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#Post#: 28847--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Raintree Date: April 3, 2019, 1:35 am
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I have never heard of needing to text before calling. It seems
redundant to me. If someone calls and it's a bad time to pick up
(or you simply don't feel like it) then don't pick up!!!
For me, what I've really embraced about texting is not having to
be held hostage with excess chatter when you just want to say,
"I'm in the grocery store and they have that item you were
talking about, want me to pick it up for you?" Or "I'm home now,
and can be there by 7." There are some people who really will
not allow a quick phone call.
If the conversation gets too complicated, like "Oh, do they have
it in the large size?" "Yes, but only in blue." "Oh, I'd like it
if it's medium and red....do they have the crunchy version in
blue?" "No, crunchy is only yellow and small" etc., then it is
too much typing and I'll just call at that point.
#Post#: 28854--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Aleko Date: April 3, 2019, 4:06 am
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[quote]I have never heard of needing to text before calling. It
seems redundant to me. If someone calls and it's a bad time to
pick up (or you simply don't feel like it) then don't pick
up!!![/quote]
Yes, but the point is that you don't know if they had something
urgent (or at least short and to the point) to say or ask, which
you could perfectly well have dealt with in 30 seconds.
#Post#: 28863--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Jem Date: April 3, 2019, 7:47 am
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=1056.msg28854#msg28854
date=1554282392]
[quote]I have never heard of needing to text before calling. It
seems redundant to me. If someone calls and it's a bad time to
pick up (or you simply don't feel like it) then don't pick
up!!![/quote]
Yes, but the point is that you don't know if they had something
urgent (or at least short and to the point) to say or ask, which
you could perfectly well have dealt with in 30 seconds.
[/quote]
....which is why the caller should text that information.
“Please call me when you can. I have news about Uncle James.” Or
“No need to call me back right away - just calling to chat.”
#Post#: 28873--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: wonderfullyanonymous Date: April 3, 2019, 9:04 am
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I'm really uncomfortable talking on the phone, I have been this
way my entire life. I get easily tongue tied, always wondering
if I am talking too loud, not loud enough, does my voice sound
too high, not high pitched enough, complete anxiety, but there
is no way, on God's green earth, I would ever say to someone, if
you want to talk to me, text me first.
I did have the mom of one of my granddaughters friends, text me
about meeting up for friends birthday party.
Social anxiety sucks!
#Post#: 28876--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Hanna Date: April 3, 2019, 9:23 am
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[quote author=Jem link=topic=1056.msg28863#msg28863
date=1554295631]
[quote author=Aleko link=topic=1056.msg28854#msg28854
date=1554282392]
[quote]I have never heard of needing to text before calling. It
seems redundant to me. If someone calls and it's a bad time to
pick up (or you simply don't feel like it) then don't pick
up!!![/quote]
Yes, but the point is that you don't know if they had something
urgent (or at least short and to the point) to say or ask, which
you could perfectly well have dealt with in 30 seconds.
[/quote]
....which is why the caller should text that information.
“Please call me when you can. I have news about Uncle James.” Or
“No need to call me back right away - just calling to chat.”
[/quote]
Isn’t this just a personal preference though?
I’m in the car for 1.5 hours minimum a day. I can’t text but can
answer calls.
For me it’s worth learning what people close to me prefer then
following that.
About 15 years ago we had consultants come in at the beginning
of a project and poll us on our preferred methods of
communication. I honestly thought they were the epitome of a
waste of time and money. Today I recognized that they were
brilliant and ahead of their time.
#Post#: 28880--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Jem Date: April 3, 2019, 9:39 am
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[quote author=Hanna link=topic=1056.msg28876#msg28876
date=1554301387]
[quote author=Jem link=topic=1056.msg28863#msg28863
date=1554295631]
[quote author=Aleko link=topic=1056.msg28854#msg28854
date=1554282392]
[quote]I have never heard of needing to text before calling. It
seems redundant to me. If someone calls and it's a bad time to
pick up (or you simply don't feel like it) then don't pick
up!!![/quote]
Yes, but the point is that you don't know if they had something
urgent (or at least short and to the point) to say or ask, which
you could perfectly well have dealt with in 30 seconds.
[/quote]
....which is why the caller should text that information.
“Please call me when you can. I have news about Uncle James.” Or
“No need to call me back right away - just calling to chat.”
[/quote]
Isn’t this just a personal preference though?
I’m in the car for 1.5 hours minimum a day. I can’t text but can
answer calls.
For me it’s worth learning what people close to me prefer then
following that.
About 15 years ago we had consultants come in at the beginning
of a project and poll us on our preferred methods of
communication. I honestly thought they were the epitome of a
waste of time and money. Today I recognized that they were
brilliant and ahead of their time.
[/quote]
I was responding to the green - that if the call was in fact
something urgent, the caller can text that information to the
recipient. It's not like because the person did not answer the
phone they won't ever learn the information. And generally,
something that can be conveyed in 30 seconds can also be texted.
There are any number of reasons why a person might not pick up a
phone call, from not wanting to talk to anyone, not wanting to
talk to that particular person, being in the bathroom, being on
a crowded bus, being in a movie theater, being in a work
meeting...... But if a person knows the phone call is urgent (at
least from the caller's perspective) because a text message
tells them so, they may make special efforts to call back.
#Post#: 29857--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Effie Date: April 25, 2019, 6:01 am
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I am surprised that in all of these posts, my particular problem
with texting has not come up.
I live in a rural area and cannot count on good (or even fair)
reception. I would be in a pickle without my land line! If I
travel one mile up the road, no problem. If I MUST text or use
my cell to call (land line does go out on occasion) you will
find me wandering around my house and/or my yard trying to get a
connection.
It is very discouraging to tell people "Please don't call my
cell unless you have tried to call my landline first and I don't
answer," and have them completely disregard that. They then have
them get annoyed with ME when I don't respond when they call my
cell when I am at home (and only get a return call or text days
later).
#Post#: 29878--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Chez Miriam Date: April 25, 2019, 11:00 am
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[quote author=Effie link=topic=1056.msg29857#msg29857
date=1556190076]
I am surprised that in all of these posts, my particular problem
with texting has not come up.
I live in a rural area and cannot count on good (or even fair)
reception. I would be in a pickle without my land line! If I
travel one mile up the road, no problem. If I MUST text or use
my cell to call (land line does go out on occasion) you will
find me wandering around my house and/or my yard trying to get a
connection.
It is very discouraging to tell people "Please don't call my
cell unless you have tried to call my landline first and I don't
answer," and have them completely disregard that. They then have
them get annoyed with ME when I don't respond when they call my
cell when I am at home (and only get a return call or text days
later).
[/quote]
We had a guy fit the gas meter, and he had a mobile signal
detector (?) - some gizmo that detected signal strength on all
the networks...
He reckoned Vodafone was the best with 17% chance of getting a
signal, but I know from another board I'm on that that figure
has worsened over time. If I pick up a signal in the sitting
room, it might be a couple of times a week; some weeks I don't
get a signal.
So, the phone lives in the shower room, and may have a signal
when I want to use it. But that never lasts long enough to
compose AND send a text.
The nice thing is, I no longer worry when people tell me they
can't get hold of me as I've spent the last five years telling
them that I live in a communications black hole [~2Mbps internet
speed on good days], so the landline is the only way to be sure
I get a message [have had texts drop in three weeks later!] -
they must know by now that if it's urgent, send a carrier
pigeon! If I thought getting a smart phone would help, I'd do
that [husband's work iPhone constantly runs itself down, trying
to find a signal, so is permanently plugged into the power when
he works from home], but it won't, so I comfort myself with the
£6 per month unlimited texts/calls that I can't use, and go a
little text-happy on long journeys.
;)
#Post#: 29884--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Kiwipinball Date: April 25, 2019, 12:38 pm
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[quote author=Chez Miriam link=topic=1056.msg29878#msg29878
date=1556208040]
[quote author=Effie link=topic=1056.msg29857#msg29857
date=1556190076]
I am surprised that in all of these posts, my particular problem
with texting has not come up.
I live in a rural area and cannot count on good (or even fair)
reception. I would be in a pickle without my land line! If I
travel one mile up the road, no problem. If I MUST text or use
my cell to call (land line does go out on occasion) you will
find me wandering around my house and/or my yard trying to get a
connection.
It is very discouraging to tell people "Please don't call my
cell unless you have tried to call my landline first and I don't
answer," and have them completely disregard that. They then have
them get annoyed with ME when I don't respond when they call my
cell when I am at home (and only get a return call or text days
later).
[/quote]
We had a guy fit the gas meter, and he had a mobile signal
detector (?) - some gizmo that detected signal strength on all
the networks...
He reckoned Vodafone was the best with 17% chance of getting a
signal, but I know from another board I'm on that that figure
has worsened over time. If I pick up a signal in the sitting
room, it might be a couple of times a week; some weeks I don't
get a signal.
So, the phone lives in the shower room, and may have a signal
when I want to use it. But that never lasts long enough to
compose AND send a text.
The nice thing is, I no longer worry when people tell me they
can't get hold of me as I've spent the last five years telling
them that I live in a communications black hole [~2Mbps internet
speed on good days], so the landline is the only way to be sure
I get a message [have had texts drop in three weeks later!] -
they must know by now that if it's urgent, send a carrier
pigeon! If I thought getting a smart phone would help, I'd do
that [husband's work iPhone constantly runs itself down, trying
to find a signal, so is permanently plugged into the power when
he works from home], but it won't, so I comfort myself with the
£6 per month unlimited texts/calls that I can't use, and go a
little text-happy on long journeys.
;)
[/quote]
Even if you have good signal, text messages aren't always
reliable. My mother frequently won't get people's text messages
until hours or even over a day later. Now I may not see/read
them for that long (or longer), but they won't come through -
she's compared with the sender, and it shows her receiving it
long after they sent it. So I do think it's good for people to
remember that a) not every phone number is a cell phone number,
so it may not receive text messages and b) don't be irritated
with someone for not responding unless you know that they
received the communication and just aren't responding.
#Post#: 30171--------------------------------------------------
Re: "Too Intrusive" or Something Else?
By: Chez Miriam Date: April 30, 2019, 7:45 am
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[quote author=Kiwipinball link=topic=1056.msg29884#msg29884
date=1556213906]
[quote author=Chez Miriam link=topic=1056.msg29878#msg29878
date=1556208040]
[quote author=Effie link=topic=1056.msg29857#msg29857
date=1556190076]
I am surprised that in all of these posts, my particular problem
with texting has not come up.
I live in a rural area and cannot count on good (or even fair)
reception. I would be in a pickle without my land line! If I
travel one mile up the road, no problem. If I MUST text or use
my cell to call (land line does go out on occasion) you will
find me wandering around my house and/or my yard trying to get a
connection.
It is very discouraging to tell people "Please don't call my
cell unless you have tried to call my landline first and I don't
answer," and have them completely disregard that. They then have
them get annoyed with ME when I don't respond when they call my
cell when I am at home (and only get a return call or text days
later).
[/quote]
We had a guy fit the gas meter, and he had a mobile signal
detector (?) - some gizmo that detected signal strength on all
the networks...
He reckoned Vodafone was the best with 17% chance of getting a
signal, but I know from another board I'm on that that figure
has worsened over time. If I pick up a signal in the sitting
room, it might be a couple of times a week; some weeks I don't
get a signal.
So, the phone lives in the shower room, and may have a signal
when I want to use it. But that never lasts long enough to
compose AND send a text.
The nice thing is, I no longer worry when people tell me they
can't get hold of me as I've spent the last five years telling
them that I live in a communications black hole [~2Mbps internet
speed on good days], so the landline is the only way to be sure
I get a message [have had texts drop in three weeks later!] -
they must know by now that if it's urgent, send a carrier
pigeon! If I thought getting a smart phone would help, I'd do
that [husband's work iPhone constantly runs itself down, trying
to find a signal, so is permanently plugged into the power when
he works from home], but it won't, so I comfort myself with the
£6 per month unlimited texts/calls that I can't use, and go a
little text-happy on long journeys.
;)
[/quote]
Even if you have good signal, text messages aren't always
reliable. My mother frequently won't get people's text messages
until hours or even over a day later. Now I may not see/read
them for that long (or longer), but they won't come through -
she's compared with the sender, and it shows her receiving it
long after they sent it. So I do think it's good for people to
remember that a) not every phone number is a cell phone number,
so it may not receive text messages and b) don't be irritated
with someone for not responding unless you know that they
received the communication and just aren't responding.
[/quote]
Thanks for posting that, Kiwipinball - it makes me feel a little
less as though I'm always missing out.
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