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#Post#: 33341--------------------------------------------------
When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: June 24, 2019, 10:41 am
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When should one RSVP for a wedding? I received an invitation six
months in advance of the ceremony and the online RSVP does not
have a date to do so by. However, my work schedule is not set
yet for that time period (it will be in a couple of months). I
don't work shift work where I could swap with someone for that
day, although I could ask for the day off if needed. However,
asking for the day off is a big deal and I am not close enough
to this couple that I would normally do that. They are great
people, but I was rather surprised that I made the list for
wedding guests! I would normally save requests to call off for
other things (like close family weddings, ect.) So, I am
wondering at what point do you think it necessary to RSVP? Can I
wait a bit to see how things pan out? Or should I decline now
because I don't know?
#Post#: 33342--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: Lilac
Date: June 24, 2019, 10:56 am
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Do you want to attend? If so, I think you could wait a month or
so, to see if you can swap shifts or if you'd have to use a
vacation day.
If you really don't want to attend just reply now "Regrettably,
our work schedules for the coming X months already are
established, so I will be unable to attend. Best wishes for a
lovely day."
#Post#: 33348--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: June 24, 2019, 12:09 pm
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--- Quote from: Lilac link ---
>
> Do you want to attend? If so, I think you could wait a month
or so, to see if you can swap shifts or if you'd have to use a
vacation day.
>
> If you really don't want to attend just reply now
"Regrettably, our work schedules for the coming X months already
are established, so I will be unable to attend. Best wishes for
a lovely day."
>
--- End Quote ---
I guess I missed a detail! :) Yes, if I have the day free I
would like to attend. I wasn't anticipating an invitation, but I
am delighted that they thought of me and they are a wonderful,
fun couple. However, if I have to use some work credit to get
the day free, no, I would prefer to not do that.
#Post#: 33355--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: lakey
Date: June 24, 2019, 1:56 pm
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--- Quote ---
> When should one RSVP for a wedding? I received an invitation
six months in advance of the ceremony and the online RSVP does
not have a date to do so by. However, my work schedule is not
set yet for that time period (it will be in a couple of months).
--- End Quote ---
If you are going to know in two months what your work schedule
is, then I would wait two months to RSVP. That is still four
months before the wedding. The people getting married probably
understand that not everyone is able to make plans six months in
advance.
#Post#: 33356--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: June 24, 2019, 2:04 pm
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most wedding RSVP dates are 2 to 4 weeks before the event. I'd
say respond by 2 months if at all possible, and 1 month at the
very latest.
#Post#: 33358--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: June 24, 2019, 2:44 pm
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--- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
>
> most wedding RSVP dates are 2 to 4 weeks before the event. I'd
say respond by 2 months if at all possible, and 1 month at the
very latest.
>
--- End Quote ---
This is very helpful information! I feel better about dragging
my feet to make a decision.
#Post#: 33364--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: jpcher
Date: June 24, 2019, 4:06 pm
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I received a wedding invitation last month. Wedding date is
October 31, RSVP by date is Sept. 15.
I think it's odd that your invite didn't have an RSVP by date, I
think they're going to be scrambling towards the end.
Are people sending out invites earlier in lieu of Save the
Dates? However I did receive a STD maybe 2 months before the
actual invite arrived which I thought was a bit silly,
especially since they gave 6 months notice with the invite
before the wedding date. I thought 6 months out was when the
STDs should be sent.
#Post#: 33369--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: Gellchom
Date: June 24, 2019, 4:35 pm
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That is really early!
Well, the rule for responding to any invitation is to do so as
promptly as possible. But you really don't know yet. So what I
would do is to write or email or put something on the web site
or whatever thanking them for the invitation and saying that (if
this is true -- otherwise just decline) you would love to
attend, but you don't know your schedule yet, but you hope to
know whether you can attend by [date] and will confirm then.
If they are trying to get a sense of numbers or something like
that, that will give them the best info you have at this point.
#Post#: 33381--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: Hanna
Date: June 24, 2019, 6:41 pm
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--- Quote from: DaDancingPsych link ---
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> [quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1203.msg33356#msg33356
date=1561403088]
> most wedding RSVP dates are 2 to 4 weeks before the event. I'd
say respond by 2 months if at all possible, and 1 month at the
very latest.
>
--- End Quote ---
This is very helpful information! I feel better about dragging
my feet to make a decision.
[/quote]
The caterer for my wedding wanted numbers 3 weeks prior, so I
set my date to give some space for that.
#Post#: 33399--------------------------------------------------
Re: When Should I RSVP?
DIR By: DaDancingPsych
Date: June 25, 2019, 7:26 am
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--- Quote from: jpcher link ---
>
> I think it's odd that your invite didn't have an RSVP by date,
I think they're going to be scrambling towards the end.
>
--- End Quote ---
I found it odd, too. It only included directions to log into
their Knot site to RSVP. I then searched their entire site for a
date (none to be found.) While it sounds like there is an
etiquette as to when to respond, I think putting a hard date
helps people to actually respond. There was mention on the
website of a dinner, so I would think at some point that would
want to know numbers (even if the family is catering.)
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