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       #Post#: 41727--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: peony
       Date: November 10, 2019, 8:59 am
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       I had this happen to me once, but it was a cashier. I was buying
       a bag of pecans in the brand that I favored, and she kept
       telling me I should go back and get the other brand that was on
       sale, and she would hold the line while I did it. I just kept
       saying, no, thank you, until she gave in and checked out the
       rest of my stuff. I avoided her line after that because I felt
       awkward and embarrassed about our interaction. A couple months
       after that she retired (I overheard her talking to someone else
       about it), so maybe she was depressed and/or exhausted and her
       brain to mouth filter hadn't been working so well on the day of
       the pecans.
       #Post#: 41728--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: Rose Red
       Date: November 10, 2019, 9:22 am
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       --- Quote from: Pandorica link ---
       >
       > Reminds me of a time I was at the store and the person behind
       me in line was really upset that I wasn't going to buy 2 of
       something that was BOGO (Buy One, Get One Free). I didn't need
       or want the second one, I also didn't have a place to store it.
       I finally had to just ignore her until I left the store.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I don't understand why people don't take the free one either.
       Maybe they can give it away or something. I may mention it once
       in case they missed the sign, but I don't harp on it after that.
       It doesn't affect me. But some people can't stand to waste money
       even if the money is other people's.
       #Post#: 41739--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: Kimberami
       Date: November 10, 2019, 3:00 pm
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       --- Quote from: Rose Red link ---
       >
       > [quote author=Pandorica link=topic=1387.msg41635#msg41635
       date=1573167380]
       > Reminds me of a time I was at the store and the person behind
       me in line was really upset that I wasn't going to buy 2 of
       something that was BOGO (Buy One, Get One Free). I didn't need
       or want the second one, I also didn't have a place to store it.
       I finally had to just ignore her until I left the store.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I don't understand why people don't take the free one either.
       Maybe they can give it away or something. I may mention it once
       in case they missed the sign, but I don't harp on it after that.
       It doesn't affect me. But some people can't stand to waste money
       even if the money is other people's.
       [/quote]
       Some stores' BOGO offers will take half price off of one item.
       #Post#: 41741--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: Rose Red
       Date: November 10, 2019, 3:39 pm
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       --- Quote from: Kimpossible link ---
       >
       > [quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1387.msg41728#msg41728
       date=1573399337]
       > [quote author=Pandorica link=topic=1387.msg41635#msg41635
       date=1573167380]
       > Reminds me of a time I was at the store and the person behind
       me in line was really upset that I wasn't going to buy 2 of
       something that was BOGO (Buy One, Get One Free). I didn't need
       or want the second one, I also didn't have a place to store it.
       I finally had to just ignore her until I left the store.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I don't understand why people don't take the free one either.
       Maybe they can give it away or something. I may mention it once
       in case they missed the sign, but I don't harp on it after that.
       It doesn't affect me. But some people can't stand to waste money
       even if the money is other people's.
       [/quote]
       Some stores' BOGO offers will take half price off of one item.
       [/quote]
       I wish all stores do that. In my experience, there's sales like
       "2 for $10" which rings up $5 if you only buy one. But BOGO is
       you buy the first for full price and that's it. Take the free
       one or don't, but there's no adjustment. It's all about how it's
       worded. I've never seen BOGO that give discounts. So silly and
       annoying.
       #Post#: 41745--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: Tea Drinker
       Date: November 10, 2019, 6:06 pm
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       --- Quote from: Rose Red link ---
       >
       > [quote author=Pandorica link=topic=1387.msg41635#msg41635
       date=1573167380]
       > Reminds me of a time I was at the store and the person behind
       me in line was really upset that I wasn't going to buy 2 of
       something that was BOGO (Buy One, Get One Free). I didn't need
       or want the second one, I also didn't have a place to store it.
       I finally had to just ignore her until I left the store.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I don't understand why people don't take the free one either.
       Maybe they can give it away or something. I may mention it once
       in case they missed the sign, but I don't harp on it after that.
       It doesn't affect me. But some people can't stand to waste money
       even if the money is other people's.
       [/quote]
       It depends on whether I have an obvious, easy person to give it
       away to. If not, it's an example of not taking something that I
       know will go to waste, just because it's free, the same way I
       don't enter prize drawings for things I don't want. Easy and
       obvious includes "that sounds like something Jane would like" or
       "I think Murgatroyd said they use a lot of this," but not "there
       must be someone on this block who likes these" or "I'll hang
       onto it until I see my aunt, and hope I remember to put it in my
       suitcase."
       I buy most of my spices at Penzey's, which frequently has offers
       like "try our Martian Road spice blend free with any $5
       purchase." I will take a free sample of anything I think I might
       use, and have been very happy with some of them, but I'm
       unlikely to take a jar of a blend I already know I don't like,
       even if it's free. S
       Yes, if someone told me a thing was BOGO, and when I said "but I
       only need one" they asked me to get it for them or the food
       bank, or their brother-in-law, I'd probably tell them to grab it
       from the shelf. But I'm not assuming they want to get out of the
       checkout line and walk back to aisle 7 either.
       #Post#: 41761--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: Luci
       Date: November 11, 2019, 9:37 am
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       Our neighbor recommended someone to cut trees down on our
       property and we went with someone else. Neighbor has done
       nothing with DH but glare since 2 years ago. He is nice with me
       and of course his wife gets along with everyone.
       Most of our lives, we have made it our habit to never recommend
       anything because if it goes wrong it’s our fault in some
       people’s minds.
       #Post#: 42093--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: Surly
       Date: November 15, 2019, 5:58 pm
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       --- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
       >
       > Or, "Oh, thanks for that input. I think I'm going to give it a
       try anyway, though--I've had some good luck with these. And
       everybody's different."
       >
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       Something like this is what I usually go with.  "Oh thanks for
       the warning.  I'm going to try it but I'll stick with one for
       now in case I hate it too!"  I'm someone who can get pretty
       chatty with people in the grocery store, though, so I don't
       mind.  Ignoring is fine too!
       #Post#: 42098--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Um...Thank you for your input, but we are not obligated to
       act on it.
   DIR By: NFPwife
       Date: November 15, 2019, 8:00 pm
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       I just had something happen that reminded me of this thread. To
       the general process, I'm of the belief that people have a
       certain number of words to use in a day and perhaps they haven't
       used them all up and are looking to engage with me. I'll,
       typically, go along and chat a bit. Usually if I have capacity
       (to include time and emotional resources) and the person seems
       earnest. I might have told this woman why we were trying it and
       then, if I found her too pushy, used a progressive response that
       goes from "thanks for letting me know" to "I hope you find
       something suitable" to "Okay now, must run!"
       This week a colleague and I had a meeting in North Melobourne,
       we parked on the street and were trying to get the metered
       parking squared away. An older man heard our American accents
       and stopped to see if we needed help using the machine. (I
       didn't bother telling him that she's a permanent resident, it
       was just a new to her machine.) I chatted with him while she
       used the machine. He went on to tell me about the parking
       problems the resident of his building are having, she finished
       and also listened. We were early for the meeting and this took
       2-3 minutes beyond setting up the metered parking. No biggie and
       he seemed to need a little connection.
       But.... we were at the wrong government building and had to
       hurry to the correct one! It was an 8 minute walk and I had to
       do a little jog in my heels to keep up with her because I have
       short legs. I was starting to regret that chat. Then, we got to
       the meeting and a principal person we were meant to meet with
       wasn't ready until 15 minutes after the hour. So, once, again I
       was glad we engaged with the sweet gentleman.
       I'm not saying we always have to indulge others, I'm just saying
       I do it once in a while.
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