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Dinner Theater
By: DaDancingPsych Date: January 15, 2020, 2:07 pm
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Tomorrow night, I am attending a show at a theater that has
tables and serves food. I've never been there, but I suppose one
may call it a dinner theater. Either way, their website says to
show up 45 minutes before the show to enjoy the food menu. My
issue. I am attending alone and my ticket is at a table for four
with three people who I do not know. They are probably attending
together. I am not looking to spoil their evening, I just wanted
to see this show and there were no empty tables, so I purchased
this seat. Do I need to attend the dining part? I could care
less about the food and socializing; I just want to see the
show. Could I take my seat 15 minutes before the show (when they
might be finishing their meals)? Would it be rude to just order
a drink even if others at the table are eating full meals? Any
thoughts on how to handle this situation?!? Help!!!
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: Jem Date: January 15, 2020, 2:13 pm
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I would contact the venue and ask what they recommend. Enjoy the
show!
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: Sycorax Date: January 15, 2020, 3:18 pm
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Calling the venue would probably be your best bet.
However, is the dinner included in the ticket price? If the
food is an extra charge, I'd think it would be fine to show up a
little later.
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: TootsNYC Date: January 15, 2020, 3:38 pm
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I think you can arrive late. Or to arrive just in time for
dessert and to order something to drink.
But at many dinner theaters, it's part of the fun to end up at a
table with other people.
I don't think you need to worry about their fun. I would imagine
(I would hope!) they have an idea that they might end up with
someone at their table--it's not a restaurant.
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: jpcher Date: January 15, 2020, 3:59 pm
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If you're like me, an introvert, a bit nervous about sitting
with a table of people that you didn't know I would be asking
the same question.
Do call the venue and let them know that you will not be there
for the dinner but will be attending to see the performance so
that they don't think you're a no-show and sell your seat to
someone else who is on a wait-list if the dinner/show is sold
out. You should also ask if there is a lessor cost for attending
the performance only.
No, you don't have to go to the dinner if you feel
uncomfortable.
[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=1587.msg45599#msg45599
date=1579118853]
Tomorrow night, I am attending a show at a theater that has
tables and serves food. I've never been there, but I suppose one
may call it a dinner theater. Either way, their website says to
show up 45 minutes before the show to enjoy the food menu. My
issue. I am attending alone and my ticket is at a table for four
with three people who I do not know. They are probably attending
together. I am not looking to spoil their evening, I just wanted
to see this show and there were no empty tables, so I purchased
this seat. Do I need to attend the dining part? I could care
less about the food and socializing; I just want to see the
show. Could I take my seat 15 minutes before the show (when they
might be finishing their meals)? Would it be rude to just order
a drink even if others at the table are eating full meals? Any
thoughts on how to handle this situation?!? Help!!!
[/quote]
Opposite side of the coin (bold above) . . . why would you think
that you were spoiling their evening? A fresh face to a group of
three just might be the thing they were looking for. PLUS! They
might not all be attending together. One or all three might be
just like you, on their own.
If the price of the ticket includes dinner, I think (introvert
that I am) I would go for the dinner as well as the show. You
never know what might happen.
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: DaDancingPsych Date: January 15, 2020, 9:45 pm
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To clarify, dinner is NOT part of my ticket. I would have to pay
extra. Their main meals would be $25 additional, although they
do offer a few smaller plates (more like snacks / appetizers)
that would be more budget friendly. I suppose that I could find
something to eat, but I am not thrilled by the menu. I am also
not a fan of eating in front of others.
[quote author=jpcher link=topic=1587.msg45614#msg45614
date=1579125541]
[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=1587.msg45599#msg45599
date=1579118853]
Tomorrow night, I am attending a show at a theater that has
tables and serves food. I've never been there, but I suppose one
may call it a dinner theater. Either way, their website says to
show up 45 minutes before the show to enjoy the food menu. My
issue. I am attending alone and my ticket is at a table for four
with three people who I do not know. They are probably attending
together. I am not looking to spoil their evening, I just wanted
to see this show and there were no empty tables, so I purchased
this seat. Do I need to attend the dining part? I could care
less about the food and socializing; I just want to see the
show. Could I take my seat 15 minutes before the show (when they
might be finishing their meals)? Would it be rude to just order
a drink even if others at the table are eating full meals? Any
thoughts on how to handle this situation?!? Help!!!
[/quote]
Opposite side of the coin (bold above) . . . why would you think
that you were spoiling their evening? A fresh face to a group of
three just might be the thing they were looking for. PLUS! They
might not all be attending together. One or all three might be
just like you, on their own.
If the price of the ticket includes dinner, I think (introvert
that I am) I would go for the dinner as well as the show. You
never know what might happen.
[/quote]
I am an extreme extrovert, so it does not bother me to be at a
table with people that I don't know. But I am also aware that
they may not feel the same about me. I really have no idea what
the make-up of the table will be. They may all be separate and
excited to meet me. I suspect that they are together, but it's
just a guess. I don't even know if they know that someone (me)
purchased the extra seat. Either way, if they were planning a
fun night with friends, I am not interested in being the third
(errr... fourth) wheel. I don't want them to feel like they need
to include me in conversation. Like I said, I just want to see
the show. So, it's not a fear thing with me... I'm just less
interested in being social, if that makes sense. I am sure that
the table thing will work out fine, but I am trying to figure
out what would be the most polite approach.
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: Hmmm Date: January 16, 2020, 9:18 am
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Since dinner is optional and you are not interested in dining
there, I think it is fine to show up 15 minutes before the show
is to start. If I were them, and you arrived while we were still
eating, I'd say hello, introduce myself and go back to eating
while you order a drink to enjoy during the show. It wouldn't
phase me at all to have someone come to the table later. If they
seem to be reluctant to engage in conversation, then I would
just say hello and turn my attention to the drink menu and look
around the crowd while they continue to eat or until the show
starts.
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: TootsNYC Date: January 16, 2020, 10:12 am
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If they charge extra for dinner and are still selling tickets,
I'm not sure why you think it would be a problem. That's an
indicator that this is an expected course of action.
I'd just check to be sure when it was I should arrive so as not
to miss anything or confuse the waiters. If they sell two types
of tickets, they may say on the ticket or on the website. Absent
any guidance, I agree that 15 minutes seems sensible.
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: Jayhawk Date: January 16, 2020, 10:19 am
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3 of my girlfriends and I have season tickets to our local
dinner theatre. We did not buy the dinner part, so we just show
up about 20-30 minutes before the show to order drinks and a
dessert to be served at intermission.
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Re: Dinner Theater
By: NFPwife Date: January 16, 2020, 10:47 am
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I think anywhere from 15-30 minutes before the start of the
performance makes sense. Closer to 15 if you want to keep the
social interaction at a minimum. I like Hmmm's suggestions on
how to gauge their interest in interacting and strategies on
what to do if they don't seem interested in being social.
I'll second calling the box office or theater for guidelines.
Whenever I do that I'll ask my questions and then add, "What
else should I know about your venue?" and often learn something
useful that I didn't think to ask.
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