URI:
   DIR Return Create A Forum - Home
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Bad Manners and Brimstone
  HTML https://badmanners.createaforum.com
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       *****************************************************
   DIR Return to: Life in General
       *****************************************************
       #Post#: 30346--------------------------------------------------
       Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: jpcher
       Date: May 2, 2019, 6:24 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Our cafeteria at work (and I've seen this at buffets as well)
       has serve-yourself soup set in heated tureens. They have two
       offerings of soup with two tureens each (one in front, one in
       back, with the back one still covered).
       I've seen people take the ladle, go down to the bottom, scoop up
       all the good stuff then lean the ladle against the side of the
       tureen to drain the broth, empty the ladle into their bowl and
       repeat. So their cup is full of all the good stuff with little
       broth.
       Normally I go to lunch early and it doesn't seem to be an issue,
       but there have been times when I go to lunch later and the front
       tureen is less than 1/2 full of mostly broth, very little good
       stuff!
       When this happens, I'll pick up the lid on the back tureen and
       serve myself from there. Plenty of good stuff! Then I'll put the
       lid back on and go my merry way. I'm tempted to do the scoop and
       drain, but that takes time when there's a line.
       Wondering what you all think . . . is it rude to do the
       scoop/drain? or just inconsiderate? Is it rude/inconsiderate for
       me to go to the back tureen when there's still broth (but not
       the good stuff) in the front tureen? or is that Okay?
       #Post#: 30347--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: Lilac
       Date: May 2, 2019, 6:39 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       All else being equal, I think people should take what comes in a
       regular ladle full of the soup.
       But given that the other diners are willfully disrupting the
       broth/solids ratio of the soup, I don't think you are in the
       wrong to help yourself to the ratio you prefer, whatever tureen
       it is from.
       That said, why not contact the chef or cafeteria manager and
       point out this issue to them?  Maybe they could come up with
       another solution.
       Interstingly, I prefer the broth to most soups and deliberately
       avoid the solids.  For example, French onion soup on a
       restaurant -- I don't really want the onions, gratin or
       croutons, and have often wished for the nerve to just order the
       full bowl of broth.  But figured that would be insulting to the
       chef.  Perhaps they wouldn't mind, though. Same with minestrone,
       chicken noodle, etc.
       #Post#: 30349--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: browzer11
       Date: May 2, 2019, 10:38 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Do not contact the chef or cafeteria manager and point out this
       issue to them. Unless you want to be known as "that special"
       person.
       #Post#: 30351--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: Sycorax
       Date: May 2, 2019, 11:04 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       What good would it do to report it?  They're not going to
       appoint a soup monitor, and I'm sure any restaurant that serves
       soup like this is aware that people do this.
       #Post#: 30354--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: TootsNYC
       Date: May 2, 2019, 11:24 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       there's no enforcing it, of course (there seldom is with
       Etiquette), but I think it's rude to take all the solids of the
       soup.
       #Post#: 30355--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: Dazi
       Date: May 2, 2019, 11:50 pm
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Well, there are the weirdos like me who balance it out...I
       prefer the liquid/broth.  So, I usually get very little solids
       and mostly liquid. 😜
       Really though, just get what you want and call it good.
       #Post#: 30356--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: TeamBhakta
       Date: May 3, 2019, 12:08 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       I don't see the point in complaining to the cafeteria
       management. It's first come, first served. That's the downside
       of a cafeteria line. You put out a pan of macaroni, other people
       will get the breadcrumb topping first. A pan of fajita chicken =
       there's a pile of bell peppers and onions left behind.
       #Post#: 30357--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: Isisnin
       Date: May 3, 2019, 12:16 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Reminds me of the Escarole Tortellini soup a hospital I worked
       at served. It was incredibly good. And it seemed like everyone
       used a large soda cup instead of the soup bowls as the large
       soda cups were about twice the size of the soup bowls. And, yes,
       it seemed like everyone served themselves mostly the solids and
       very little broth. And the cafeteria didn't seem to mind.
       I've always suspected that they threw every leftover anything in
       there. But it had to have been the most delicious, most popular
       thing they served.
       Oh, I miss it.
       #Post#: 30364--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: cb140
       Date: May 3, 2019, 6:37 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       This made me smile because I love broth and don’t like “stuff”
       in it, so I’d be the one carefully putting the ladle in to get
       broth while trying to avoid all the icky bits floating in it! So
       I’d do fine at your work :)
       To answer your question, I think it is a little bit
       inconsiderate but I would assume that the catering staff would
       be refilling the tureens as required, so I don’t think its any
       ruder than any other canteen situation of taking the part you
       want and leaving the part you don’t
       #Post#: 30373--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Rude? Inconsiderate? or Okay?
   DIR By: STiG
       Date: May 3, 2019, 8:29 am
       ---------------------------------------------------------
       Taking the ladle down to the bottom and stirring before taking
       your portion?  Completely fine.  Draining the broth off to only
       get the solid bits?  That shouldn't be done, IMO.  I would call
       it rude, as opposed to just inconsiderate.  The OP going to the
       second tureen when the first is left with just broth?  Also
       fine.
       The cafeteria could go to selling their cups of soup by weight -
       weigh an average bowl and then calculate a price per ounce based
       on what they currently charge.  Those that load up with the
       solid bits will have to pay more.
       --- Quote from: Lilac link ---
       >
       > For example, French onion soup on a restaurant -- I don't
       really want the onions, gratin or croutons, and have often
       wished for the nerve to just order the full bowl of broth.  But
       figured that would be insulting to the chef.  Perhaps they
       wouldn't mind, though. Same with minestrone, chicken noodle,
       etc.
       >
       --- End Quote ---
       I think you would be fine to order it, requesting that the bread
       and cheese be left off but I think it would be a little strange
       to ask them to hold the onions.  Leaving off the topper doesn't
       affect the rest of the batch of soup.  Siphoning off the broth
       does.  Of course, it depends on how fancy the restaurant is and
       whether or not their soup is made on site.  If they get
       individual portions frozen, it might be harder to customize.
       *****************************************************
       Page 1 of 2
   DIR Next Page