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       #Post#: 37369--------------------------------------------------
       Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: NyaChan Date: August 23, 2019, 9:58 pm
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       My closest friend from college had a baby last year. We live in
       different states so I’ve only met the baby once in person, but
       she does text me pictures of the baby.  This happens once a week
       roughly.  I like seein* the cute outfits, but I have a small
       problem - I’m running out of good responses!  I’ve done...
       Cute! (w. variations, how cute or cutie for example)
       Awwwww!
       Adorable!
       <3
       ...And it is getting really repetitive because sometimes we
       won’t text about anything in between so my prior responses are
       right there on the screen.  Anyone have some new ideas?  ;D
       #Post#: 37377--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: Aleko Date: August 24, 2019, 4:38 am
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       It's not you that's getting repetitive, it's her. I'd suggest
       you just keep responding accordingly. So long as she gets some
       friendly acknowledgement, I think that's fine. Eventually the
       stunning novelty of having given birth to a BABY! will wear off,
       her brain will start noticing the rest of the world again, and
       she'll find other things to say to you, as she used to do.
       #Post#: 37381--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: Hanna Date: August 24, 2019, 6:27 am
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       Do you have an iPhone? I really like the option of just putting
       a heart or thumbs up on pictures and texts I get when I have
       nothing more to say.
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       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: Catananche Date: August 24, 2019, 9:41 am
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       After I've run out of words I use the emoji's my phone has.
       First picture of the day gets a written comment, the rest get
       hearts, smiley faces, thumbs up or an appropriate emoji.
       Christmas picture #2 gets a tree and a heart, #3 gets a reindeer
       and a smiley face, #4 gets a santa and a heart... I enjoy the
       pictures, but I also run out of things to say.
       #Post#: 37419--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: Annabellaustralia Date: August 25, 2019, 12:46 am
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       a lot of my friends are on to 1st or second babies and reside in
       different states from me and I love getting the baby pics but
       I'm more interested in *them* than the babes, generally (I love
       to hold babies and play with kids, but if they don't know me,
       can't see me and aren't at an age to interact with me, I
       generally run out of platitudes/questions about the kiddos
       pretty quickly...BUT I love to hear how my friends are doing. I
       find myself sending many variations of this: 'oh what a
       cutie/sweetheart/little spunk/beauty/clever/handsome little
       thing - how are you doing?  and how is partner/mothers
       group/work/new city/other thing I know they're doing or going
       through. Tell me all the things! miss you, love you xx'
       #Post#: 37433--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: NyaChan Date: August 25, 2019, 11:08 am
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       Well it’s a relief to hear it’s not just me lol. I’ll keep
       cycling through the options then. It’s been rough for her lately
       with a lot of medical issues in the family so I want to be as
       supportive as possible.  Thank you!
       #Post#: 37443--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: Aleko Date: August 25, 2019, 12:26 pm
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       [quote]It’s been rough for her lately with a lot of medical
       issues in the family[/quote]
       In that case it's very possible that she really wants to
       maintain contact with her closest friend but just can't summon
       up the lightheartedness to gossip and chat, nor the energy to
       compose coherent levelheaded posts about the dire things that
       are going down, and the most she can manage is to whang her
       latest baby pictures to you every week to let you know you're
       still important to her, even though she isn't saying much.
       #Post#: 37446--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: DaDancingPsych Date: August 25, 2019, 12:37 pm
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       [quote author=Aleko link=topic=1296.msg37443#msg37443
       date=1566753996]
       [quote]It’s been rough for her lately with a lot of medical
       issues in the family[/quote]
       In that case it's very possible that she really wants to
       maintain contact with her closest friend but just can't summon
       up the lightheartedness to gossip and chat, nor the energy to
       compose coherent levelheaded posts about the dire things that
       are going down, and the most she can manage is to whang her
       latest baby pictures to you every week to let you know you're
       still important to her, even though she isn't saying much.
       [/quote]
       I have had friends do this. Not just with baby pictures, but
       with other important things in their lives. I sense that few
       people gush over their lives like I do. That's rather sad to me,
       but it still becomes exhausting sometimes. I feel like I have
       nothing more to say. I have taken a few approaches.
       Just be repetitive. Friend is being repetitive, so I don't worry
       much about it.
       Comment in a way that causes other conversation. "Is that the
       onesie that Jenny got her? Have you heard from Jenny lately?"
       Just don't comment. Typically they send another one and I can
       comment on that one or I can even send a message when some
       silence has occurred. "I haven't seen a new picture of that
       baby? Everything going well?"
       #Post#: 37447--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: jpcher Date: August 25, 2019, 12:57 pm
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       Do you actually talk to friend now and then? Not just snap
       chats, text, email?
       I'm asking because my DDs often (almost daily) send me snaps and
       I don't respond until the next time I talk to them on the phone.
       "Oh! That snap looked like so much fun! What were you doing?
       When did you go?" Voice conversations, to me, are so much more
       personable than a simple response to a snap "Cool!"
       Maybe, instead of replying to all the snaps individually, save
       your responses to when you actually do talk to her. "Thank you
       for all the wonderful photos, baby is . . ."
       Get the picture? ;)
       #Post#: 37537--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Responding to baby pics - what’s left to say?
       By: TootsNYC Date: August 26, 2019, 5:03 pm
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       send an emoji. A thumb's-up, or a heart.
       That's what I do.
       I love, love the thumb's-up. It can mean "saw that" or "thank
       you" or "that was really good."
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