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#Post#: 43797--------------------------------------------------
Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: DaDancingPsych Date: December 15, 2019, 4:49 pm
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I am rewatching "The Bachelor", specifically Jason and Molly's
wedding. To say that it rained on their wedding day is an
understatement; it stormed. Everything was soaked. Huge plants
blew over. Glass vases broke. I guess you have figured out that
the ceremony took place outdoors. In true reality show fashion,
the skies did clear for the actual ceremony, but there was
definitely footage of the planners covering seats in plastic and
wedding guests walking under umbrellas. There was also a shoot
of the wedding planner saying something about how she would have
had a plan B, but that there wasn't one. I don't know why, but I
would guess the producers wanted the rain drama.
It's a TV show, so we know that things are not always what they
seem. But this got me thinking. I find it rather rude to the
guests to ask them to sit on seats that were earlier covered in
wet plastic, to sit and walk around in their fancy clothes with
umbrellas, and to be in threat of flying plants. Am I wrong? Is
forcing an outdoor wedding (no matter what) solely a decision of
what the happy couple want or should their guests be taken into
consideration?
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Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: violinp Date: December 15, 2019, 5:10 pm
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As a bride who had a *bunch* of rain on my wedding day -
seriously, I was half - drenched after the outdoor photos, and
it was 42 degrees in October! - I don't think outdoor weddings
are rude by themselves...but making guests walk around getting
cold and damp is probably rude. I am grateful we had a nice warm
church for the ceremony, and a lovely reception hall for the
latter portion of the day, but those outside photos...brrr.
I'm sure the rain drama was manufactured for the show to some
extent. They have to make the show compelling to watch, so if
that means they get a near - disaster, then great for their
ratings.
#Post#: 43800--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: DaDancingPsych Date: December 15, 2019, 5:16 pm
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[quote author=violinp link=topic=1443.msg43799#msg43799
date=1576451420]
As a bride who had a *bunch* of rain on my wedding day -
seriously, I was half - drenched after the outdoor photos, and
it was 42 degrees in October! - I don't think outdoor weddings
are rude by themselves...but making guests walk around getting
cold and damp is probably rude. I am grateful we had a nice warm
church for the ceremony, and a lovely reception hall for the
latter portion of the day, but those outside photos...brrr.
I'm sure the rain drama was manufactured for the show to some
extent. They have to make the show compelling to watch, so if
that means they get a near - disaster, then great for their
ratings.
[/quote]
I am totally fine if the bride and groom want outdoor photos in
the rain or cold. And certainly the guests may have to be
outdoors in sketchy weather to travel to and from the venues. My
thoughts were on forcing an outdoor ceremony on a day that no
one wants to be outdoors.
But I totally agree that the rain drama was manufactured!
Also, I think October is a beautiful month for a wedding!!!
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Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: violinp Date: December 15, 2019, 5:23 pm
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[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=1443.msg43800#msg43800
date=1576451761]
[quote author=violinp link=topic=1443.msg43799#msg43799
date=1576451420]
As a bride who had a *bunch* of rain on my wedding day -
seriously, I was half - drenched after the outdoor photos, and
it was 42 degrees in October! - I don't think outdoor weddings
are rude by themselves...but making guests walk around getting
cold and damp is probably rude. I am grateful we had a nice warm
church for the ceremony, and a lovely reception hall for the
latter portion of the day, but those outside photos...brrr.
I'm sure the rain drama was manufactured for the show to some
extent. They have to make the show compelling to watch, so if
that means they get a near - disaster, then great for their
ratings.
[/quote]
I am totally fine if the bride and groom want outdoor photos in
the rain or cold. And certainly the guests may have to be
outdoors in sketchy weather to travel to and from the venues. My
thoughts were on forcing an outdoor ceremony on a day that no
one wants to be outdoors.
But I totally agree that the rain drama was manufactured!
Also, I think October is a beautiful month for a wedding!!!
[/quote]
I meant walking around for the ceremony/trying to find seats.
Sorry if that sounded confusing! I was just thinking of how if
we did this knowing it was going to be miserable, how much worse
would it be to do that to our guests, especially the elderly
ones.
#Post#: 43805--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: Hmmm Date: December 15, 2019, 7:30 pm
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I think most of the time, guests are aware if a wedding will be
held outdoors and should have some responsibility for dressing
for the climate. However, I do agree that there should be
contingency for bad weather. I've been a guest 3 times were
weather was an issue.
The first was at a venue where the ceremony was to be outside in
a garden and the reception indoors. The venue did not have an
indoor space for the reception. So the timing was changed to
have the cocktail hour first, then the rain let up and the
ceremony commenced. They tried to get al the guests to go
outside but most stayed inside and watched from the windows
instead of braving the dampness and puddles. The wedding party
was covered under a gazebo.
The second one the bride and groom were again having the
ceremony outside but the cocktail hour was to be on a roof top
deck. They went ahead with the ceremony outdoors. It wasn't
raining, but extremely windy and damp. The site moved the
cocktail reception inside but to a room that wasn't large enough
to really accommodate everyone. I think in that instance some of
us would have rather braved the wind instead of being squished.
The last one was again an outdoor service but indoor reception.
The day was beautiful and the ceremony was a sunset service. But
as soon as the sun set, the temp dropped about 20 degrees. The
cocktail hour was held outside and most of the women were
huddling around the outdoor heaters to stay warm, me included. I
think in that situation, we should have thought to bring wraps
or jackets.
#Post#: 43811--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: accountingisfun Date: December 16, 2019, 8:23 am
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I had an outdoor wedding. It was SO lovely. I had a plan B put
into place though - I had a backup indoor location available
since I couldn't be sure of the weather, plus I had a giant tent
so if some weather suddenly came up, it would be fine.
My Aunt had her wedding at the same location I had mine at and
she did have to move to the plan B location due to weather, so I
knew I needed a plan B. My cousin also got married at the same
location and had a plan B as well. We just didn't want to have
the guests be uncomfortable.
#Post#: 43820--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: NFPwife Date: December 16, 2019, 9:31 am
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I think there's something about weddings that shifts people from
"I'm hosting these guests" to "It's MY day!" I've been in
situations at weddings that I firmly believe the HC wouldn't do
in any other circumstance. From extremely hot outdoor weddings
with zero shade. Weddings with spitting drizzle or cocktail
hours where there were not enough seats for every guest. (We
were at one with seats for less than 25% of the guests and it
was a 90 minute cocktail hour. People drifted out of the area
into other spaces in the hotel to get some relief from the
standing.)
I think it's all rude honestly.
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Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: Gellchom Date: December 16, 2019, 1:56 pm
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I think a Plan B is important for an outdoor wedding (or any
outdoor party). Even if the weather turns out fine, you will
save yourself some sleepless nights in advance.
I wrote about this once before, I believe, on the old site. My
cousin had a smallish (60 people or so?) wedding at a
restaurant, with the ceremony in the courtyard and the reception
indoors. During the ceremony, a few raindrops began to fall.
Everyone pretended not to notice. But then it started to rain
for real -- not a storm, but a definite drizzle. Eventually,
the rabbi paused and asked if he should continue, wait, move
inside, or what. The bride and groom fortunately have great
senses of humor and just shrugged it off. So all the guests
followed their lead and smiled and nodded that it was fine with
us, too (I suspect that the cellist, though, was NOT thrilled!).
I think my son, then a teen, called out, "Rock on!" A few of
the guests grabbed some white tablecloths and stood underneath
them for the last few minutes of the ceremony, which occasioned
some joking about how we've all seen someone wear white to
someone else's wedding, but we'd never seen anyone with the
chutzpah to erect their own chuppa (wedding canopy).
The moral of that story is that everything turned on the bride
and groom's relaxed reaction and who-cares attitude. Had they
been upset about everything not being P-E-R-F-E-C-T, it would
have spoiled the happy vibe. Instead, they made it even more
fun and memorable. The ice was all broken, everyone was talking
to everyone else and laughing on the way into the reception.
So a Plan B is important, I think, but even with a Plan B, some
things just always don't go according to plan, and it's really
important that the couple (and hosts, if different) keep a happy
attitude no matter what, because the guests will take their cue
from them.
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Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: Rose Red Date: December 16, 2019, 2:04 pm
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I think a plan B is important for guests who are elderly,
disabled, or have health issues. Even if the plan B is only
having a room they can duck into.
A little rain won't bother me if an umbrella is sufficient. But
I would be very upset if the weather causes the plants and
furniture to fly, and you can't even see or hear anything
because you're getting battered by the wind and rain.
#Post#: 43845--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding Day Rain Plans
By: GardenGal Date: December 16, 2019, 2:12 pm
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Eleven years ago DS married sweet DIL in an outdoor afternoon
wedding in late May at a botanic garden. We chose the date
almost a year in advance to be one in which it had NEVER rained
here in So. California (in this area our rainfall is about 99%
between November and mid-April). You guessed it - rained the
day before as were were holding the late afternoon outdoor
wedding rehearsal at our house (fortunately, we could do that
under cover, and the rain held off until the rehearsal was about
80% done). First thing the next morning DH called a rental
place and got them to set up a tent that morning just in case it
rained in the afternoon (which it did not). The rain held off,
there was a wooden dance floor (previously arranged for), and
the extra cost for the tent (which was a lot, since it was very
last minute) was well worth it for our peace of mind.
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