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#Post#: 44579--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: Twik Date: January 2, 2020, 10:34 am
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She sounds like she really misinterpreted her brother's
statement, and she should have made plans what to do when you
suggested it. Is she the sort of person to always expect things
to work out in her favor?
The poll is a little hard to answer once I see the actual
situation. Theoretically, it's not that bad to have one person
take the early flight - if everyone agrees to it. But to run on
before ensuring that you have a seat was rude. You may have been
able to entertain yourself independently, but not everyone is
comfortable doing that.
#Post#: 44630--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: lakey Date: January 2, 2020, 11:16 pm
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[quote]But to run on before ensuring that you have a seat was
rude. You may have been able to entertain yourself
independently, but not everyone is comfortable doing
that.[/quote]
I've never flown standby. Is there any other way that this could
have played out? If they had called her name and she hadn't
taken the seat immediately, wouldn't they have given it to the
next person on the list? I may be wrong, but I don't think they
would have let her wait to find out if her companion got on
before she made the decision to take the seat. I suspect that
she took the seat when her name got called, and didn't stop to
think that OP might be left behind. In hindsight, it would have
been better if the two had discussed the possibility of only one
getting on.
#Post#: 44639--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: Hanna Date: January 3, 2020, 3:32 am
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Lakey, by the time they were calling names the airline would
likely have been able to tell the friend if Nyachan made it or
not. All she had to do was ask before stepping on. To just run
sit down on the plane and stare at the door to see if she came
through was just thoughtless.
#Post#: 44733--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: lakey Date: January 3, 2020, 12:33 pm
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Hanna,
Thanks. From what you say, by the time they start calling names,
they know how many no shows there are, and therefore, how many
seats to fill with standbys. Makes sense.
#Post#: 44739--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: Twik Date: January 3, 2020, 1:31 pm
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[quote author=lakey link=topic=1453.msg44630#msg44630
date=1578028569]
[quote]But to run on before ensuring that you have a seat was
rude. You may have been able to entertain yourself
independently, but not everyone is comfortable doing
that.[/quote]
I've never flown standby. Is there any other way that this could
have played out? If they had called her name and she hadn't
taken the seat immediately, wouldn't they have given it to the
next person on the list? I may be wrong, but I don't think they
would have let her wait to find out if her companion got on
before she made the decision to take the seat. I suspect that
she took the seat when her name got called, and didn't stop to
think that OP might be left behind. In hindsight, it would have
been better if the two had discussed the possibility of only one
getting on.
[/quote]
Standby isn't like a cattle call, where everyone has to run or
lose out. In fact, just by listening to the names called she'd
know that her friend wasn't likely to make it.
#Post#: 44753--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: TootsNYC Date: January 3, 2020, 3:27 pm
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I can't really vote.
The thing that bothers me is that our NyaChan ended up losing a
huge chunk of the day to this "maybe get an earlier flight"
thing. Once she got stranded, how was there time to see much of
the city?
I was once in a slightly similar situation--my friend and I were
going to see if we could get scalper tickets to a Giants game at
the stadium in New Jersey right before the game, so we took the
bus out with everyone else. She got a ticket, and I didn't (the
scalper only had one).
And almost all the buses either had returned or weren't going to
go back until after the game. I was left standing outside the
stadium.
I ended up getting some bus driver to agree to let me right with
him back into the city, but it ended up being awkward because I
didn't understand that he expected me to pay, or something
else--I don't know. I just know that he started out helpful and
ended up snitty.
I was kind of pissed.
#Post#: 44758--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: NFPwife Date: January 3, 2020, 4:05 pm
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[quote author=Twik link=topic=1453.msg44739#msg44739
date=1578079890]
[quote author=lakey link=topic=1453.msg44630#msg44630
date=1578028569]
[quote]But to run on before ensuring that you have a seat was
rude. You may have been able to entertain yourself
independently, but not everyone is comfortable doing
that.[/quote]
I've never flown standby. Is there any other way that this could
have played out? If they had called her name and she hadn't
taken the seat immediately, wouldn't they have given it to the
next person on the list? I may be wrong, but I don't think they
would have let her wait to find out if her companion got on
before she made the decision to take the seat. I suspect that
she took the seat when her name got called, and didn't stop to
think that OP might be left behind. In hindsight, it would have
been better if the two had discussed the possibility of only one
getting on.
[/quote]
Standby isn't like a cattle call, where everyone has to run or
lose out. In fact, just by listening to the names called she'd
know that her friend wasn't likely to make it.
[/quote]
Additionally, I don't believe that her brother told her that
NyaChan would make the cut. Or Sara didn't give him accurate
information on which to pass his assessment. As a frequent
traveler, I could look at the list on the board and reasonably
guess if someone is going to make it. An employee would have far
better knowledge of the protocols. Also, as a frequent traveler,
I've been put to the front of the list for standby seating when
things with my itinerary went sideways. The airline personnel
mentioned that they save a seat or two for something like that
and because of my status he could release it. All that to say,
if you're far down the list and aren't a frequent traveler with
that airline, it's highly unlikely you're making it.
I agree that Sara wasted a lot of NyaChan's day. Once they had a
plan to drop off the luggage and head into the city, there
shouldn't have even been a question of trying to go standby and
wasting time doing it.
NyaChan, I hope your wallet made it back to you. (I get light
and bright colors for wallets, headphones, tablet cases, etc.
because I've found out that they stand out on the blue/ black
airline seats and make it easier for me to look back and see if
I've forgotten something.)
#Post#: 44774--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: NyaChan Date: January 3, 2020, 8:13 pm
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If anyone is curious- the airline was Delta and they make the
number of available seats and the list of people on standby
public (w names shortened for privacy). There were 4 seats open
in the last fifteen minutes or so before boarding time and she
was #4, while I was #6. When I thought about it more, I suspect
that she asked her brother to interpret the list and he probably
looked for her name and said she was in good shape but I have no
idea if she told him to check mine (they were texting). Since
then, she has started avoiding me - not texting/calling and
while we were both going to the same new year’s party she did
not contact me about it at all which is quite out of the
ordinary. Not sure why she is staying away, but I’m ok with some
space/cooling.
#Post#: 44775--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: gramma dishes Date: January 3, 2020, 8:43 pm
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[quote author=NyaChan link=topic=1453.msg44774#msg44774
date=1578103985]
... and while we were both going to the same new year’s party
she did not contact me about it at all which is quite out of the
ordinary. ...
[/quote]
So did both of you attend this New Year's party and if so did
you interact with each other there?
#Post#: 44777--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would you take the seat and leave your travel companion behi
nd? Update #11, more info #23
By: NyaChan Date: January 3, 2020, 9:26 pm
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Yes we did. Originally it was just going to be the hosting
couple, myself and her, but she asked them to invite another
friend of hers on the day of the party. We all sat at the table
and played Codenames and played with kittens (we all foster) so
she and I did not have any one on one conversation. No contact
the day after which is weird. Normally she would text to talk
about the party and chat about what we both did on our day off.
I sent her a link to something funny today just to help get past
it. We still have the March trip after all and I think it’s
silly to let a friendship even if it isn’t deep just drift into
nothingness. I got a lol so that’s something I guess.
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