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       #Post#: 32082--------------------------------------------------
       And I respected you, too
   DIR By: shadowfox79
       Date: June 1, 2019, 6:31 am
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       This was something that happened a while ago, but was brought up
       in conversation with a friend yesterday.
       I used to follow a particular celebrity (in the broadest sense -
       he was from a paranormal show) on Facebook. Obviously I didn't
       know him personally but he seemed to be one of the few
       paranormal types who made the effort to debunk things, so I
       liked him.
       Right up until he posted a transphobic meme on his wall. It was
       during the debate about which toilet trans people should use,
       and was along the lines of "Any man follows my daughter into the
       bathroom and I'll beat his skull in." I just remember staring at
       it and thinking, "Damn. And I respected you, too."
       I simply unfollowed him without comment. He doesn't owe me an
       explanation and I doubt he'd offer one anyway. However, a lot of
       people had already commented in disgust, which is entirely up to
       them.
       This came up when talking to a friend yesterday and she told me
       I should, in fact, have commented, because it would have been
       the right thing to do.
       Was it?
       #Post#: 32083--------------------------------------------------
       Re: And I respected you, too
   DIR By: Rose Red
       Date: June 1, 2019, 6:57 am
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       There's no right or wrong. Everyone is entitled to their
       opinion. However, since his opinion is public, people are free
       to respond publicly. You can say you don't agree or how you're
       disappointed with his views if you think he'll actually listen
       or care. But quietly unfollowing him is a statement all it's own
       too.
       Maybe he'll change his attitude one day, but personally, I think
       disagreeing with him in the heat of the moment will just make
       him defensive and double down so I can understand why some
       wouldn't even bother.
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       Re: And I respected you, too
   DIR By: Jem
       Date: June 1, 2019, 7:15 am
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       If you wanted to comment, you could have and should have, but I
       don’t think you are obligated to do anything. A person is not
       required to “call out” all things disagreed with all the time.
       Sometimes just walking away (or unfollowing) is the healthiest
       thing to do.
       #Post#: 32090--------------------------------------------------
       Re: And I respected you, too
   DIR By: Tea Drinker
       Date: June 1, 2019, 8:31 am
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       I doubt that being (say) the 53rd stranger to call this guy out
       would have made any difference to whether he changed his mind,
       or his behavior. There might be a difference between being
       criticized by one stranger and many, but this is past that
       point. Most likely, either he already gets it, or one more
       person pointing out that they disagree would be another fragment
       of "evidence" for a belief that he's being piled on.
       If you want to pursue this with your friend, you might ask her
       what she thought would have been accomplished by you commenting,
       in this specific context. Or you could just note that there are,
       always, more things that are worth doing than any one person has
       time and energy for, and this isn't where you choose to put
       yours.
       #Post#: 32140--------------------------------------------------
       Re: And I respected you, too
   DIR By: shadowfox79
       Date: June 2, 2019, 4:09 am
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       --- Quote from: Tea Drinker link ---
       >
       > I doubt that being (say) the 53rd stranger to call this guy
       out would have made any difference to whether he changed his
       mind, or his behavior. There might be a difference between being
       criticized by one stranger and many, but this is past that
       point. Most likely, either he already gets it, or one more
       person pointing out that they disagree would be another fragment
       of "evidence" for a belief that he's being piled on.
       >
       > If you want to pursue this with your friend, you might ask her
       what she thought would have been accomplished by you commenting,
       in this specific context. Or you could just note that there are,
       always, more things that are worth doing than any one person has
       time and energy for, and this isn't where you choose to put
       yours.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       Good idea. I honestly don't think my comment would have made any
       difference, and I don't think it's my job to educate someone who
       I'm sure is perfectly aware of the opposing arguments already.
       #Post#: 32167--------------------------------------------------
       Re: And I respected you, too
   DIR By: LadyX
       Date: June 2, 2019, 4:56 pm
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       We don't have a lot of rules here, but posts that are political
       in nature or inflammatory are greatly discouraged.
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