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Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: Twik Date: May 13, 2019, 3:13 pm
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interesting article today
HTML http://www.msn.com/en-ca/lifestyle/weddings/a-best-man-started-a-break-up-bet-at-his-best-friends-wedding-and-it-did-not-end-well/ar-AABithl?ocid=ientp<br
/>about a best man who, during his speech, announced he was
running a pool about when the happy couple would get divorced.
He thinks he was being a great bro - if they stay together long
enough, they get the money! What a cool prize!
Strangely, the non-bro members of the wedding are furious at
him, and he's confused and perplexed as to why.
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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: Chez Miriam Date: May 13, 2019, 3:37 pm
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[quote author=Twik link=topic=1132.msg30980#msg30980
date=1557778435]
interesting article today
HTML http://www.msn.com/en-ca/lifestyle/weddings/a-best-man-started-a-break-up-bet-at-his-best-friends-wedding-and-it-did-not-end-well/ar-AABithl?ocid=ientp<br
/>about a best man who, during his speech, announced he was
running a pool about when the happy couple would get divorced.
He thinks he was being a great bro - if they stay together long
enough, they get the money! What a cool prize!
Strangely, the non-bro members of the wedding are furious at
him, and he's confused and perplexed as to why.
[/quote]
All I can hope, is that this dope remains forever single. >:(
#Post#: 30993--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: lakey Date: May 13, 2019, 4:43 pm
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Sometimes humor or "bro" humor is actually thinly veiled
hostility. This is nasty, and he'd have to be a complete idiot
to not see how nasty it is. I can't imagine how my relatives
would have reacted if anyone had made a speech or toast like
that at a wedding. Fortunately the bride, bride's family, and
the groom didn't give him a pass on his idiot behavior.
#Post#: 31091--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: Thitpualso Date: May 14, 2019, 4:58 pm
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Humor in Wedding toasts has to be carefully thought out and it
must be gentle. When Nephew 2 married, nephew 1 (who was the
best man) made a lovely speech. He wished the HC everything you
would expect a loving brother to say and added at the end,
�Also, thanks for getting married first. That�s taken a lot of
pressure off me�.
That went down well with the guests Even the parents of the two
brothers laughed heartily.
The lottery described in the link was, in my mind, the exact
opposite. Did anyone who contributed to the pool stop to think
about how the HC would feel about their marriage being treated
like a basketball team in March Madness? Did anyone really
believe that the money would be carefully preserved for 20
years?
I think not.
It�s good that there was blow-back on this. The idiot Best Man
deserved what he got.
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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: MinMom3 Date: May 14, 2019, 8:23 pm
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[quote author=lakey link=topic=1132.msg30993#msg30993
date=1557783835]
Sometimes humor or "bro" humor is actually thinly veiled
hostility. This is nasty, and he'd have to be a complete idiot
to not see how nasty it is. I can't imagine how my relatives
would have reacted if anyone had made a speech or toast like
that at a wedding. Fortunately the bride, bride's family, and
the groom didn't give him a pass on his idiot behavior.
[/quote]
I'd say rather not-at-all veiled hostility! Was the best many
angry that the bride 'stole' his buddy?
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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: Hanna Date: May 14, 2019, 9:58 pm
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So he�s planning on holding onto $3k for 22 years then giving it
to them? Right. (Anyone calculated the future value of that
yet?)
Also, what kind of friends do these people have that so many
people went along with this?! I�d venture to say any one of us
here would have handed the guy�s head to him before he gave the
speech if we�d been at that wedding and asked to bet.
#Post#: 31124--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: Chez Miriam Date: May 15, 2019, 3:47 am
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[quote author=Hanna link=topic=1132.msg31120#msg31120
date=1557889102]
So he�s planning on holding onto $3k for 22 years then giving it
to them? Right. (Anyone calculated the future value of that
yet?)
Also, what kind of friends do these people have that so many
people went along with this?! I�d venture to say any one of us
here would have handed the guy�s head to him before he gave the
speech if we�d been at that wedding and asked to bet.
[/quote]
We've been to/been invited to a couple of weddings where we
privately wondered how long the marriage would last, and we most
definitely would have shut that down immediately. What my
husband and I discuss in the privacy of our own homes is not
necessarily what we say in public. In public, we would wish the
happy couple all the very best and say nothing about predicted
longevity of a marriage; it's absolutely none of our business!
I heard a best man speech where he told of the groom eating
"pineapple chunks" when falling-down drunk. I hadn't a clue
what was funny about that, so had to ask my (then) boyfriend;
turns out "pineapple chunks" was a slang term/euphemism for the
freshener blocks that live in the bottom of urinals. :o :o :o
I thought that speech was in very bad taste! I suspect I may
have heckled the best man in the story.
#Post#: 31177--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: TootsNYC Date: May 15, 2019, 9:36 pm
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I remember being really offended on the couple's behalf when the
priest at their wedding made a joke about having to chase the
groom to drag him back to the altar.
IN THE HOMILY.
It was just so rude.
(and inaccurate; the groom was incandescently enthusiastic)
#Post#: 31242--------------------------------------------------
Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: Gellchom Date: May 16, 2019, 2:28 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1132.msg31177#msg31177
date=1557974167]
I remember being really offended on the couple's behalf when the
priest at their wedding made a joke about having to chase the
groom to drag him back to the altar.
IN THE HOMILY.
It was just so rude.
(and inaccurate; the groom was incandescently enthusiastic)
[/quote]
I don't know why people still think that this tired, sexist
trope of men being roped into marriage is funny anyway, let
alone in such a screamingly inappropriate context. I remember
on an old board someone saying that they loved to give a pair of
running shoes as an engagement gift to grooms. I cannot imagine
any couple not finding that incredibly insulting.
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Re: Would this qualify as wedding guest Darwinism?
By: Hanna Date: May 16, 2019, 4:39 pm
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[quote author=Gellchom link=topic=1132.msg31242#msg31242
date=1558034914]
[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1132.msg31177#msg31177
date=1557974167]
I remember being really offended on the couple's behalf when the
priest at their wedding made a joke about having to chase the
groom to drag him back to the altar.
IN THE HOMILY.
It was just so rude.
(and inaccurate; the groom was incandescently enthusiastic)
[/quote]
I don't know why people still think that this tired, sexist
trope of men being roped into marriage is funny anyway, let
alone in such a screamingly inappropriate context. I remember
on an old board someone saying that they loved to give a pair of
running shoes as an engagement gift to grooms. I cannot imagine
any couple not finding that incredibly insulting.
[/quote]
I was at a wedding where the same joke was made to the bride! It
was honestly hysterical but we totally raised our own eyebrows
and we�re pretty shocked. The groom seemed to get a kick out of
it.
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