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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: Luci
Date: July 17, 2019, 10:12 pm
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Fine with me. I would just give a bottle of Riesling and enjoy
the party.
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: Aleko
Date: July 18, 2019, 1:46 am
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> In the US punch can be either alcoholic (as strong or as mild
as you want it) or totally non-alcoholic.
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Ah - in that case it more or less equates to the British "fruit
cup", which always has chopped fruit and often mint in it, which
frequently makes it impossible to tell by the taste if its base
is just fruit juice and soda water or is 50% vodka (:o)
Punch isn't much favoured these days, outside old-fashioned
Masonic lodges and the like; it is distinguished from fruit cup
by being always strong and not full of bits of fruit.
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: Chez Miriam
Date: July 18, 2019, 5:12 am
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I agree the '700 bottle' bit does sound a bit braggy, but am
equally open to it being excitement.
Because of the way my mind works, I was immediately wondering
how big that cellar would have to be, and found this
HTML https://vigilantinc.com/wine-cellars/wine-cellar-construction-charts.php.
I'm another one whose offering probably wouldn't make the grade:
(when I'm drinking) I love cheap fizz. I've found some
champagne I get on with, but I'm often happier with the EUR <2
bottles that live on the bottom shelf of French supermarkets.
I would, of course, take something nicer!
Unless they're really entitled people, in which case they could
have what they asked for.
I'm guessing/hoping that they're not gimme-pigs, otherwise
jpcher would have mentioned this?
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: Miss Cathy
Date: July 18, 2019, 7:01 am
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I don't read the mention of the 700 bottle cellar as braggy,
more like "isn't this insane? Wait 'til you see it! We'll feel a
bit more like it belongs to us if we have at least something to
put in a tiny part of it."
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: wolfie
Date: July 18, 2019, 9:04 am
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I thought housewarmings were not gift giving occasions. or if
you give a gift it is a small token like a plant or salt.
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: Jem
Date: July 18, 2019, 9:08 am
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--- Quote from: jpcher link ---
>
>
> I have some thoughts, but would like to hear your take on this
type of invitation before I share.
>
> What say you?
>
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I think this sounds like a fun party! If I liked the people and
was free that day, I would go with a bottle or two of something
I like and have a great time! If I didn't like the people, I
would decline.
I am not a fan of looking for offense or "etiquette errors" in
invitations from people I care about.
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: Titanica
Date: July 18, 2019, 9:13 am
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> A punchbowl is a large bowl in which to mix and serve punch.
(Which, historically and in Britain to this day) is a strongly
alcoholic mixture of five (which in Sanskrit is pancha)
ingredients: spirits, sugar, lemon, water, and flavourings (eg
tea, spice, fruit); but I gather in the USA is a soft drink.
What this has to do with your friends' housewarming is moot.
>
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Seriously? I'm sure jpcher knows what a "punch bowl" is. She
was asking about "Punchbowl."
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: lakey
Date: July 18, 2019, 2:38 pm
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I guess I'm old fashioned. I think it is rude to ask for or
suggest/specify gifts. If people want to give you something and
need ideas, or want to be sure to give you something you need,
they can ask. I've done that with good results.
That being said, if I were close to the hosts and liked them, I
would ignore the minor faux pas and pick up a nice bottle of
wine to take. Life is too short to be spending your time getting
overly upset over every little thing that people do. If the
worst thing they do is to suggest a housewarming gift, they're
pretty good people.
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: jpcher
Date: July 18, 2019, 3:29 pm
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--- Quote from: Titanica link ---
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> [quote author=Aleko link=topic=1231.msg34799#msg34799
date=1563404504]
> A punchbowl is a large bowl in which to mix and serve punch.
(Which, historically and in Britain to this day) is a strongly
alcoholic mixture of five (which in Sanskrit is pancha)
ingredients: spirits, sugar, lemon, water, and flavourings (eg
tea, spice, fruit); but I gather in the USA is a soft drink.
What this has to do with your friends' housewarming is moot.
>
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Seriously? I'm sure jpcher knows what a "punch bowl" is. She
was asking about "Punchbowl."
[/quote]
Aleko -- I LOL'd and was appreciative of your usual informative
replies with your description of a punch bowl. You answered my
erroneous question to a T! ;D
Titanica -- Yes, I know what an actual punch bowl is, I took no
offense with with Aleko's response.
My first question should have been what is a Punchbowl Party?
I thought Punchbowl was a new type of party. Like a cocktail
party, a BBQ party, a slumber party. I didn't know what to
expect at a Punchbowl Party. Will food be offered or just punch?
LOL! Color me embarrassed:
--- Quote from: Sheena link ---
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> [quote author=jpcher link=topic=1231.msg34796#msg34796
date=1563400836]
> First question is what is a Punchbowl?
>
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Punchbowl is a site that does online invitations - it's a
competitor of Evite.
[/quote]
Thank you, Sheena, for your explanation and everyone here can
call me clueless. Sometimes my brain gets distracted and I don't
see things clearly. ::)
--- Quote from: Chez Miriam link ---
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> Unless they're really entitled people, in which case they
could have what they asked for.
>
> I'm guessing/hoping that they're not gimme-pigs, otherwise
jpcher would have mentioned this?
>
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No, not gimme-pigs, but somewhat entitled? Maybe? I remember
giving gifts to Niece while she was growing up and found out
(from her mom) that some of them just didn't cut the mustard.
(Is that a phrase? Or is it muster? LOL).
I thought the wording was a bit gift-grabby but many of you
mentioned that "In lieu of traditional gifts, we are asking
those who wish to bring something" is okay wording.
I can go along with that.
--- Quote from: Miss Cathy link ---
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> I don't read the mention of the 700 bottle cellar as braggy,
more like "isn't this insane? Wait 'til you see it! We'll feel a
bit more like it belongs to us if we have at least something to
put in a tiny part of it."
>
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I really like this sentiment Miss Cathy. And I'll go with it.
Thanks!
Thanks, everybody! As usual you put me on the right track.
P.S. Welcome to the board, Miss Cathy!
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Re: Housewarming question . . . what do you think of this?
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: July 18, 2019, 4:32 pm
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--- Quote from: Hmmm link ---
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> I wouldn't be offended by the invitation. I think mentioning
the size of the wine cellar comes across as braggy.
>
> While we are not supposed to mention gifts on invites, I think
it's become very common to give guidance when you know people
will bring gifts.
>
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I think this is where I come down.
I would consider a bottle of wine to be a token gift, and a
housewarming is a token-gift kind of thing.
But the "stock our huge wine cellar" is a bit braggy, and
combining it w/ the wine request, and it comes across more
grabby. But maybe they meant it to be fun. "Hey, wine will work
as a gift, because we have LOTS of places to put it! Isn't that
crazy?"
Especially if they didn't build that wine cellar (they bought a
home that was already built), I can see them thinking of it that
way.
I see the "your favorite" request as a request to "share a
little piece of yourself with us; it'll make us feel close to
you."
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