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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Hmmm Date: September 3, 2019, 9:41 am
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[quote author=chigger link=topic=1302.msg37764#msg37764
date=1567204246]
Just don't eat anything with grated cheese! He knows you don't
like it. So just don't eat it.
[/quote]
I agree with this. For example, when he added the cheese to the
garlic bread you brought, you still ate some. Instead, turn it
down with a "you know I don't like cheese".
But I am curious, is it just grated cheese or any cheese or
pre-grated cheese that has the powdery stuff? Or is it the
canned grated parm? I've just never heard of anyone disliking
"grated" cheese but is ok with other cheeses.
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Twik Date: September 3, 2019, 10:17 am
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He's disrespecting you. And you're letting him do it.
You say you're back to being friends "because he wants to go to
the opera." Gee, what's in it for you, other than being forced
to eat food you don't like? (I personally am fine with grated
cheese, but dear lord, if someone says they don't like it, they
don't like it.)
Either (1) break off this one-sided relationship, or (2) if you
feel you are truly getting a friendship, then stop eating at his
place. If you go, and he puts something with cheese on it in
front of you, say "I'm sorry, I won't eat that," and let it sit.
This isn't rude. You've told him repeatedly what you want. Now
you have to enforce it. Don't be bullied. If you feel you'll be
hungry, pack an edible meal for yourself along with the dessert.
He's a bully, and bullies can't be negotiated with. They can
only be defied.
#Post#: 37995--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Hanna Date: September 3, 2019, 11:34 am
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[quote author=Luci link=topic=1302.msg37780#msg37780
date=1567216261]
The answer is in your heart. If you want to be friends, call. If
you are willing to give it up, get the DVDs and carry on.
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Gosh Luci, this is such simple and wise advice. I really love
it.
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: jpcher Date: September 3, 2019, 4:24 pm
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1302.msg37979#msg37979
date=1567521682]
But I am curious, is it just grated cheese or any cheese or
pre-grated cheese that has the powdery stuff? Or is it the
canned grated parm? I've just never heard of anyone disliking
"grated" cheese but is ok with other cheeses.
[/quote]
I'm curious about this as well . . . what is "grated" cheese in
your book, OP?
Even though I'm curious, it doesn't really matter. He knows what
you mean and still tries to sneak it in. I don't like it.
#Post#: 38055--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Venus193 Date: September 3, 2019, 7:54 pm
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He buys the cheese in wedges from an Italian deli; no green can
stuff (which I suspect has a ton of chemicals in it).
I ran this past a friend who doesn't know him and his opinion
was that the laughing on Facebook was the worse of the two sins,
To clarify, this friend was raised Jewish (lax on the kosher)
and is now a vegetarian; he once went ballistic in a restaurant
when he was served something they said was vegetarian but had
been prepared with chicken broth. He considers my ex's actions
here to be immature and unfunny.
I had called my ex and left two messages but he did't call back;
he just texted me to say not to bring anything except some fresh
Italian bread. I have decided to eat before I leave on Friday.
When I get my Wagner DVDs back I will tell him -- calmly and
without expletives -- that I don't appreciate what he's done.
I wondered whether I was being unreasonable about this because
when Brunhilde was alive she made lamb for Easter. I ate it
despite not liking it because she was a good friend and it was
only once a year. Year 3 she increased the garlic and rosemary
and I started to like it, but wouldn't order it in a restaurant.
To be continued.
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: DaDancingPsych Date: September 4, 2019, 8:30 am
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I think only you know whether this friendship is one working to
keep. If the only thing that he brings to the table was the home
cooked food, then go get those DVD's!
I would probably mention it to him in a calm manner. "I was
rather put off to learn that you had been slipping me grated
cheese. It feels like a violation of trust in our friendship and
I would appreciate if you would not do that in the future." His
response would dictate where I go next. If he apologies and says
that he did not realize it was such a big deal and then never
does it again... water under the bridge. If he does not see the
error of his ways, I would definitely be taking a step back from
the friendship to decide if this was someone I wanted in my
life.
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: gramma dishes Date: September 4, 2019, 9:08 am
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[quote author=Venus193 link=topic=1302.msg38055#msg38055
date=1567558495]
...
I had called my ex and left two messages but he did't call back;
he just texted me to say not to bring anything except some fresh
Italian bread. ...
[/quote]
So you are bringing the bread? Just don't let him touch it
before you eat!
#Post#: 38177--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: LadyRexall Date: September 5, 2019, 4:04 pm
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By grated cheese are y’all talking about Parmesan cheese?
Because literally any cheese can be grated. It tastes no
different if you grate it, cut it in strips, cut it in cubes, or
slice it.
#Post#: 38183--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Venus193 Date: September 5, 2019, 5:32 pm
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Locatelli was his favorite back in the day.
#Post#: 38184--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Hanna Date: September 5, 2019, 5:48 pm
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Venus193, I’m curious and hope you don’t mind my asking
questions.
Do you only dislike grated cheese? Or all cheese?
Are you allergic? I’ve gotten the idea in my head that when
someone doesn’t like something it’s often because thy don’t feel
good after they eat it. Is that the case here?
If these questions are too personal I’ll rescind them.
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