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#Post#: 37744--------------------------------------------------
S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Venus193 Date: August 30, 2019, 1:55 pm
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My ex and I have been back on a friendship level since he wanted
very much to start going to the opera again. Since he has a bad
case of sciatica I've been visiting his place about once a
month. He typically cooks something and I bring chocolate,
cookies, or cake.
This morning he posted a recipe video on FB that sounded great
until it got to the end... grated cheese. I hate that stuff. I
don't have an allergy to it but to me it smells vile and there
is a high-end restaurant near one of my old offices that I
couldn't go to after the second time because it stank of that
stuff. I posted my reaction, which was "Don't forget the basil
and oregano. I'll pass on the cheese." He replied: "you get
cheese every time you visit hahahahah" I replied "We need to
talk about that."
I didn't taste any the first time, but the time I brought garlic
bread from a local Italian eatery he added some to it. I ate
only a small amount.
While this isn't quite on the level of slipping pork into a dish
served to people with religious prohibitions against it, I
consider this to be very rude and disrespectful. When we were a
couple I never put that stuff on my food. And laughing at me on
Facebook is really burning my tail.
I will see him next Friday.
So....what would you do in my place?
[list]
[li]Call him now and talk about it[/li]
[li]Suggest or insist we call a takeout place instead[/li]
[li]Just pick up the DVDs he borrowed and forget friendship[/li]
[li]Other (what?)[/li]
[/list]
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: kckgirl Date: August 30, 2019, 2:13 pm
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I would go with pick up the DVDs and forget it, but I'm cynical
like that.
#Post#: 37747--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Rose Red Date: August 30, 2019, 2:36 pm
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Personally, I'd cut off someone that disrespectful and sneaky
and laugh about it. However, if you want to keep hanging out
with him, don't have activities where he cooks the food. Have
take-out or your own cooking.
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: NFPwife Date: August 30, 2019, 3:07 pm
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My first thought, also, was "Pick up the DVDs and be done with
him." My guess is this is just another example of patterns of
behavior he has exhibited. Life's too short to tolerate this,
he had a chance to be better. He wasn't. Time to move on.
#Post#: 37750--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Dazi Date: August 30, 2019, 3:36 pm
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Remember, there's a reason he's your EX. For your own mental
health, leave his butt in ex-land. You don't need enemies, when
you have supposed "friends'' like that.
#Post#: 37755--------------------------------------------------
Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: NFPwife Date: August 30, 2019, 4:23 pm
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I'm at the gym jamming to Lizzo and just heard this lyric, it
made me think of this thread. 😃
"Only exes that I care about are in my f****** chromosomes."
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Hanna Date: August 30, 2019, 4:46 pm
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If you think of him as a friend, I’d have a discussion about it.
I think your comment on FB would have annoyed me, actually. He
posted a recipe and you yucked his yum. So I wouldn’t be too
cross about his response there.
I’m probably not the best one to give you advice though. When I
read that this is about grated cheese I thought, I’m not sure I
could be friends with someone that has cheese issues. Lol!
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: chigger Date: August 30, 2019, 5:30 pm
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Just don't eat anything with grated cheese! He knows you don't
like it. So just don't eat it.
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Hello Ducky Date: August 30, 2019, 7:52 pm
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[quote author=chigger link=topic=1302.msg37764#msg37764
date=1567204246]
Just don't eat anything with grated cheese! He knows you don't
like it. So just don't eat it.
[/quote]
It's not that easy. He sounds like the type who would only make
things with grated cheese to make a point; also, I understand
OP's aversion to the stuff. I find the smell of most grated
cheeses extremely unappetizing so much so that I can't sit at
the same table as someone using the stuff.
I vote for just getting the DVDs back. And since he's the one
who borrowed them, he can bring them to you.
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Re: S/O of "But I don't want to eat that"
By: Luci Date: August 30, 2019, 8:51 pm
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The answer is in your heart. If you want to be friends, call. If
you are willing to give it up, get the DVDs and carry on.
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