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Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Hmmm Date: November 5, 2019, 3:19 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1350.msg41504#msg41504
date=1572988326]
the "wear beige" thing is really a snappy way to say, "don't
make things more difficult," I think.
And "you are not the most important person here" and even "you
aren't the decision maker."
I think that in the days when mothers were greatly more involved
in planning weddings, it would be easy to end up in a situation
in which two women who were used to ordering and organizing
their own households might instinctively end up trying to both
do the "steering."
I think those two underlying thoughts (don't make it difficult;
you aren't in charge) are still good things to be reminded of.
[/quote]
Agree. Also it was from a time with the bride's family normally
footed the bill for the wedding and reception and they were not
considered a host of the event, just an "honored guest".
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Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: VorFemme Date: November 5, 2019, 3:43 pm
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I would say that the MOG and MOB should never wear black
mourning dress, red satin that will attract attention away from
the HC, or what looks like another wedding dress - but other
than those broad guidelines, wear something comfortable that
will look good in the photos and try to smile - people will
forgive a lot if you look happy in the wedding photos.
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Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: gramma dishes Date: November 5, 2019, 6:58 pm
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I always thought the whole wear beige thing was because almost
no matter what the other mother wore or what the official
wedding colors were, beige would be unlikely to clash -- and
would also be unlikely to attract attention away from the more
prominently displayed members of the bridal party.
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Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Gellchom Date: December 11, 2019, 1:20 pm
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I think that the beige thing is just the fashion equivalent of
the other part of the formula of "Wear beige and keep your mouth
shut." That is, beige is the color equivalent of keeping your
mouth shut -- i.e., letting the MOB be the focus, not the MOG.
(Not saying I agree with that! Just that that is my
understanding of the beige thing.)
I have been both MOG and MOB. I wrote about my son's wedding
above. At my daughter's, when I was the MOB, I don't remember
whether the MOG or I got our dress first, and I definitely did
not care -- I never even thought about it until now. I think I
did. But my daughter didn't care what color anyone wore. My
dress was black with magenta, the MOG wore gold, the MOH wore
dark navy, and the bridesmaids (the bride's sister-in-law and
the groom's sisters) wore black, navy (2), and flamingo orange
(!).
Boy, was I ever involved in the groom's mom's and three sisters'
dresses, although not in selection. For some reason, they all
wanted to order from the US. So my daughter had the dresses
they wanted to try delivered to my house. I had to take
pictures and send them, and then ship them the choices (which is
NOT cheap!). And in an amusing irony, I bought my dress in
their country!
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