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Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: Venus193 Date: March 26, 2019, 2:47 pm
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I'm sure this isn't a new problem or there wouldn't have been a
movie about it back in 2005.
#Post#: 28444--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: lowspark Date: March 27, 2019, 7:52 am
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[quote author=Aleko link=topic=1052.msg28374#msg28374
date=1553625955]
[quote]I would be very hesitant to require the guests to bring
their invitation for admittance. For one thing, no one wants to
line up to get in, not to mention the people that forget to
bring theirs![/quote]
Oh? In Britain the tradition has always been to have a
'receiving line', where the hosts (e.g. the bride's parents) and
the bridal couple stood at the entrance of the reception venue
to greet their guests. Does this not happen where you live?
[/quote]
I have seen this but it was a long time ago. Probably not since
I was a kid so maybe ~40 years. And even then, I remember it
being sort of optional, where you could bypass the line if you
wanted.
Now that you mention it though, it reminds me of a scene in The
Graduate, where Benjamin (Dustin Hoffman) accidentally gets into
a receiving line for a wedding reception at the hotel the first
time he goes to meet Mrs. Robinson.
Looks like I have a movie scene to equate with every life
situation! OK yeah. I'm a movie buff. :)
#Post#: 28449--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: Hmmm Date: March 27, 2019, 9:12 am
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1052.msg28444#msg28444
date=1553691120]
[quote author=Aleko link=topic=1052.msg28374#msg28374
date=1553625955]
[quote]I would be very hesitant to require the guests to bring
their invitation for admittance. For one thing, no one wants to
line up to get in, not to mention the people that forget to
bring theirs![/quote]
Oh? In Britain the tradition has always been to have a
'receiving line', where the hosts (e.g. the bride's parents) and
the bridal couple stood at the entrance of the reception venue
to greet their guests. Does this not happen where you live?
[/quote]
I have seen this but it was a long time ago. Probably not since
I was a kid so maybe ~40 years. And even then, I remember it
being sort of optional, where you could bypass the line if you
wanted.
Now that you mention it though, it reminds me of a scene in The
Graduate, where Benjamin (Dustin Hoffman) accidentally gets into
a receiving line for a wedding reception at the hotel the first
time he goes to meet Mrs. Robinson.
Looks like I have a movie scene to equate with every life
situation! OK yeah. I'm a movie buff. :)
[/quote]
My oldest sister married in 1975. I remember mom and her
"discussing" that she did want to do a formal receiving line at
the reception so they compromised on a "exiting line" from the
church sanctuary. Once the bridal party and immediate family
left the sanctuary we formed an immediate line to greet the
exiting guests. Took forever, at least in my 10 year old mind.
So at my wedding, DH and I stood to the back of the narthex and
other family members at other exits and guests could greet us if
they chose before heading to the reception. I do not remember
the last time I experienced a receiving line.
#Post#: 28477--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: jpcher Date: March 27, 2019, 3:58 pm
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1052.msg28449#msg28449
date=1553695937]
[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1052.msg28444#msg28444
date=1553691120]
[quote author=Aleko link=topic=1052.msg28374#msg28374
date=1553625955]
[quote]I would be very hesitant to require the guests to bring
their invitation for admittance. For one thing, no one wants to
line up to get in, not to mention the people that forget to
bring theirs![/quote]
Oh? In Britain the tradition has always been to have a
'receiving line', where the hosts (e.g. the bride's parents) and
the bridal couple stood at the entrance of the reception venue
to greet their guests. Does this not happen where you live?
[/quote]
I have seen this but it was a long time ago. Probably not since
I was a kid so maybe ~40 years. And even then, I remember it
being sort of optional, where you could bypass the line if you
wanted.
Now that you mention it though, it reminds me of a scene in The
Graduate, where Benjamin (Dustin Hoffman) accidentally gets into
a receiving line for a wedding reception at the hotel the first
time he goes to meet Mrs. Robinson.
Looks like I have a movie scene to equate with every life
situation! OK yeah. I'm a movie buff. :)
[/quote]
My oldest sister married in 1975. I remember mom and her
"discussing" that she did want to do a formal receiving line at
the reception so they compromised on a "exiting line" from the
church sanctuary. Once the bridal party and immediate family
left the sanctuary we formed an immediate line to greet the
exiting guests. Took forever, at least in my 10 year old mind.
So at my wedding, DH and I stood to the back of the narthex and
other family members at other exits and guests could greet us if
they chose before heading to the reception. I do not remember
the last time I experienced a receiving line.
[/quote]
That's the way we did it for our BWW when I married the Ex. This
was in 1980. At the end of the receiving line a small table was
set up with small gift-styled packets of bird seed* and the
guests gathered outside. When we finished greeting the last
guest Ex and I went outside, ran down the sidewalk for the
traditional throwing of the rice.
*Except we used bird seed because at that time rice was not
eco-friendly.
Does anybody throw rice anymore? I've been to weddings where
small bottles of bubbles were given out.
Am I getting off topic? Sorry.
#Post#: 28508--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: DaDancingPsych Date: March 28, 2019, 10:52 am
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[quote author=jpcher link=topic=1052.msg28477#msg28477
date=1553720307]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=1052.msg28449#msg28449
date=1553695937]
[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1052.msg28444#msg28444
date=1553691120]
[quote author=Aleko link=topic=1052.msg28374#msg28374
date=1553625955]
[quote]I would be very hesitant to require the guests to bring
their invitation for admittance. For one thing, no one wants to
line up to get in, not to mention the people that forget to
bring theirs![/quote]
Oh? In Britain the tradition has always been to have a
'receiving line', where the hosts (e.g. the bride's parents) and
the bridal couple stood at the entrance of the reception venue
to greet their guests. Does this not happen where you live?
[/quote]
I have seen this but it was a long time ago. Probably not since
I was a kid so maybe ~40 years. And even then, I remember it
being sort of optional, where you could bypass the line if you
wanted.
Now that you mention it though, it reminds me of a scene in The
Graduate, where Benjamin (Dustin Hoffman) accidentally gets into
a receiving line for a wedding reception at the hotel the first
time he goes to meet Mrs. Robinson.
Looks like I have a movie scene to equate with every life
situation! OK yeah. I'm a movie buff. :)
[/quote]
My oldest sister married in 1975. I remember mom and her
"discussing" that she did want to do a formal receiving line at
the reception so they compromised on a "exiting line" from the
church sanctuary. Once the bridal party and immediate family
left the sanctuary we formed an immediate line to greet the
exiting guests. Took forever, at least in my 10 year old mind.
So at my wedding, DH and I stood to the back of the narthex and
other family members at other exits and guests could greet us if
they chose before heading to the reception. I do not remember
the last time I experienced a receiving line.
[/quote]
That's the way we did it for our BWW when I married the Ex. This
was in 1980. At the end of the receiving line a small table was
set up with small gift-styled packets of bird seed* and the
guests gathered outside. When we finished greeting the last
guest Ex and I went outside, ran down the sidewalk for the
traditional throwing of the rice.
*Except we used bird seed because at that time rice was not
eco-friendly.
Does anybody throw rice anymore? I've been to weddings where
small bottles of bubbles were given out.
Am I getting off topic? Sorry.
[/quote]
I have not seen rice or bird seed in YEARS! The bubbles are
nice, but the evil side of me secretly loved pelting the HC with
seeds. :D Maybe they could be tossed at any wedding
crashers?!? (Did I get us back on topic?)
#Post#: 28519--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: JeanFromBNA Date: March 28, 2019, 2:45 pm
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Receiving lines seem to be less common these days.
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Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: lakey Date: March 28, 2019, 9:21 pm
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[quote]
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
« Reply #18 on: March 26, 2019, 01:45:55 pm »
Quote
Quote
I would be very hesitant to require the guests to bring their
invitation for admittance. For one thing, no one wants to line
up to get in, not to mention the people that forget to bring
theirs!
Oh? In Britain the tradition has always been to have a
'receiving line', where the hosts (e.g. the bride's parents) and
the bridal couple stood at the entrance of the reception venue
to greet their guests. Does this not happen where you live?
This of course meant that a queue was created anyway, so to have
someone checking people's invitations while they're waiting
would take no extra time. And if anyone forgot their invitation,
of course the checker could simply ask their name and check in
the list of invitees.[/quote]
At weddings I've attended the receiving line takes place at the
entrance to the church. After the couple processes out of the
church, they form a receiving line and people greet the couple.
At whatever venue where the reception is held, there is usually
already a wait time for the guests while the couple does picture
taking. I've never been to a reception where you had to show
your invitation, but I've also never known of there being
problems with crashers. If it was a common problem in an area, I
don't think it would be unreasonable to have people show their
invitation as long as they were notified ahead of time, and it
was handled efficiently.
#Post#: 28551--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: Rose Red Date: March 29, 2019, 7:22 am
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The problem with asking for invitations is, what happens when
Aunt Karen or Second Cousin Joe forgot? The HC will be
continually be pulled to vouch for these people. And what if the
guests are a parent's friends and the HC don't know them?
#Post#: 28581--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: DaDancingPsych Date: March 29, 2019, 10:33 am
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[quote author=Rose Red link=topic=1052.msg28551#msg28551
date=1553862156]
The problem with asking for invitations is, what happens when
Aunt Karen or Second Cousin Joe forgot? The HC will be
continually be pulled to vouch for these people. And what if the
guests are a parent's friends and the HC don't know them?
[/quote]
If you really feel that you need to check guests at the door, I
am sure that you could come up with some creative solutions. You
could assign a family member or two to act as "verifiers" as
necessary. I would think this no bigger job than being ask to
tend to a guest book. If Aunt Karen comes in without her
invitation, this trusted family member could verify that Karen
belongs. I suppose you could also use a driver's license to do
the same.
#Post#: 28615--------------------------------------------------
Re: "I'm off to crash a wedding"
By: BrownEyedGirl Date: March 29, 2019, 10:01 pm
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[quote author=lowspark link=topic=1052.msg28365#msg28365
date=1553618744]
This reminds me of the scene in Working Girl where they crash a
wedding. Harrison Ford does a great job of BSing his way to
dancing with one of the bridesmaids. And Melanie Griffith
manages to wrangle a dance with the father of the bride! Of
course, it's just a movie! :)
[/quote]
I love that scene! The bridesmaids' dresses always make me
giggle.
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