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I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: May 27, 2019, 8:42 pm
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I posted on FB about a great deal I found on shoes. A friend
in-boxed me to ask if the shoes had good arch support. I said
they did, I have high arches and have worn this shoe for years.
I could see our last interaction in messenger while I was
replying; she was asking where a church she needed to go to
later that week was. I sent her the address and a link from
Google maps. At the time I thought, "You can't Google?" but sent
it to her. As I was looking at that, she replied to say, "How do
you know if you have high arches?" I replied, "Honestly, it's
obvious just looking at my foot. Maybe Google that if you aren't
sure." She said, "I will, thanks."
I really wanted to do this
HTML http://lmgtfy.com/?q=how+to+tell+if+you+have+high+arches
but
that's too snarky. Anyone have go to when someone could have
Googled? I realize I shouldn't have paid it off last time and I
want to shape this moving forward.
#Post#: 31795--------------------------------------------------
Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: oogyda
Date: May 28, 2019, 5:42 am
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Thank you for that link!!!! I can see that is going to be
ooohhh ssooooo useful in my future!!!!
#Post#: 31798--------------------------------------------------
Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: Victoria
Date: May 28, 2019, 7:37 am
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I enjoy Let Me Google That For You as a joke, but IMO if someone
is clueless enough to ask you basic questions that can be
Googled, they're impervious to being suitably embarrassed by
LMGTFY or even by being told that they should Google something.
I have someone in my life who periodically asks me Google-able
questions and I've just been saying (in a pleasant tone) "Not
sure, I bet Google will know" or "I'm sure it's on Google Maps."
If it was enough of an issue to make me resent her or become
distracted by it, I would point it out to her.
#Post#: 31799--------------------------------------------------
Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: May 28, 2019, 8:01 am
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While I often feel the same as you about having people ask me a
question I feel they can easily find on their own, I have to
remember there are people who prefer to engage with a human
versus a computer. While just a question to you, they see it as
a social interaction and making contact with someone else. With
so many people using texts and messaging apps to hold
conversations, I try to think if it would be odd for them to ask
me a question if we were in person.
So you made a social post about a great buy on shoes. She sees
that as opening and inviting a dialogue about the shoes you
bought. Moving from do you know if they are good for high arches
to how did you determine if you had high arches would be a
natural progression in an in person conversation to me.
Her asking the address for the church to me was a way to remind
you that she planned to visit that church (maybe you guys had a
conversation previously about it?) or maybe open a conversation
about you traveling together.
If someone asks me for information that I can't easily provide,
I do the same as I would an in person conversation and let them
know I don't have the information handy In your example about
the address I would have said "Sorry, I don't have it handy but
you can find it by searching the church name."
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Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: Jem
Date: May 28, 2019, 8:03 am
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I think some people are lazy in asking someone else for
information, but some people actually view it as a conversation
and positive interaction. I don't know that snark is necessary -
it might make you feel better, but if you generally like the
other person it could tarnish the relationship. I would either
just answer (if I knew) or suggest they look it up. And if I
didn't like the person and they messaged me (as opposed to face
to face) I might just not respond.
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Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: May 28, 2019, 9:40 am
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--- Quote from: Hmmm link ---
>
> While I often feel the same as you about having people ask me
a question I feel they can easily find on their own, I have to
remember there are people who prefer to engage with a human
versus a computer. While just a question to you, they see it as
a social interaction and making contact with someone else. With
so many people using texts and messaging apps to hold
conversations, I try to think if it would be odd for them to ask
me a question if we were in person.
>
> So you made a social post about a great buy on shoes. She sees
that as opening and inviting a dialogue about the shoes you
bought. Moving from do you know if they are good for high arches
to how did you determine if you had high arches would be a
natural progression in an in person conversation to me.
>
> Her asking the address for the church to me was a way to
remind you that she planned to visit that church (maybe you guys
had a conversation previously about it?) or maybe open a
conversation about you traveling together.
>
> If someone asks me for information that I can't easily
provide, I do the same as I would an in person conversation and
let them know I don't have the information handy In your example
about the address I would have said "Sorry, I don't have it
handy but you can find it by searching the church name."
>
--- End Quote ---
Thanks for this perspective. I thought of that when I was
falling asleep last night, that asking is a way to reach out for
social connection. The first one annoyed me because I was
working and don't like the interruptions. (But I could have just
ignored it! And will in the future.) Seeing the first one in the
thread with the second had me interpreting the second
differently.
--- Quote from: Jem link ---
>
> I think some people are lazy in asking someone else for
information, but some people actually view it as a conversation
and positive interaction. I don't know that snark is necessary -
it might make you feel better, but if you generally like the
other person it could tarnish the relationship. I would either
just answer (if I knew) or suggest they look it up. And if I
didn't like the person and they messaged me (as opposed to face
to face) I might just not respond.
>
--- End Quote ---
Thanks to you too, Jem. I think this is social interaction. I
posted about this person on the old. She worked at our doctor's
office and was a little put off that I didn't do a lot of chit
chat when I called for something. (We ended up leaving that
office, in part, because of her being at the front desk. She
told me when my parents were in for an appointment and carried
something my parents said to me; it was definitely something she
shouldn't have repeated.) I think she likes the social
interaction and, while I was annoyed about the HIPPA things, I
generally like her so I'll keep that in mind.
I would never send someone a LMGTFY, but there are times the
temptation is strong.
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Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: bopper
Date: May 28, 2019, 10:11 am
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I have the Google-fu, but i always kind of laugh when people ask
me to google stuff for them...stuff where I just type in
literally what they say and the answer they want comes up...but
somehow they couldn't find it
Like "who sang the song with 'my power, my pleasure, my pain" in
it.
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Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: Victoria
Date: May 28, 2019, 11:15 am
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I understand what Hmmm and Jem are saying and I'm sure that's
the reason some people do it, but I can't understand the thought
process behind it. To me it just seems a bit...entitled, maybe?
One sided?
I can see where subjective information or personal anecdotes
could be good topics of conversation-"Is there a good place to
eat around here?" or "How do you like your doctor?" But I don't
want to spend my time dispensing purely objective information
that could be pulled out of a computer.
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Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: Rose Red
Date: May 28, 2019, 12:47 pm
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Some people just know stuff off the top of their head and other
people love to show off their knowledge or research skills.
These are the people the asker is looking for.
I don't mind answering if I know the subject with no effort on
my part, but I have no problem telling them that I don't know
something and they should do their own research since I don't
want to give them the wrong answer.
It only annoys me if they won't accept that and ask me to do the
work of researching for them.
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Re: I'm not your personal Google
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: May 28, 2019, 1:23 pm
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--- Quote from: Victoria link ---
>
> I understand what Hmmm and Jem are saying and I'm sure that's
the reason some people do it, but I can't understand the thought
process behind it. To me it just seems a bit...entitled, maybe?
One sided?
>
> I can see where subjective information or personal anecdotes
could be good topics of conversation-"Is there a good place to
eat around here?" or "How do you like your doctor?" But I don't
want to spend my time dispensing purely objective information
that could be pulled out of a computer.
>
--- End Quote ---
I agree that in some cases it is just being lazy. And unless
someone is asking me for my address than in most cases that
question will be answered with I don't have it handy because my
address is about the only one I know without looking it up. But
even then there are times I will answer the question. If a
friend is driving and calls me to ask me to look up an address,
I will. We also have a friend who is just lousy at typing on his
phone so if he texts with "hey, I forgot to get the address of
the restaurant we are meeting at, would you send it?" I will
send it.
If it's a question where they don't know reliable sources of
information (don't we all preach don't believe everything on the
internet), I will share my previous research. Or like in the
example of "how do you know you have a high arch", OP had
obviously done some research so it seems like a normal
progression of a conversation.
I also think there are some people who just are better at
quickly getting information. For example, I mentioned to my DH
about a new brewery that I had heard was opening in our area and
gave him what I thought was the name. He later said he couldn't
find anything on it and only saw a results for a brewery with a
similar name in another state. From my computer, I googled the
same parameters and a FB page for the brewery was shown. My
results were more accurate because I have more of a history of
googling breweries in our area, I was logged into Google from
my gmail account so it has more info about my location and
previous search history and I'm a FB user so those results came
up first.
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