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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: TootsNYC Date: December 10, 2019, 4:09 pm
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she may also have been trying to be a little quippy about it;
sometimes quips come off like digs, when there's no tone of
voice to help.
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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: bopper Date: December 10, 2019, 4:26 pm
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it give you more info about her...decide if you invite her or
not next year.
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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: collakat Date: December 11, 2019, 6:35 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1432.msg43496#msg43496
date=1575987716]
As someone who works in the industry, I am very selective on the
information I share on FB and other social media platforms. Yes,
any platform has the potential to be mined for information but
there is no reason I should make it easier for FB, Amazon,
Google and the various ad services that collect your information
to create a complete dossier on my contacts, events, purchases
and search habits. Mining of email can be done by third party
apps if you allow the third party app to access your messages.
But otherwise, email is still the most secure as far as privacy
of your interactions.
[/quote]
Unless you don't change your password often. We can check 'Have
I been Pwned' website to check your email address. My work email
address has been hit more than my Gmail.... Thanks LinkedIn
When I use the internet, social media and communications, I just
assume everything is collected 'somewhere' and it is impossible
to be 100% secure.
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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: Hmmm Date: December 11, 2019, 8:05 am
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[quote author=collakat link=topic=1432.msg43573#msg43573
date=1576067732]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1432.msg43496#msg43496
date=1575987716]
As someone who works in the industry, I am very selective on the
information I share on FB and other social media platforms. Yes,
any platform has the potential to be mined for information but
there is no reason I should make it easier for FB, Amazon,
Google and the various ad services that collect your information
to create a complete dossier on my contacts, events, purchases
and search habits. Mining of email can be done by third party
apps if you allow the third party app to access your messages.
But otherwise, email is still the most secure as far as privacy
of your interactions.
[/quote]
Unless you don't change your password often. We can check 'Have
I been Pwned' website to check your email address. My work email
address has been hit more than my Gmail.... Thanks LinkedIn
When I use the internet, social media and communications, I just
assume everything is collected 'somewhere' and it is impossible
to be 100% secure.
[/quote]
I don't want to derail the thread, but a data breach, meaning
someone hacked into your email account, is different then being
able to mine content of your social media to capture
information. One is an illegal activity and is usually not done
to just capture information around your buying or social habits.
With FB and other social media platforms, you've consented to
allow some portion of your posts to be public.
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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: Hmmm Date: December 11, 2019, 8:09 am
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[quote author=lisastitch link=topic=1432.msg43528#msg43528
date=1576012135]
Many thanks for the responses!
She is very security conscious (she's the reason I send info
about the party in the body of the email--she doesn't open
attachments). And if she had told me that she doesn't like
doing FB invitations and would rather just get the email, I
would have said I would do my best to remember that.
It was the slightly scoldy/passive-aggressive tone with nothing
that I can really respond to that bothered me. Her other email
(responding to the emailed invitation) was just fine.
So maybe she was writing it quickly, didn't think about the
tone--and, yes, tone of voice and body language are key in how
we interpret the words.
I won't respond to it, and will mark it up as one of her little
quirks, acknowledging that I have plenty of my own.
I was glad that other people also found the tone a little odd
and off-putting. It reassured me that I wasn't being overly
sensitive.
Thank you!
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I didn't pick up any scoldy or PA tone. To me, it was just an
explanation of why she wouldn't be responding to your FB
invitation. Some people get really miffed if people don't RSVP
through the online invitation. You obviously don't since you
send out to methods of invites, but I've notified friends via
texts, call, or in person that I planned to attend their event
and they still wanted me to update the FB invite.
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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: Hanna Date: December 11, 2019, 11:16 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1432.msg43577#msg43577
date=1576073125]
[quote author=collakat link=topic=1432.msg43573#msg43573
date=1576067732]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1432.msg43496#msg43496
date=1575987716]
As someone who works in the industry, I am very selective on the
information I share on FB and other social media platforms. Yes,
any platform has the potential to be mined for information but
there is no reason I should make it easier for FB, Amazon,
Google and the various ad services that collect your information
to create a complete dossier on my contacts, events, purchases
and search habits. Mining of email can be done by third party
apps if you allow the third party app to access your messages.
But otherwise, email is still the most secure as far as privacy
of your interactions.
[/quote]
Unless you don't change your password often. We can check 'Have
I been Pwned' website to check your email address. My work email
address has been hit more than my Gmail.... Thanks LinkedIn
When I use the internet, social media and communications, I just
assume everything is collected 'somewhere' and it is impossible
to be 100% secure.
[/quote]
I don't want to derail the thread, but a data breach, meaning
someone hacked into your email account, is different then being
able to mine content of your social media to capture
information. One is an illegal activity and is usually not done
to just capture information around your buying or social habits.
With FB and other social media platforms, you've consented to
allow some portion of your posts to be public.
[/quote]
Disclaimer: I worked in the online advertising industry and am
also in IT.
I knew from the get-go that Facebook was mining my data. They
started with no ads and no other way to generate revenue so it
was obvious to me and that was OK. Nothing in life is free.
Yahoo is a different story. I trusted them to keep my
information private and secure. Now I don't.
What Yahoo! did was probably illegal, but it happened years ago
and I have no proof that I didn't click that button to allow
them to do it. Well, I have proof in the sense that they
finally admitted to sharing info with Facebook without
permission. Gmail is absolutely mining content of emails, too.
Nothing online is secure even now, in my opinion. But these
companies operated for years without any laws and mostly without
any ethics.
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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: LifeOnPluto Date: December 13, 2019, 11:09 pm
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Personally, this wouldn't bother me too much, unless this person
has a history of making little digs, or being a bit "scoldy".
I'd just make a mental note to invite her via email in future.
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Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: Lkdrymom Date: December 17, 2019, 5:18 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1432.msg43451#msg43451
date=1575927223]
I think she was giving you a little scolding, doing a little
proselytizing about her security wokeness, and dotting all her
i's and crossing all her t's.
So I can see why it feels a bit like a jab; it sort of may have
been. I believe she thinks you should think the way she does, so
she's being sure to tell you how she thinks.
But I don't see it as a BIG miffed; more of a "there she is,
doing that thing human beings do, and feeling slightly superior.
But I probably have done something similar."
I'd be tempted to message back, "I really don't care which
method you use to respond--one RSVP is enough, and you don't
need to worry I'll miss it; I'm watching both channels, as you
know. Looking forward to seeing you!"
But then I'd say, "I' just not going to." and I'd delete that
message or email as fast as I could, so it wouldn't pop up and
sour me again.
[/quote]
I agree and I like your suggested response.
#Post#: 44121--------------------------------------------------
Re: Unreasonably miffed?
By: Runningstar Date: December 21, 2019, 11:27 am
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Today on my news feed there were suggestions about how to avoid
being robbed over the holidays and the following was mentioned:
"Similarly, you should also avoid answering RSVPs on Facebook.
Instead, call the people who invited you to let them know if
you’ll be attending."
Thought of this thread.
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