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Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: EtiquetteE Date: September 23, 2019, 11:36 pm
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A friend is getting married in October, here in the northwestern
part of the US (where it's already Fall like and cool). Wedding
is indoor/outdoor, starts at 6:30PM. Is it acceptable to wear
black Or should I choose another color? Also, I should stay
away from the same color the bridesmaids are wearing right?
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: HenrysMom Date: September 24, 2019, 1:54 am
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Well, I was a bridesmaid in a wedding from way back in the 90’s
and black was the new, edgy thing back then. So there we were,
in unrelieved black, with shoulders and arms exposed in January
(a story in itself). So you may match the bridesmaids if black
is the bride’s choice.
I think the new rule is not to wear solid black, but if you do
wear a solid black dress, then you add a colored jacket and
accessories. A flowered or pattern with a black background is
also acceptable. I read this somewhere a while back, but can’t
remember where.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: Aleko Date: September 24, 2019, 2:05 am
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I remember years ago Miss Manners had a letter from a
heavily-pregnant woman whose only maternity party dress was
black, asking if she really had to shell out for another
expensive maternity dress that she would likely only ever wear
once? The answer was, no, that would be unreasonable; just
accessorise it with a colourful shawl or jacket and it will
pass.
I would definitely not go in all black unless the couple were
actually planning a black-themed wedding. And if you're at all
in doubt about your black outfit, unless like Miss Manners'
correspondent you don't have anything else you could wear, just
don't choose it.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: silversurfer Date: September 24, 2019, 2:26 am
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So.…. I bought one black dress about 6 or so years ago and have
worn it to at least 5 weddings, summer, winter, autumn and
spring in Australia.
I've never felt the need to accessorise it with anything
colourful and I was certainly not the only one in black at any
of the weddings I attended.
Go forth and wear black - I say!
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: Runningstar Date: September 24, 2019, 6:31 am
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I have seen a lot of black worn at weddings (USA). The "new"
rule is that the neither the mother of the bride nor the mother
of the groom are to wear solid black. That most likely isn't
even true anymore.
The only color that is absolutely forbidden is solid white.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: Hmmm Date: September 24, 2019, 7:38 am
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Black cocktail dresses are very common at weddings in area. Just
dress it up with some colorful jewelry or accessory.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 24, 2019, 8:26 am
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I agree that I think a black dress is just fine and I have seen
a number of people wear them. I also agree that solid white is
typically considered inappropriate. If I am wrong and black is
also forbidden, I think that things are getting a bit crazy...
at what point will no colors be acceptable? I think the real key
with black is to just make sure that you do not appear to be
heading to a funeral. Keep your make-up and accessories bright.
I don't think that the bridesmaids' color(s) are off limits
either. I think it's wise to not dress so that you look like you
are trying to be one of the bridesmaids, although with the trend
to allow them to wear anything that can be tricky, too. But I
have attended a few weddings wear I was wearing a similar color
and I don't think I look tacky.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: gramma dishes Date: September 24, 2019, 8:45 am
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My daughter was a bridesmaid in a wedding a couple of months
ago. It was an evening wedding and reception. Her bridesmaid's
dress was black. The bride thoughtfully told each of them to
get whatever kind of dress they felt they looked good in and
could wear after the wedding to other events as long as it was
black.
I think the generally accepted "rule" is that you aren't
supposed to wear white to weddings, especially if the bride is
wearing white.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: Rose Red Date: September 24, 2019, 9:28 am
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As a heavier woman with a strangely placed curves and bulges,
the only dress that I look decent in is black. For weddings, I
brought a pretty red lace "jacket" to go over it.
So I think black is fine for weddings as long as there's a
splash of color. A scarf or bling or something. An obvious
"party" dress.
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Re: Is it ever OK to wear black to a wedding?
By: Hanna Date: September 24, 2019, 10:43 am
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I found it to be very normal in places like NJ and NY years ago,
and seems to have spread to other places now also.
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