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Re: They changed the party date
By: jpcher Date: January 28, 2020, 3:39 pm
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[quote author=QueenFaninCA link=topic=1607.msg46274#msg46274
date=1580244888]
Agree with others, not rude to change the RSVP.
Whatever the reason for the change, I think it is really rude to
change it at such short notice to an earlier date and from a
weekend to a weekday. If this Saturday really didn't work for
them, move it to the following Saturday.
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This is my thinking as well. The date should have been moved out
instead of in, giving guests more time to reschedule their time.
Since it was moved to an earlier date I would call it rude.
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Re: They changed the party date
By: Hello Ducky Date: January 28, 2020, 3:48 pm
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Normally I'd never change the date of an event for one person,
but given this is one of the grandmothers it's understandable.
That said, it's very short notice so should have been moved out
a week or so rather than closer; also, being a low-key event
it's not imperative for grandma to be there.
Now if the host/guest of honor gets an attitude about so many
people canceling because of this, that's on them. You don't get
to change things up for one person and expect everyone else to
do so as well.
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Re: They changed the party date
By: Hmmm Date: January 28, 2020, 5:18 pm
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I just wanted to come back and say that I can understand your
level of irritation. It's never fun to switch up your schedule
to accommodate an event and then have it canceled or changed.
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Re: They changed the party date
By: Candle Date: January 28, 2020, 8:00 pm
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Thank you all for responding! I'd planned on sending them a
gift for the baby if something came up and I couldn't make it,
so that's what I'll do. It's already bought and wrapped, so I
don't have to go out and get it. It's been pointed out to me
that since I don't know what the conflict was, it's hard to say
whether or not they had a valid reason for moving the date, and
I tend to agree. Sometimes serious things come up; it happens.
And it's really none of my business what her mother has going on
that would make it necessary to change the date; we're not close
like that. I just think it would have made more sense to have
it at a later date. But either way, that's why I wasn't sure
about the rudeness factor.
Thanks!
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Re: They changed the party date
By: pierrotlunaire0 Date: January 28, 2020, 8:36 pm
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Were they rude? Um, maybe, I don't know. Perhaps a little
inconsiderate/
Were you rude for changing your RSVP to a No? Absolutely not.
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Re: They changed the party date
By: Dazi Date: January 29, 2020, 4:27 am
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You rearranged and accepted an invitation for a Saturday. The
new invitation doesn't work for you. You are not rude for
declining the second invitation since they are the ones who
changed the parameters. I not convinced they are rude, perhaps
inconsiderate is a better word in this case. However, I think
there's a good chance the mom is going to be disappointed by all
the cancellations that are made just because she changed the
date to accommodate 1 person. A good chunk of people who work
will be working and there's a high probability that they will be
unable to get off work now.
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Re: They changed the party date
By: TootsNYC Date: January 29, 2020, 11:03 am
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are they doing it during the day on Friday? I guess I just
assumed they'd moved it to Friday evening.
Since it's not a "school night," I assumed they thought it would
have a reasonable chance to find people free.
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Re: They changed the party date
By: Chez Miriam Date: January 29, 2020, 12:23 pm
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I think this is the occasion for "oh, what a shame you didn't
give more notice; it's too late for me to reschedule all my
plans again, so I'll have to reluctantly decline".
Sending a small gift whilst not twisting your schedule into a
pretzel to attend seems a nice compromise, so I think you'd not
be rude at all, and positively be gracious by sending your
present not your presence. ;)
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Re: They changed the party date
By: LifeOnPluto Date: January 31, 2020, 10:42 pm
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I think there needs to be a good reason for changing a party
date after most guests have already RSVP'ed. And it's definitely
not rude to change your RSVP to "no" if you can't make the new
date!
I'm also curious to know if the couple are hosting the
'sprinkle' themselves. If so, that seems a little tacky.
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Re: They changed the party date
By: Candle Date: February 1, 2020, 4:11 am
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I know it was a surprise to the mom-to-be, so I'm thinking that
maybe it was the parents/her husband who hosted it. Apparently,
it went well. I sent my gift along with someone who could make
it, and I got a text at work saying that she loved the gift, so
I guess I'm in the clear. I don't know if anyone else couldn't
make it because of the change or not, but all's well that ends
well, I guess!
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