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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: Rose Red Date: October 18, 2019, 9:28 am
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I have worn black to evening wedding receptions but even now in
2019, I'd feel uncomfortable wearing black to morning weddings.
I feel more comfortable in dark colors and I think navy blue was
invented for occasions where black is (or was) not acceptable.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: whiterose Date: October 18, 2019, 11:44 am
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1344.msg40633#msg40633
date=1571405780]
[quote author=surlyrat link=topic=1344.msg40620#msg40620
date=1571366347]
[quote author=whiterose link=topic=1344.msg39731#msg39731
date=1570057499]
Someone posted in the original Ehell forum back in Delphi that
it was okay to wear black to an evening wedding in NYC, but not
to a daytime wedding in Atlanta.
I know there are a lot of gray areas in between- those are the
two extremes.
But I am very glad nobody wore black to my morning wedding in
the South.
[/quote]
Why would it have made a difference?
[/quote]
I don't know when Whiterose married, but I do remember times
when there were very specific "rule" on wearing black, not just
in the south. I read an article in the NY Times a year ago that
talked about the adoption of all black in the city in the late
70's early 80s and it was the avant-garde who really popularized
it and at first some even in NYC were horrified by it.
Adoption wasn't wide spread until probably the late 80's early
90's. I graduated college in the late 1980s and my first job was
in Southern California. One of the first really nice outfits I
bought was a black light weight knit pencil skirt with matching
black top. The outfit looked great on but it took me forever to
convince myself in the dressing room that even though I was only
21, I could pull off an all black work outfit without looking
like I was going to a funeral. In S. Cal, I only ever got
compliments. When I moved back to Texas a year later and would
wear the outfit to work, I'd often get someone asking me if I
was attending a funeral that day. My mom admitted the outfit
looked good but really disliked seeing me since she still held
to the idea that young 20 year olds did not dress in all black
during the day, especially in the Spring.
So yeah, can see where black at a morning wedding in the South
would have been pretty out of place.
[/quote]
I got married in April of this year. It was a beautiful
springtime morning.
An all-black outfit would have felt very out of place. One guest
did wear a black skirt- with a beautiful turquoise blouse, so it
fit in with the other light colored outfits the other women
guests and wedding party members wore. It was not out of place.
But given how others dressed, the dress code, and the season,
time, weather and location- an all-black outfit would have been
a dissonant note IMHO.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: TootsNYC Date: October 18, 2019, 1:13 pm
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[quote author=surlyrat link=topic=1344.msg40620#msg40620
date=1571366347]
[quote author=whiterose link=topic=1344.msg39731#msg39731
date=1570057499]
Someone posted in the original Ehell forum back in Delphi that
it was okay to wear black to an evening wedding in NYC, but not
to a daytime wedding in Atlanta.
I know there are a lot of gray areas in between- those are the
two extremes.
But I am very glad nobody wore black to my morning wedding in
the South.
[/quote]
Why would it have made a difference?
[/quote]
Daytime black could look pretty funereal. Because funerals are
in the daytime, so anything slightly dressy in black would be
the thing you chose to wear to a funeral.
Eveningwear black would not look funeral--the fabric would be
very different, as would the cut.
Time was that people always wore black to funerals. And they
wore black for weeks or months if there was a death in the
family. (also, black clothes weren't normally considered fancy,
because it was hard to keep them a deep black, because the dye
would fade; it's an extreme color, dye-listically speaking)
It's not quite as prevalent as it used to be; more people just
wear nice clothes that aren't particularly bright. But it used
to be a big deal.
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