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Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: Thitpualso Date: September 30, 2019, 4:12 pm
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Our Wedding party was very small. There was only the Maid of
Honor, the Best Man and the Bride and Groom. We still had a
rehearsal because our attendants were the witnesses to our
wedding.
After the 15 minute rehearsal, we all retired to the church
office where we signed the documents to certify the wedding.
The only thing that needed to be done after the actual ceremony
was for the celebrant to add his signature.
We have a fun story about that but it’s not suitable for this
thread.
#Post#: 39623--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: Winterlight Date: October 1, 2019, 10:45 am
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I officiated my friend's wedding and we had a rehearsal because
nobody had been to that location before. This way, we all went
out the correct door to get to the ceremony site, the WP knew
where to stand and to watch out for an uneven patch on the
ground, and people got their sillies out instead of giggling
nervously during the wedding.
#Post#: 39627--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: Thitpualso Date: October 1, 2019, 12:55 pm
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I think that, the larger the wedding party, the more important a
rehearsal is. Especially in a house of worship, the officiant
or someone connected to the place knows what works best given
the layout of the sanctuary.
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Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: TootsNYC Date: October 1, 2019, 12:57 pm
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My experience is that most sanctuaries are pretty much the same.
#Post#: 39630--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: Jem Date: October 1, 2019, 1:04 pm
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In my experience, the rehearsal is more "beneficial" than
"necessary" (although the officiant may require it). For a lot
of people the rehearsal segues into the grooms dinner. It's a
time for the wedding party to get to know each other and to work
out any potential issues so that the actual wedding can be as
stress free as possible. It's not like the wedding would be a
disaster without the rehearsal, but in my opinion it makes sense
to have the rehearsal to give everyone their best shot at being
relaxed and able to enjoy the ceremony. I know several pastors
who have rules they expect to be followed, like no drinking
before the ceremony. It's important to be certain everyone is on
the same page.
#Post#: 39653--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: Buffalogal Date: October 1, 2019, 4:54 pm
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Truthfully, the reason I require a rehearsal for couples being
married in the church where I am the priest is three-fold:
1. I require that they bring the marriage license to the
rehearsal and keep it, that way I know exactly where it is on
the wedding day.
2. Ditto the wedding rings
These two are because when I was first ordained I had more than
one couple have to go back for the license (which has to be
on-site for the wedding) and/or the rings.
3. It gives me a chance to tell the attendants that no,
actually, it isn't funny to object when I ask if anyone can show
cause why the couple can't be joined. If an objection is made,
I'm actually required to look into the validity of the
objection, which casts something of a dark cloud over the day.
The figuring out who comes down the aisle when and who stands
where is nice, but I could do that in 5 minutes before the
ceremony began if necessary.
#Post#: 39658--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: Copper Horsewoman Date: October 1, 2019, 6:13 pm
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[quote author=Jem link=topic=1348.msg39630#msg39630
date=1569953060]
In my experience, the rehearsal is more "beneficial" than
"necessary" (although the officiant may require it). For a lot
of people the rehearsal segues into the grooms dinner. It's a
time for the wedding party to get to know each other and to work
out any potential issues so that the actual wedding can be as
stress free as possible. It's not like the wedding would be a
disaster without the rehearsal, but in my opinion it makes sense
to have the rehearsal to give everyone their best shot at being
relaxed and able to enjoy the ceremony. I know several pastors
who have rules they expect to be followed, like no drinking
before the ceremony. It's important to be certain everyone is on
the same page.
[/quote]
Might depend on how elaborate the service is - I had the full
hourlong Catholic Mass, and none of our attendants were
Catholic, a couple may not have set foot in a church many times
before. That required a rehearsal for the benefit of settling
nerves and showing the reader(s) where to sit, when to stand and
give their reading, etc. For a simple fifteen minute
processional, vows, recessional of people very familiar with the
procedure, not so much.
#Post#: 40008--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: bopper Date: October 8, 2019, 3:33 pm
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You are caring more than they do. They seem to have a grand
clueless vision for this wedding.
I would just tell yourself that if anything goes wrong this is
not your issue...that you are going to report back to Badmanners
and tell us all about it.
#Post#: 40065--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: Chez Miriam Date: October 9, 2019, 10:48 am
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[quote author=bopper link=topic=1348.msg40008#msg40008
date=1570566805]
You are caring more than they do. They seem to have a grand
clueless vision for this wedding.
I would just tell yourself that if anything goes wrong this is
not your issue...that you are going to report back to Badmanners
and tell us all about it.
[/quote]
This is the important bit. ;)
I've read of "holiday bingo" [forget what it's called!], where
there's a checklist of various 'horrors' that can befall, and
all those in on the game get to mark them off their cards: Aunt
Sally falls asleep in the trifle, Uncle Ralph has a tipsy
tumble, Cousin Fester drops a tray of mince pies, Cousin Violet
has a screaming foot-stomping tantrum - you get the idea.
If you were to think of all the things that could go wrong,
write them on a card, and (discretely!) mark off each and every
one, you'd probably realise it was a lovely wedding, and not
much was 'damaged' by not having a rehearsal?
Or...
You'd have a wonderful fund of stories to regale your attentive
audience here on BM&B! ;) ;D
#Post#: 41343--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wedding with no rehearsal, has anyone done this?
By: chigger Date: November 1, 2019, 3:40 pm
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[quote author=Thitpualso link=topic=1348.msg39566#msg39566
date=1569877964]
Our Wedding party was very small. There was only the Maid of
Honor, the Best Man and the Bride and Groom. We still had a
rehearsal because our attendants were the witnesses to our
wedding.
After the 15 minute rehearsal, we all retired to the church
office where we signed the documents to certify the wedding.
The only thing that needed to be done after the actual ceremony
was for the celebrant to add his signature.
We have a fun story about that but it’s not suitable for this
thread.
[/quote]
Aw, please do tell!
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