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Re: Who can host a wedding shower?
DIR By: jpcher
Date: March 27, 2019, 3:36 pm
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I always thought, etiquette-wise, it was the maid-of-honor's
"job" to host the bridal shower. Even if the MOH was a sister.
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Re: Who can host a wedding shower?
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: March 27, 2019, 5:43 pm
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An aunt is the classic bridal shower host. She's close enough
for the bride to "belong" to her but not so close that you would
think of her as "benefiting" the way a mom would.
Siblings of either bride or groom are too close for conventional
etiquette.
Friends of the MOB, friends of the bride, cousins of the bride.
So many social circles don't pay attention. If my MIL-to-be
hadn't hosted my bridal shower for her side of the family,
people would have been prying to find out if she didn't like me
after all.
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Re: Who can host a wedding shower?
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: March 27, 2019, 5:46 pm
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I think that if a sister or future SIL is MOH, that absolves her
of any etiquette violation if she hosts.
The MOH isn't REQUIRED to host, but it's so often something she
does that this role supersedes her family relationship
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Re: Who can host a wedding shower?
DIR By: Lilac
Date: March 28, 2019, 2:42 pm
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--- Quote from: jpcher link ---
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> I always thought, etiquette-wise, it was the maid-of-honor's
"job" to host the bridal shower. Even if the MOH was a sister.
>
--- End Quote ---
Etiquette-wise, maids of honor have no jobs. They traditionally
were the bride's closest friends and "honor" attendants. Their
only job was to show up appropriately dressed and perhaps help
the busy bride, her mother or other hostess greet guests.
That they have been turned into modern-day lackeys expected to
fill all sorts of servantlike functions in the lead-up to the
wedding has nothing to do with etiquette. ;)
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Re: Who can host a wedding shower?
DIR By: LifeOnPluto
Date: March 29, 2019, 11:30 pm
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--- Quote from: Lilac link ---
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> The impending marriage already is a gift-giving occasion in
itself. For the family to drum up a second event at which gifts
are near-obligatory is unseemly.
>
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Bonus points if the HC also had an engagement party in a
region/country (such as my country of Australia) where
engagement parties are normally gift-giving occasions!
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