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#Post#: 45286--------------------------------------------------
Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: spunkyboy08
Date: January 10, 2020, 9:06 pm
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How do you deal with a hypocritical co-worker who 1) wants to
have their cake and eat it too, 2) is self-serving, 3)
combative and 4) defensive?
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: HenrysMom
Date: January 11, 2020, 1:12 am
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Quick answer is that you don’t. The more detailed answer is to
be polite and business like when you absolutely have to deal
with this person and the less that person knows about you and
yours, the better.
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: Aleko
Date: January 11, 2020, 3:16 am
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Present the Smooth Glass Wall. S/he will be puzzled to find a
way to attack it, or defend herself against it. (Difficult to
get any cake out of it either, whether for having or eating!)
As for the hypocrisy and self-serving; that's a problem only for
her, and for people who either have some emotional investment in
her or allow themselves to be riled by her. Don't let yourself
be one of them.
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: Rose Red
Date: January 11, 2020, 7:41 am
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We may need more details like how or if the coworker affects you
or your work. I'm afraid your description is too vague to
determine if they are just annoying or actually causing serious
harm.
But basically, you should avoid them and concentrate on your own
work. Act distant yet professional if you need to interact with
them. Document if they are damaging or sabotaging part of your
work. That includes not doing their part of the project which
can delay your own work. It's a good idea to document your own
work too so they can't take credit.
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: pierrotlunaire0
Date: January 11, 2020, 5:08 pm
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I have to agree with Rose Red. I think I could give better
advice if I had some specific examples of what this coworker
does.
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: bopper
Date: January 13, 2020, 1:02 pm
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We need more details...
Also read AskAManager.org for great tips on dealing with
co-workers.
e.g.
HTML https://www.askamanager.org/2015/10/my-constantly-awol-boss-holds-me-to-a-higher-standard-than-she-holds-herself-to.html
You can talk to your boss...."Boss, I am wondering if you could
give me some tips on how to deal with Chris. They said they
would lead the TPS Report project, but I have asked them for a
schedule and a list of goals and they brushed me off. How would
you suggest I handle it?"
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: Bada
Date: January 13, 2020, 4:07 pm
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--- Quote from: pierrotlunaire0 link ---
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> I have to agree with Rose Red. I think I could give better
advice if I had some specific examples of what this coworker
does.
>
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Also, this isn't your first thread you've started where the
topic you asked for advice on was so vague no one could help...
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: January 14, 2020, 7:27 am
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--- Quote from: pierrotlunaire0 link ---
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> I have to agree with Rose Red. I think I could give better
advice if I had some specific examples of what this coworker
does.
>
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I think that this group loves to help and we like aiming our
thoughts to specific situations. But I also understand the need
to not want to give away too much.
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: Victoria
Date: January 14, 2020, 7:46 am
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--- Quote from: DaDancingPsych link ---
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> [quote author=pierrotlunaire0
link=topic=1579.msg45326#msg45326 date=1578784123]
> I have to agree with Rose Red. I think I could give better
advice if I had some specific examples of what this coworker
does.
>
--- End Quote ---
I think that this group loves to help and we like aiming our
thoughts to specific situations. But I also understand the need
to not want to give away too much.
[/quote]
That's true, but I do think that we need some examples, even if
they're very general. Advice like this usually is either "mind
your own business and engage with them as little as possible" or
"tell your manager that your coworker's actions are affecting
your own work in X Y Z ways," but at this point we don't know
enough about it.
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Re: Hypocritical co-worker
DIR By: Titanica
Date: January 14, 2020, 10:27 am
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--- Quote from: spunkyboy08 link ---
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> How do you deal with a hypocritical co-worker who 1) wants to
have their cake and eat it too, 2) is self-serving, 3)
combative and 4) defensive?
>
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I'm confused. This coworker doesn't criticize enough? Or do
you mean "hypercritical"?
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