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#Post#: 34358--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: caroled Date: July 11, 2019, 5:58 pm
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[quote author=Contrarian link=topic=1217.msg34352#msg34352
date=1562879244]
In this circumstance, I would consider this to f under the, I
don’t want to say medical requirement but it falls into the same
category. I hope that’s not offensive but I believe it’s not a
preference but a need.
So I usually will say, “it’s just me, can I sit anywhere but a
high table?” But I’m often told no, despite a restaurant with
plenty of available 2 seaters.
I hope the restaurant is ashamed to lose a customer of 30 years.
Is it a new owner, I wonder.
[/quote]
A commenter used the term "differently abled", but trust me when
I say, this friend would not be offended for you to say medical
requirement, because for some people it is. In her review she
starts off by saying "Fat people, you are not welcome to sit at
******…..
Fat is just a descriptive word to some. The real issues come
when others use it to treat you (general) as being less than
human and undeserving of dignity or compassion or simple human
kindness.
#Post#: 34365--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: GardenGal Date: July 11, 2019, 8:35 pm
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[quote author=Contrarian link=topic=1217.msg34352#msg34352
date=1562879244]
In this circumstance, I would consider this to f under the, I
don’t want to say medical requirement but it falls into the same
category. I hope that’s not offensive but I believe it’s not a
preference but a need.
I also think requests should be accommodated as much as possible
but when there is a need there’s not question.
My initial question stemmed from the fact that I often eat alone
and, therefore, am often first offered a seat at the bar or a
high top.
I’m very short. I can function at a high top, but it’s
uncomfortable. The bar is twice as bad because it’s high, and it
invites conversation. I’m glad the bar invites conversation! I
think it’s great for people looking for some human interaction,
I just would prefer to read.
So I usually will say, “it’s just me, can I sit anywhere but a
high table?” But I’m often told no, despite a restaurant with
plenty of available 2 seaters.
I hope the restaurant is ashamed to lose a customer of 30 years.
Is it a new owner, I wonder.
[/quote]
I was just going to post about this! I'm also short, which I
love, but I cannot sit at a high table. My legs are just too
short and I can't comfortably wrangle myself into a seat. DH
and I ate at a very nice casual restaurant a couple of years
ago. The food was great, the ambience was nice, out server was
a peach. However, they only had high tables. I really wanted
to try their food (the buffalo chili was delicious), but it was
the most uncomfortable meal I've ever had, and obviously we
never went back, which I would definitely have done if they had
regular tables.
#Post#: 35686--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: Jayhawk Date: July 31, 2019, 12:34 pm
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[quote author=GardenGal link=topic=1217.msg34365#msg34365
date=1562895312]
[quote author=Contrarian link=topic=1217.msg34352#msg34352
date=1562879244]
In this circumstance, I would consider this to f under the, I
don’t want to say medical requirement but it falls into the same
category. I hope that’s not offensive but I believe it’s not a
preference but a need.
I also think requests should be accommodated as much as possible
but when there is a need there’s not question.
My initial question stemmed from the fact that I often eat alone
and, therefore, am often first offered a seat at the bar or a
high top.
I’m very short. I can function at a high top, but it’s
uncomfortable. The bar is twice as bad because it’s high, and it
invites conversation. I’m glad the bar invites conversation! I
think it’s great for people looking for some human interaction,
I just would prefer to read.
So I usually will say, “it’s just me, can I sit anywhere but a
high table?” But I’m often told no, despite a restaurant with
plenty of available 2 seaters.
I hope the restaurant is ashamed to lose a customer of 30 years.
Is it a new owner, I wonder.
[/quote]
I was just going to post about this! I'm also short, which I
love, but I cannot sit at a high table. My legs are just too
short and I can't comfortably wrangle myself into a seat. DH
and I ate at a very nice casual restaurant a couple of years
ago. The food was great, the ambience was nice, out server was
a peach. However, they only had high tables. I really wanted
to try their food (the buffalo chili was delicious), but it was
the most uncomfortable meal I've ever had, and obviously we
never went back, which I would definitely have done if they had
regular tables.
[/quote]
I'm not short - but I am older and overweight. I do not like
high tops and when asked, I tell the server no. I've never had a
problem with being seated at a regular table or booth, though.
#Post#: 35699--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: gmatoy Date: July 31, 2019, 3:17 pm
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I have been reading this with interest, as DH and I went out for
breakfast recently, to a well known chain. They started to seat
us at a table with chairs and DH said, "My wife has back issues,
could we sit at a booth?"
The hostess immediately stopped, surveyed the room and asked if
we "would be okay at that booth, once she got it wiped down?"
I always feel funny asking for a different table, but with my
back issues, and the fact that I too am short . . . I just need
to ask. (And get over the embarrassment.)
#Post#: 35734--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: accountingisfun Date: August 1, 2019, 8:14 am
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I had the opposite problem for a little while. I had a hip issue
that made it uncomfortable to sit in a normal chair or booth too
long (more than an hour). If I did, there would be significant
pain in standing again and I would have problems with the one
leg supporting me while I hobbled out of the restaurant. I had
to ask to sit at a high top so I could basically shift from
sitting to standing throughout the meal so I would be
comfortable. My husband hates sitting at a high top, but for a
month he had to deal with it so I could sit then stand then sit
as much as I needed to. Most restaurants had no problem with my
request if they had a high-top available and we were rarely in a
hurry so we didn't mind waiting at all. We were always kind
about it, patient about having to extend our wait, and that
helped quite a bit - especially when we said it was a medical
issue.
I'm sorry for the OP who had someone be judgmental and rude
about the seating. I find that people are judgmental about
weight when they are understanding of other medical issues, and
that is really sad. Weight is not a moral issue.
#Post#: 36920--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: Raintree Date: August 19, 2019, 1:54 am
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In response to the OP's question, I go out for a meal to have a
great experience, not to satisfy the fairness of seating
arrangements for the server's benefit. I have asked to be moved
to a better table before. I would never be rude about it. In the
most recent case, it was a rare family celebration, we had
reservations, and then it turned out we were seated right next
to the live performer (we hadn't realized there would be live
music) and with my mother's hearing problems, there was no way
she would be able to hear the conversation. None of us were
really able to hear over the music without shouting. It really
would have ruined a special occasion for us. We asked to be
moved further away from the performer and where we were moved to
was much better. I'd have been annoyed if that request had been
denied due to some internal need to divvy up the customers in a
way that benefits servers equally. I guess they had decide to
put the next two groups in the noisy section to even it out a
bit, but that is the host or manager's problem to deal with.
#Post#: 36964--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: TootsNYC Date: August 19, 2019, 11:18 am
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[quote author=jpcher link=topic=1217.msg33994#msg33994
date=1562426904]
AND! It was right next to the kitchen doors. Possibly the worst
table in the house.
It dawned on me. Oh, it's because we have children with us,
isn't it. ::)
The food was really good. The ambience not so much, with the
doors opening often, hearing the noise from the kitchen,
waitstaff passing our table, etc. It felt like we were put in
the corner because we were 'bad'. We didn't stay for dessert and
never went back again.
Now I do understand the fear of unruly children in a restaurant
but putting us in the corner when 1/2 the restaurant was empty?
Putting us at a table maybe a few away from the rest of the
diners would have been acceptable.
P.S. We dined out often with the girls since they were infants,
so they grew up knowing restaurant etiquette. Our server
commented on how well behaved they were and actually looked at
both of them and said "It was my pleasure to serve you."
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The thing is, all that distraction might have made it actually
harder for your little kids to focus and to be involved with the
meal.
My pastor got me to sit up front with my little kids, and they
were MUCH better behaved, and my oldest actually got involved in
the liturgy, etc. "It makes them feel like they're part of
things, when they can see, and they feel close to the action."
#Post#: 36966--------------------------------------------------
Re: Restaurant seating
By: TootsNYC Date: August 19, 2019, 11:20 am
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[quote author=Contrarian link=topic=1217.msg34352#msg34352
date=1562879244]
The bar is twice as bad because it’s high, and it invites
conversation. I’m glad the bar invites conversation! I think
it’s great for people looking for some human interaction, I just
would prefer to read.
[/quote]
Especially because if you're alone, that will be MORE invite
conversation. But you're there for dinner, not for socializing.
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