DIR Return Create A Forum - Home
---------------------------------------------------------
Bad Manners and Brimstone
HTML https://badmanners.createaforum.com
---------------------------------------------------------
*****************************************************
DIR Return to: Weddings
*****************************************************
#Post#: 39643--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Rose Red Date: October 1, 2019, 3:11 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=Thitpualso link=topic=1350.msg39629#msg39629
date=1569952742]
I think the tradition of the MOB wearing blue arose because blue
is a practical color for a dressy outfit. I doubt if there’s
any ‘rule’ for Catholic Weddings but blue does seem to turn up
more than pure chance would suggest.
[/quote]
I agree. When in doubt, wear blue. I don't think it has anything
to do with Mary. It's just that it's a classic and safe color.
The MOB or MOG wouldn't want to wear black to their children's
wedding. If they don't want to wear beige or brighter colors,
blue is a good safe choice.
#Post#: 39657--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Copper Horsewoman Date: October 1, 2019, 6:05 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=BeagleMommy link=topic=1350.msg39609#msg39609
date=1569939064]
The only "rules" I had heard about MOB/MOG dressing was that
they should wear clothes in the right formality for the wedding
and that they should not wear things similar to the bridesmaids.
My wedding party was a rainbow (each bridesmaid in a different
color) so color choice was open. My mom picked her dress first
by coincidence. She wore a pretty teal dress. My late MIL
picked a gown of the same length in periwinkle, but it was not
the same dress. They both looked lovely.
[/quote]
Yes, our wedding (44 years ago this Friday! GULP!) was rainbow
also (royal blue, garnet red and royal purple), my mom wore a
turquoise dress with a white lace bodice, his mom wore a
beautiful slate blue (she was a redhead - stunning).
#Post#: 39662--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: LurkingGurl Date: October 1, 2019, 9:26 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
Had no idea about the Catholic MOB in blue, but my mom wore blue
to my wedding. Come to think of it, she wore a blue dress to my
sister's wedding too.
Spooky!
#Post#: 39670--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: shadowfox79 Date: October 2, 2019, 1:19 am
---------------------------------------------------------
I think my MIL's plan was "if in doubt wear blue" because that's
what she did, even though she told me beforehand she didn't like
the dress she'd bought because she looked "grannyish" in it.
(SIL sweetly told her she was old enough to be a gran so she may
as well look like it.)
Why she couldn't have just bought a dress she liked I have no
idea.
My mother wore jade green. She'd have hated to wear pink.
#Post#: 39671--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Aleko Date: October 2, 2019, 1:36 am
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote]Why she couldn't have just bought a dress she liked I
have no idea.[/quote]
She sounds a bit like my two eldest aunts. Late in life, when
both widowed and with all their children grown up and left home,
they shared a house together. They had just one hat between them
suitable for a wedding, and when invited to one they would toss
to decide who got to wear it; but because neither of them
actually liked the hat it was the loser who wore it! It wasn't
that they couldn't both of them afford a hat they liked - they
weren't poor; they just felt that you don't throw away a
perfectly good and 'suitable' hat. A different generation!
#Post#: 39675--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Chez Miriam Date: October 2, 2019, 6:42 am
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1350.msg39622#msg39622
date=1569943715]
[quote author=Chez Miriam link=topic=1350.msg39600#msg39600
date=1569931068]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1350.msg39547#msg39547
date=1569864458]
Titanica, that is funny. I've never heard the blue/pink idea for
MOB/MOG attire.
I've just been thinking that all of the "rules" didn't exist
before 1960's when color photography became mainstream.
[/quote]
And when money was tighter!
My mum and dad's wedding photos show both sets of (my)
grandparents in "church best" - best Sunday clothing, best
Sunday hats [for the ladies]. I think other than my aunt who
was a matron of honour, all the guests looked "Sunday best".
That was early 1960's and two families without a lot of spare
money, and the 'reception' was tea and sandwiches at my maternal
grandparents' house, before my parents left in the early
afternoon to go on their honeymoon.
[/quote]
My grandmother wore her expensive wedding dress for years after.
She had apparently scandalized the family by spending so much
money on it. But part of why she did is that it became her go-to
dress for teachers' wives luncheons, attending other people's
weddings (even though her dress was white; it apparently wasn't
a big deal), etc.
[/quote]
I think that's lovely!
Reminds me of a friend who got married when heavily pregnant,
and bought a two-piece bodice and skirt set that looked like a
(Mediaeval style) dress: she planned to have both pieces dyed
afterwards, and taken in. I think it was Vivienne Westwood, so
would have definitely been an investment for the future. She
said she probably spent the same amount as she could have on a
'one time only' dress, but would get lots of wear out of the two
parts once she was back out enjoying herself in the evening.
#Post#: 39714--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Gellchom Date: October 2, 2019, 2:31 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
When my son got married, the MOB and I (who live in different
cities) had a lot of fun talking about our shopping efforts and
sending each other pictures. I believe I found mine first, but
I'm sure that the MOB didn't care; she would have thought I was
crazy to pass on a dress because she hadn't found hers yet. We
both felt like we were on a hunt together and were so happy for
each other when we found dresses!
The attendants wore sage green, and the bride had asked us to
try to find some shade of green, but she understood green might
be hard to fine, so a harmonizing color would be fine. MOB
found a gorgeous taupe dress that she loved. I would have bet
against it, but the dress I found that I loved most was green
(not sage). The grandmothers on our side wore gold and royal
blue; I don't remember what her grandmothers wore.
Oh, I almost forgot: the bride has a stepmother, too, and she
wore -- a long ivory gown! She put a large, lightweight green
wrap over it and made sure never to remove it. Her little
stepsisters, who were flower girls, wore white with green
sashes, so I guess their mom's dress worked with those. I
found it a surprising choice, but if the bride cared, she didn't
show it.
Everything blended nicely in the photos.
#Post#: 41485--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: bopper Date: November 5, 2019, 10:49 am
---------------------------------------------------------
I thought the rule for the MOG was "Shut up and wear beige"
#Post#: 41497--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: Gellchom Date: November 5, 2019, 1:29 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
[quote author=bopper link=topic=1350.msg41485#msg41485
date=1572972584]
I thought the rule for the MOG was "Shut up and wear beige"
[/quote]
Well, but that's a joke, not a rule. Or if it's a rule, then I
just wore a very green shade of beige to my son's wedding.
(I'm sure you knew that, bopper, but we want to make sure we
don't mislead anyone! :) )
#Post#: 41504--------------------------------------------------
Re: Rules for MOB and MOG wear
By: TootsNYC Date: November 5, 2019, 3:12 pm
---------------------------------------------------------
the "wear beige" thing is really a snappy way to say, "don't
make things more difficult," I think.
And "you are not the most important person here" and even "you
aren't the decision maker."
I think that in the days when mothers were greatly more involved
in planning weddings, it would be easy to end up in a situation
in which two women who were used to ordering and organizing
their own households might instinctively end up trying to both
do the "steering."
I think those two underlying thoughts (don't make it difficult;
you aren't in charge) are still good things to be reminded of.
*****************************************************
DIR Previous Page
DIR Next Page