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       Re: Socializing during chores
   DIR By: Chez Miriam
       Date: August 5, 2019, 1:12 pm
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       --- Quote from: lisastitch link ---
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       > Our neighbor used to be very chatty.  He'd come out and talk
       to me when I was gardening in the front yard. He could keep
       going for a LONG time!  I didn't go out into the yard without my
       cell phone in my pocket, so that if I really needed to get away,
       I could pull out the phone and say, "Sorry!  Gotta answer this!"
       as I headed back inside.
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       We live in a mobile (signal) black hole, but your post reminded
       me of my 'cutting-short-telephone-calls' technique: we have a
       plug in doorbell, and one of the units is behind the chair by
       the telephone...
       It has a button on top that you press to check it's working -
       and also when a (landline) call has gone on too long.
       "Ding-dong", "gotta go, that's my doorbell, bye!", job done! ;)
       ;D
       On the rare occasions we do get a mobile signal, and I want to
       end a call, all I have to do is move about 2" from having my
       head pressed against the front window, and voila, no more mobile
       call. :-\
       #Post#: 36018--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Socializing during chores
   DIR By: NFPwife
       Date: August 5, 2019, 7:11 pm
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       Thanks for the responses everyone! I've been starting to feel l
       like DH and I are the only ppl who aren't interested in these
       interactions because all attempts to shift and shape than are
       meet with subtext to suggest we're in the wrong. I do the keep
       moving strategy when we walk with a wave of my hands and, "Gotta
       stay in my zone!" That either goes over better or we're not
       around to see the response.  ;D
       Once, two ppl were stopped in their cars, one going each way to
       the only road to our house chatting. I really had to go to the
       bathroom. I waited three minutes, waved my huge Wendy's cup out
       the window and said, "I drank this whole thing on the way home!
       I really have to go!!" They laughed and moved, but there was a
       head shake to each other like " Some people are so impatient."
       Honestly, I'm okay with those responses, especially when I'm so
       clearly in the right. It's a work in progress for the other
       situations. Striking a line between being "those ppl" and having
       our boundaries trampled...
       #Post#: 36024--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Socializing during chores
   DIR By: NewHomeowner
       Date: August 6, 2019, 5:20 am
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       --- Quote from: Lexophile link ---
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       > I'm sorry, but anyone telling me "Turn that off." would have
       been immediately met with an icy glare of death. I am
       super-sensitive about this kind of control tactic, so I'm not
       the best one to offer any advice. I do send lots of moral
       support though!
       >
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       Yes!  I would have done the same thing.  I would have shouted
       (to be heard over the sound of the mower) 'I have to finish this
       before my allergies get too bad!  Get out of the way or I'm
       mowing your feet!'
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