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#Post#: 33352--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: Rose Red Date: June 24, 2019, 1:34 pm
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Maybe you can suggest that all the food shouldn't come out all
at once when there's an event. Replenish as needed so food that
was held back and served on Wednesdays aren't gross and picked
over.
But appearance still matter so I also suggest fresh food too. A
full, or almost full, leftover pan of lasagna with a full bowl
salad and full loaf of bread is fine. A hodgepodge of leftover
bits and pieces is shoddy and insulting.
#Post#: 33373--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: Lilac Date: June 24, 2019, 4:52 pm
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To be honest, I would look askance at a pan of lasagna from
which pieces had been removed at a prior event. Bacteria gets
introduced that way and who knows how it was stored or
maintained.
This sounds like a small group for which $50 would buy a lot of
pizza or freshly made pasta or a deli platter from a reputable
grocer. I'm all for frugality but save the picked-over food for
intimate members and serve the best you possibly can to
newcomers.
#Post#: 33375--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: chigger Date: June 24, 2019, 5:05 pm
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Hoenestly, I would tell her what looks like leftover crap and
just toss it, or if it is able to be salvaged show her how to
present it.
#Post#: 33393--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: lakey Date: June 24, 2019, 11:58 pm
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Moist food items, such as layered dips and casseroles, that
have been through a potluck look yucky. There is also a food
safety issue. I wouldn't give it to others. I'd only take it for
myself if I knew it hadn't been out very long, and the people
who partook of it served themselves neatly.
#Post#: 33395--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: Aleko Date: June 25, 2019, 2:00 am
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I have quite a lot of sympathy with Tammy's instinctive
reluctance to waste food, having been brought up by a mother who
had been through the London Blitz, wartime rationing, and years
postwar austerity (and her family were Quakers, frugal on
principle, even before all of that). Yes, useable leftovers
should be used: either donate them the same day to some
charitable use, or let the participants (who have seen how they
have been put out and dealt with, and can make an informed
choice about whether they are happy with that) take them home.
But offering obvious leftovers to guests, which is what
newcomers to the church essentially are, is blatantly rude.
#Post#: 34083--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: katiekat2009 Date: July 8, 2019, 10:32 am
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I would dearly love to see an update on this.
#Post#: 34156--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: jazzgirl205 Date: July 9, 2019, 9:28 am
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Never apologize for wanting things well presented. It makes
people feel wanted and accepted. I grew up with a mother who did
a lot of volunteer work which included planning fund raising
galas. When I was a housewife, I did those things as well.
Presentation matters!!!! When I joined my present church, we
gave the choir director a surprise birthday party - nothing
fancy, but still festive. The lady who volunteered to make the
cake brought it still in it's stained dented aluminum baking pan
with no icing or any decoration. The cake looked like she even
mixed the batter in the same pan. Everyone else made their
contributions look nice with platters etc... I wonder if someone
said something to her. She never volunteered another cake again.
#Post#: 34177--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: vintagegal Date: July 9, 2019, 2:38 pm
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I volunteer at a food shelf and we would probably throw out
donations like that. Full pans of prepared food, if the donor is
known to us and we can be sure it has not experienced unsafe
conditions, OK.
#Post#: 34875--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: TootsNYC Date: July 18, 2019, 4:34 pm
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[quote author=jazzgirl205 link=topic=1189.msg34156#msg34156
date=1562682493]
Never apologize for wanting things well presented. It makes
people feel wanted and accepted. I grew up with a mother who did
a lot of volunteer work which included planning fund raising
galas. When I was a housewife, I did those things as well.
Presentation matters!!!! When I joined my present church, we
gave the choir director a surprise birthday party - nothing
fancy, but still festive. The lady who volunteered to make the
cake brought it still in it's stained dented aluminum baking pan
with no icing or any decoration. The cake looked like she even
mixed the batter in the same pan. Everyone else made their
contributions look nice with platters etc... I wonder if someone
said something to her. She never volunteered another cake again.
[/quote]
Yes!
My daughter participated in a youth-group/confirmation
instruction thing that was spread across several churches. In
the very first gathering, which was to start at 6pm (which meant
she left us at 4:45), there was no food. Nothing. Nada. Not even
popcorn. I'd assumed
By the time they got around to our church, I figured I'd show
them how it should be.
At Women's Ministries, we had tablecloths, quiche, fruit, etc.
So I made FOOD FOR DAYS.
I figured it was really important to tell these
soon-to-be-adult-members of our church that we were glad they
were there.
The food, and presentation, were an important part of it.
#Post#: 34894--------------------------------------------------
Re: Wednesday night church dinner concerns
By: Chez Miriam Date: July 19, 2019, 6:23 am
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I used to live near a friend who was on a similarly (tightly)
restricted budget, and we each agreed to have meals (dinner
parties?) at each other's homes without spending a huge amount
on the food.
We each, in our own ways, made the evening as special as
possible: candles, mood-lighting, best china, etc, etc, etc. I
remember those eveninsg so much more fondly than the meal we ate
overlooking Notre Dame cathedral in Paris where the
table-setting seemed thrown together*.
Judgemental? Most definitely, but when people are in the
promotion industries, the message they are sending must be less
unwitting, surely?
* I know they had good glassware they could have brought out, as
we contributed to that stock handsomely for their wedding gift
the previous year.
If you want the church young people to feel they don't matter,
giving them leftovers is a perfect way to convey that message.
:'(
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