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Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: DCGirl
Date: November 29, 2019, 8:51 am
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The Washington Post had a recent story on potluck etiquette in
advance of the holiday and all the potlucks to come:
HTML https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/home/potluck-etiquette-all-you-need-to-know-before-you-plop-a-casserole-on-the-table/2019/11/25/c8a4659e-062e-11ea-8292-c46ee8cb3dce_story.html
In case you can't get to the story because of the paywall, their
rules are:
1) Arrive with your dish ready to serve (i.e., don't commandeer
the host's oven to heat it)
2) Be considerate of others' dietary restrictions
3) Don't leave dirty dishes (i.e., be prepared to take home the
dish or platter you brought, even if you can't give it a wash
before you go)
4) Keep it classy (i.e., even if you can't cook something, put
what you bought on a nice plate)
5) Communicate plans in advance (hosts should say what they're
providing and what will be needed)
6) Don't pig out (i.e., don't take most or all of a dish before
others have a chance to taste it)
7) Acknowledge your hosts
What do you all think?
#Post#: 42824--------------------------------------------------
Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: kckgirl
Date: November 29, 2019, 10:51 am
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I agree with all the points in your summary. In fact, I was
absolutely shocked when posters on eHell said you were obligated
to leave whatever you brought with the host when you left for
home. In my circle, that has never been done. You take your dish
and whatever was in it with you when you leave. I just couldn't
imagine burdening the host with all those dishes to wash and
return, especially if you don't see each other often.
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Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: Rose Red
Date: November 29, 2019, 12:08 pm
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--- Quote from: kckgirl link ---
>
> I agree with all the points in your summary. In fact, I was
absolutely shocked when posters on eHell said you were obligated
to leave whatever you brought with the host when you left for
home. In my circle, that has never been done. You take your dish
and whatever was in it with you when you leave. I just couldn't
imagine burdening the host with all those dishes to wash and
return, especially if you don't see each other often.
>
--- End Quote ---
I figured they meant leave the food but take your dish (unless
it's a disposable container that can be tossed). The food can be
transferred to the host's own dish before you leave.
I never leave food unless I ask if they want to keep it though.
Most hosts I know encourage people to take home what they want.
#Post#: 42840--------------------------------------------------
Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: SioCat
Date: November 29, 2019, 2:44 pm
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I liked and agreed with all of them.
I’ve only ever done work potlucks, but most of them still apply.
I like to buy the aluminum foil casserole dishes, so I don’t
have to bring anything home. Just throw it away when it’s done.
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Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: vintagegal
Date: November 29, 2019, 5:24 pm
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Don't start packing up leftovers to take home with you before
everyone is through eating. And if it is "hosted" at someone's
house, ask before packing your Tupperware. Maybe the host would
like to keep it.
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Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: Rose Red
Date: November 29, 2019, 6:34 pm
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--- Quote from: vintagegal link ---
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> Don't start packing up leftovers to take home with you before
everyone is through eating. And if it is "hosted" at someone's
house, ask before packing your Tupperware. Maybe the host would
like to keep it.
>
--- End Quote ---
Keep what? Food or Tupperware? The can keep the food but not my
Tupperware ;) :D!
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Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: Kimberami
Date: November 29, 2019, 8:43 pm
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--- Quote from: Rose Red link ---
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> [quote author=vintagegal link=topic=1422.msg42846#msg42846
date=1575069857]
> Don't start packing up leftovers to take home with you before
everyone is through eating. And if it is "hosted" at someone's
house, ask before packing your Tupperware. Maybe the host would
like to keep it.
>
--- End Quote ---
Keep what? Food or Tupperware? The can keep the food but not my
Tupperware ;) :D!
[/quote]
Maybe they would like to keep it, but it's mine. :P
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Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: DCGirl
Date: December 2, 2019, 7:34 am
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Nobody gets to keep my Tupperware.
#Post#: 42954--------------------------------------------------
Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: lowspark
Date: December 2, 2019, 8:20 am
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Be on time. Particularly if you are bringing appetizer! But even
for main or sides. Conversely, if you KNOW you'll be late, then
sign up to bring dessert.
--- Quote from: DCGirl link ---
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> 1) Arrive with your dish ready to serve (i.e., don't
commandeer the host's oven to heat it)
>
--- End Quote ---
--- Quote ---
> Walk in the door with your chilled shrimp or hot chili ready
to put on the table, without having to be heated or chilled.
--- End Quote ---
I'll add to this, not only should the dish already be at the
proper temperature (or some means of warming it such as a crock
pot or warming tray, or an ice base, pre-made of course) but it
should require minimal additional prep. I don't mind if you need
to toss your salad and add the almonds, but I don't want you
cutting up the strawberries.
--- Quote from: DCGirl link ---
>
> 5) Communicate plans in advance (hosts should say what they're
providing and what will be needed)
>
--- End Quote ---
Guests should communicate as well. Say what you're bringing, and
go ahead and hit "reply all" on this one so that everyone knows
which dishes are already coming.
As far as leftovers go, I usually ask my host first, if they
want any, and after that, the other guests. Then I take home
what remains, if any. As host, sometimes I'd like to keep some
of the leftovers so I appreciate being asked.
#Post#: 42956--------------------------------------------------
Re: Potluck Etiquette
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: December 2, 2019, 8:56 am
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I agree with all of the points.
I do think you should first offer leftover to the host but if
they decline, take your dish home.
Also, don't bring huge ornate serving dishes. I have a sister
who loved showing up with huge platters or bowls with large
ornate rims. They are pretty but take up way to mush space on a
buffet counter or table. I mentioned it to her a few times but
she ignored me until I took one of her dishes, emptied the
contents to a smaller bowl and handed her bowl to take back to
her car dirty with a "it won't fit". (The thing was so large it
was a pain to clean in my fairly large sink. She'd left it at my
house a couple of times before for me to clean and her to pick
up later. That bowl never made a repeat appearance at my house.)
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