicine cabinet has Tylenol, antacids,
Benadryl, tampons, and a few other things that a guest might
need but not have. We don't keep anything private in it. All
the prescriptions, etc. are up in our bathroom off of our
bedroom. One time, a guest who was staying over with two other
guests asked if he could use our bathroom. I told him it was
fine. I was surprised when he took a shower. "Use the
bathroom" usually means the toilet and sink. I was embarrassed
because we hadn't specially cleaned our shower, or set out
towels, and he went hunting around for a towel and washcloth.
[/quote]
I'm curious about this. Do you mean they were spending the night
at your house but you weren't expecting them to take a shower
before bed or in the morning?
[/quote]
We expected them to take a shower in the full guest bathroom
where we had towels, washcloths, etc. ready for them. Because
of the low water pressure, you can't take two showers at the
same time, so they wouldn't have been able to use our shower and
the guest shower, unless they wanted to stand under a slow drip.
[/quote]
Ah, thanks, didn't get that by "our bathroom" you mean your
master bath and not the guest bath.
[/quote]
Even so, I don't think it was so strange -- maybe if he had just
gone ahead and used the master bath without asking, or if he was
the only guest and just preferred your shower for some reason.
It sounds like you had at least three house guests and one full
guest bathroom for them. So if everyone needed to shower at
about the same time, it doesn't seem so strange to me for a
guest, if it's someone who knows you pretty well, to ask if it's
okay for him to use yours.
And I wouldn't expect him to know that it doesn't work well in
your house for both showers to be going at the same time.
I agree that this was just a failure of communication; you
didn't know he meant to shower, and he didn't realize that you
didn't. I'm curious to know what you would have said if he had
clarified that he meant to shower. Would you have told him no,
or gone in and put out towels and put away items, or what?
#Post#: 47500--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: JeanFromBNA Date: February 17, 2020, 6:12 pm
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[quote author=Gellchom link=topic=1625.msg47222#msg47222
date=1581536735]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1625.msg47185#msg47185
date=1581515358]
[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47144#msg47144
date=1581451575]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1625.msg47114#msg47114
date=1581434141]
[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47066#msg47066
date=1581368950]
I also remember reading about this in a Miss Manners book from
many years ago. It's a dumb thing to do, unless you have a
history of mutual practical jokes.
Our guest bathroom medicine cabinet has Tylenol, antacids,
Benadryl, tampons, and a few other things that a guest might
need but not have. We don't keep anything private in it. All
the prescriptions, etc. are up in our bathroom off of our
bedroom. One time, a guest who was staying over with two other
guests asked if he could use our bathroom. I told him it was
fine. I was surprised when he took a shower. "Use the
bathroom" usually means the toilet and sink. I was embarrassed
because we hadn't specially cleaned our shower, or set out
towels, and he went hunting around for a towel and washcloth.
[/quote]
I'm curious about this. Do you mean they were spending the night
at your house but you weren't expecting them to take a shower
before bed or in the morning?
[/quote]
We expected them to take a shower in the full guest bathroom
where we had towels, washcloths, etc. ready for them. Because
of the low water pressure, you can't take two showers at the
same time, so they wouldn't have been able to use our shower and
the guest shower, unless they wanted to stand under a slow drip.
[/quote]
Ah, thanks, didn't get that by "our bathroom" you mean your
master bath and not the guest bath.
[/quote]
Even so, I don't think it was so strange -- maybe if he had just
gone ahead and used the master bath without asking, or if he was
the only guest and just preferred your shower for some reason.
It sounds like you had at least three house guests and one full
guest bathroom for them. So if everyone needed to shower at
about the same time, it doesn't seem so strange to me for a
guest, if it's someone who knows you pretty well, to ask if it's
okay for him to use yours.
And I wouldn't expect him to know that it doesn't work well in
your house for both showers to be going at the same time.
I agree that this was just a failure of communication; you
didn't know he meant to shower, and he didn't realize that you
didn't. I'm curious to know what you would have said if he had
clarified that he meant to shower. Would you have told him no,
or gone in and put out towels and put away items, or what?
[/quote]
He didn't know us very well. He was a friend of a friend who
had come to town for a seminar. He was otherwise polite. If he
had asked to use our shower, I would have asked him to wait for
the the guest room shower, because we can only do one major
thing with water at a time. My husband usually tells guests
that. I'm embarrassed by the state of the shower in the master
bath; we've had problems with the grout and mildew, and it's not
fit for company. If he just wanted to use the toilet in the
master bath while someone else was showering, that would have
been fine (flushing results in low water pressure in the shower,
but it eventually recovers). I wouldn't expect him to rummage
around in cupboards and closets to find items he needs unless it
was an emergency. We leave plenty of supplies in plain sight
for our for our guest in a full guest bathroom and adjoining
bedroom. If they ask me for a different towel, or something, I'd
get it for them. Maybe I'm weird, but I think that master
bathroom storage is private.
#Post#: 47504--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: gramma dishes Date: February 17, 2020, 6:59 pm
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[quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1625.msg47500#msg47500
date=1581984761]
He didn't know us very well. He was a friend of a friend who
had come to town for a seminar. He was otherwise polite. If he
had asked to use our shower, I would have asked him to wait for
the the guest room shower, because we can only do one major
thing with water at a time. My husband usually tells guests
that. I'm embarrassed by the state of the shower in the master
bath; we've had problems with the grout and mildew, and it's not
fit for company. If he just wanted to use the toilet in the
master bath while someone else was showering, that would have
been fine (flushing results in low water pressure in the shower,
but it eventually recovers). I wouldn't expect him to rummage
around in cupboards and closets to find items he needs unless it
was an emergency. We leave plenty of supplies in plain sight
for our for our guest in a full guest bathroom and adjoining
bedroom. If they ask me for a different towel, or something, I'd
get it for them. Maybe I'm weird, but I think that master
bathroom storage is private.
[/quote]
I agree with you. First of all I would be uncomfortable hosting
someone I didn't know well overnight to begin with. And if they
asked to use my master bath, I would have assumed that they
really, really needed to pee and someone else was already using
'his' designated bathroom and therefore needed to use mine.
It would bother me a lot to have someone using my private
facilities to shower when I had specifically super cleaned the
guest bathroom and outfitted it with appropriate towels and
other amenities. I would have felt very uncomfortable indeed,
just like you!
#Post#: 47518--------------------------------------------------
Re: Party host’s booby-trapped bathroom
By: Aleko Date: February 18, 2020, 1:14 am
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Sounds to me like a man whose brain doesn't function in the
morning till he's had coffee. Didn't realise that he hadn't made
clear that he wanted your bathroom for a shower, simply didn't
think about towels till he had showered, then had no choice but
to rummage around till he found one.
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