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But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: Rho Date: April 7, 2019, 9:19 pm
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In the near future DH & I are invited to have dinner at
Pams' house. She is a great cook and serves a wonderful meal.
However last time she baked a Sponge Cake; something that I have
never ever liked. It is high in sugar, low in flavor, and very
dry.
She put a slice on everyones' plate---along with slices from the
cake I had baked and brought with Pams permission.
I didn't know how to handle this so I ate everything and was
annoyed about all the calories from something I didn't enjoy.
How could I have politely refused to eat the Sponge Cake ?
#Post#: 29048--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: NyaChan Date: April 7, 2019, 10:15 pm
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I would have just not eaten that other slice or said when handed
the plate “oh I don’t know if I can handle two slices! Should we
set one aside before I eat from the plate?”
#Post#: 29049--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: Luci Date: April 7, 2019, 10:43 pm
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Just don’t eat it. If she rudely comments on it, say that you
had enough, thank you. No one forces me to eat anything just to
be "polite."
#Post#: 29051--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: Aleko Date: April 8, 2019, 1:45 am
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Perhaps Pam didn't want to put people on the spot by asking them
which cake they wanted, which would force them either to snub
one or other of the cake bakers or to look greedy by saying
'Both, please!', and thought best to give everyone a slice of
both and leave them to eat whatever they chose. (Another
solution could have been to cut slices of each on to a platter
and hand it round to everyone; but not everybody's table is
suited to that.)
If you were in time to forestall her planking both kinds on your
plate, you could without offence have said, perfectly
truthfully, 'No sponge cake for me please - it's just not my
thing'. If not, you could simply have left it. No sane host/ess
expects every guest to love every item they serve, or requires
them to eat everything whether they like it or not; and it is
rude to pay close attention to, let alone comment on, what
guests leave on their plate.
#Post#: 29055--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: Rose Red Date: April 8, 2019, 6:55 am
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Next time, I wouldn't bring a second cake and say "No dessert
for me thanks."
If you must, bring a fruit salad and say you just want a bit of
fruit after that delicious dinner. I'm not sure why you brought
cake when when she's already serving cake. I think Aleko is
right about putting guests on the spot.
#Post#: 29057--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: Wanaca Date: April 8, 2019, 7:20 am
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I would have declined both slices of cake, claiming to be too
full from such a wonderful meal.
#Post#: 29061--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: Hmmm Date: April 8, 2019, 8:49 am
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I would have taken a couple of bits of both and left the rest.
At the dinner parties I attend, few people finish the entire
dessert and no one comments.
#Post#: 29072--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: Lula Date: April 8, 2019, 1:07 pm
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"It looks beautiful, and I can appreciate all the work and skill
that went into it, but you know what? I've just never been able
to get into sponge cake. I'm afraid it's not a taste I'll ever
acquire. Thank you for offering, though."
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Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: DaDancingPsych Date: April 8, 2019, 2:26 pm
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I have heard that with plated food that the polite thing to do
is to take a few polite bites and not worry about finishing. I
am not a huge fan of this when you know that you do not want
something, as it seems rather wasteful. I think that it would be
better to decline. I think that in this specific case since you
made the other cake, that I would decline ALL dessert (even if I
knew that I would enjoy mine.) I think that the polite fiction
of not wanting dessert would be better than selecting my recipe
over the hostess's. If I knew the hostess well, then I might
say, "No sponge cake for me; it's not really my thing. Please
save my piece for someone who will thoroughly appreciate it!"
But I would never want the individual to think that I liked mine
better, especially when I was not even giving theirs a chance!
#Post#: 29079--------------------------------------------------
Re: But But I don't want to eat that.......
By: lowspark Date: April 8, 2019, 2:46 pm
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If she is serving the cake within your view, politely decline
the one you don't want by saying something like, "I'll just have
a slice of the chocolate cake, please." If you aren't there when
she's serving, then just take a bite or two and leave the rest.
There is no rule that you have to eat every bit of everything
you are served.
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