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       #Post#: 40696--------------------------------------------------
       Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: LifeOnPluto
       Date: October 19, 2019, 12:43 am
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       Last night DP and I ordered in some home-delivered food. Long
       story short, they gave us an additional dish that we had not
       ordered. We only discovered this after the delivery guy had
       already left.
       I suggested phoning up the restaurant to explain that we'd
       received an additional dish,  but it was quite late, and we were
       tired and hungry, and my DP talked me out of it, saying it was
       the restaurant's mistake and the onus was on them to contact us.
       We did however, set the additional food aside so if the
       restaurant did realise their mistake and call us up to ask for
       it back, it would still be available.
       The restaurant didn't call, and it looks like we were never
       charged for it. Now I'm feeling guilty that we basically got a
       free dish (which was most likely part of someone else's order).
       So another customer was inconvenienced, thanks to our inaction.
       Plus, a lot of take-out restaurants penalise the delivery
       drivers for mistakes, by taking the cost of the replacement dish
       out of their pay (yeah, it's illegal, but it still happens). So
       it's possible our inaction also screwed the delivery driver too.
       (My guilt, however, was not enough to prevent me from eating the
       additional dish for lunch today).
       So Brimstoners - were we rude? What's the etiquette here when
       you receive extra food you didn't order/pay for? Is it ok to
       just eat it?
       #Post#: 40700--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: oogyda
       Date: October 19, 2019, 6:01 am
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       Things may be different where you are, but around here, the
       restaurant would not be able to send the extra dish to the
       correct recipient after retrieving it from you due to food
       handling/serving rules.
       Even so, I think you should have called.  The restaurant would
       have been alerted to check other deliveries and would have been
       able to remake the dish and get it to the intended customer
       sooner.
       #Post#: 40707--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: sandisadie
       Date: October 19, 2019, 9:38 am
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       I agree with Oogyda.
       #Post#: 40708--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: Rose Red
       Date: October 19, 2019, 9:46 am
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       Exactly what I was going to say; call for both reasons.
       Most likely they'd just tell you to keep it since it's too much
       bother to do otherwise. They even do that at fast food or sit
       down places because they have to throw it away once it leaves
       the kitchen. Don't let anyone tell you they recycle because
       those who do are breaking health laws.
       #Post#: 40712--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: TootsNYC
       Date: October 19, 2019, 10:28 am
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       I agree with everyone. It’s a kindness to the restaurant. And if
       you order from there regularly, it would be good for your
       reputation. You probably didn’t take a reputation hitting, but
       you lost an opportunity for a boost
       #Post#: 40716--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: Aleko
       Date: October 19, 2019, 1:01 pm
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       I'm with everyone else. If they were still open, you should have
       phoned them. They would almost certainly have told you to eat it
       anyway, for all the reasons others have said, but (a) you would
       have been enabled to do so with a clear conscience; (2) they
       would register you as honest decent customers who didn't
       automatically decide that their error was your good luck; and
       (c) they would have been able to think how that had happened and
       if it was someone else's order they could have remade and rushed
       it out to the customer, and kept their goodwill.
       #Post#: 40721--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: LurkingGurl
       Date: October 19, 2019, 3:10 pm
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       I get home delivered food all the time and I don't think you
       should have called the restaurant nor do I think you should call
       them now.
       It's their job to put the orders together properly and make sure
       that the right driver gets the right order.
       It is also the driver's job to make sure that the order he/she
       is picking up is complete and correct.
       Whoever the extra dish was meant for can call and have it
       re-made and delivered or have it taken off their bill.
       Just enjoy your surprise dish.  They can't take it back.  They
       know that someone must have ended up with it.  And it's not your
       business to try and figure out their business for them--whether
       it's the restaurant who can't package the orders correctly or
       the delivery service that can't get its drivers to make sure
       what they're picking up is ok.
       It's just as possible that you could have received a dish that
       you had to throw out because you didn't like it or were allergic
       to it.  It's a happy coincidence that it was something you could
       use.
       By calling, you're just taking up someone's time and
       interrupting the flow of business to change exactly nothing.
       Perhaps it eases your conscience?  Who cares?  You're not a bad
       person for just accepting the free thing and going on with your
       life.  They'll know a mistake was made when someone else doesn't
       get their dish and they have to deal with that.
       And maybe in the future they'll do a better job.
       As far as reputations are concerned, the businesses should be
       thinking about their own ability to accurately fill and deliver
       orders rather than whether someone who inadvertently benefits
       from their bumbling feels compelled to try to iron the whole
       mess out.
       #Post#: 40724--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: iolaus
       Date: October 19, 2019, 4:02 pm
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       When we had an order where they delivered the wrong thing (we'd
       ordered the vegetarian version they sent the meat) they brought
       the correct version at no cost and told us to keep the first
       dish (DH eats meat so he ate it)
       I think I would have rung to tell them but wouldn't have
       expected anything other than them saying keep it - but
       potentially they could have had time to add another to the one
       who had ordered it
       #Post#: 40728--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: andi
       Date: October 19, 2019, 5:19 pm
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       --- Quote from: oogyda link ---
       >
       > Things may be different where you are, but around here, the
       restaurant would not be able to send the extra dish to the
       correct recipient after retrieving it from you due to food
       handling/serving rules.
       >
       > Even so, I think you should have called.  The restaurant would
       have been alerted to check other deliveries and would have been
       able to remake the dish and get it to the intended customer
       sooner.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       POD.
       #Post#: 40729--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Home delivered food - received an extra dish - what's the
       etiquette here?
   DIR By: Amara
       Date: October 19, 2019, 6:28 pm
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       I feel strongly that you shouldn't profit by their mistake.
       Look, we all make occasional mistakes in our jobs. The company
       will generally absorb those mistakes by viewing them as the cost
       of doing business.
       But when a customer profits, and knows it, then I think you need
       to ask yourself if it is right if you, the customer, should
       profit by them. To me, this is a matter of integrity which, as I
       think many would agree, is like pregnancy. You either have it or
       you don't, you either are or you aren't.
       I think you should have called the restaurant as soon as you
       discovered it. But even today you can rectify this by calling
       and letting them know. I too believe they would tell you to keep
       it; they certainly cannot take it back even if you drove it over
       to them or if they did they would only throw it in the trash.
       However, whatever they decided to do with it is not the point.
       The question you asked is what should you have done. You should
       have let them know, offered to pay for it, and accepted their
       decision. That is the ethical thing to do as a customer in the
       same way it would be the ethical thing to do if the cashier
       handed you a $10 bill when making change rather than the $1 she
       owed you.
       In a world that seems increasingly prone to lying and cheating
       we must be our own ethical leaders.
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