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When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: jpcher Date: January 31, 2020, 4:46 pm
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The team at work had a big event today that we all worked long
and hard on.
It was lunchtime (I eat earlier than the rest because I come in
earlier) and Admin came to my cube saying Director is buying
(delivered) lunch for everybody as a thanks for your work on
Xproject, what would you like?
I said "Nothing, but thank you very much! I already have my
lunch" (My lunch was in the microwave, heating up.)
Admin went to the next cube and asked "What would you like?"
As they were talking I thought to myself "Why shouldn't I accept
this offer? I could take it home for dinner!"
Once Admin was finished with taking CW's order, as Admin was
going passed my cube I said "Admin, I think I changed my mind
and would very much appreciate X."
It wasn't a lunch gathering of the team, everybody ate at their
desks (still prep work for the event).
Was I rude for ordering something to take home for dinner?
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: AnnNottingham Date: January 31, 2020, 5:34 pm
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Not rude to me. Director bought the food as a thank you, and
isn't going to monitor when you actually eat it.
Think of it like a housewarming gift or a small gift when you go
to someone's home for dinner-usually a bottle of wine or box of
chocolates, that kind of thing. Is it rude if the host
graciously thanks the guest but doesn't use the gift right away?
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: Luci Date: January 31, 2020, 10:48 pm
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You earned it!
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: TootsNYC Date: February 1, 2020, 1:28 pm
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did you feel thanked? Then you’re OK
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: DaDancingPsych Date: February 2, 2020, 7:21 pm
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What if you ordered something, only ate half, but took the
remainder home? Would you feel funny about it? My guess is no.
You just happened to have leftovers to take home.
Or what if you had had a work emergency and didn't eat the food
until 3pm rather than noon? Is that ok? I would think so. You
just happened to eat "lunch" after work hours.
As long as you ordered a normal lunch like the others, I don't
see the issue as to when you eat it.
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: Hmmm Date: February 3, 2020, 7:52 am
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Nope, I think it was fine. I'm sure Director was happy that you
were able to take part.
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: lowspark Date: February 3, 2020, 9:28 am
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I would have eaten the lunch and saved my own lunch for the next
day. Or vice versa.
In any case, I wouldn't want to miss out on the offer of lunch
just because I'd brought my lunch. :)
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: Rose Red Date: February 3, 2020, 9:47 am
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1613.msg46588#msg46588
date=1580743714]
I would have eaten the lunch and saved my own lunch for the next
day. Or vice versa.
In any case, I wouldn't want to miss out on the offer of lunch
just because I'd brought my lunch. :)
[/quote]
That's what I did last Friday when they brought food for a spur
of the moment Superbowl party.
But you were fine. Think of it as a meal instead of lunch. One
person, one free meal. All good.
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: TootsNYC Date: February 3, 2020, 9:55 am
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1613.msg46588#msg46588
date=1580743714]
I would have eaten the lunch and saved my own lunch for the next
day. Or vice versa.
In any case, I wouldn't want to miss out on the offer of lunch
just because I'd brought my lunch. :)
[/quote]
Since jpcher's food was already being heated, it wouldn't really
be safe to hold it for the next day.
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Re: When someone offers to buy you lunch as a TY
By: TootsNYC Date: February 3, 2020, 9:59 am
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I think it matters that this is a big group lunch and also that
it's a thank-you from your employer, so it's really a form of
extra compensation.
If you'd helped me move (just an example), and I said I wanted
to buy you lunch, if there was any hint we'd eat together, then
you should reschedule. If I was just going to buy you a sandwich
for you to eat on your own, I think you would still need to say
to me, "Since I have lunch already, maybe I could save that
sandwich for supper." I think if you didn't say something to me,
I might actually feel a teeny bit taken advantage of, whereas if
you mentioned it, it would feel totally OK--after all, my goal
is to treat you to a meal.
There's something about not telling me that would change it
the smallest bit.
By the way, that IS what you did with the thank-you lunch from
your boss--you just rescheduled it.
I don't think you had any obligation to inform the boss about
the change in timing for the consumption of the food, though.
Especially since it's a big group like that.
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