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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: wonderfullyanonymous
Date: February 26, 2019, 4:27 pm
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--- Quote from: lowspark link ---
>
> [quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1017.msg26844#msg26844
date=1551208281]
> I don't understand why adults think that they have to site
with their travel companions for short flights (less than two
hours). It's not like they'll get lost on the plane and never
find each other again.
>
--- End Quote ---
While it's certainly not a big deal if I can't, I do prefer to
sit next to whomever I'm traveling with if possible. It's
someone I know and will probably want to talk to.
And I don't think it's a crime to ask, particularly if the
person being asked to switch will get equal or better seating.
But you have to graciously take "no" for an answer, regardless
of the reason for refusal, if indeed one is given.
[/quote]
I have sever social anxiety, and a flying phobia. If I had
bought seats to be seated with my travel companion, and someone
wanted us to be separated, they would be getting a firm no.
#Post#: 26867--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: frog24
Date: February 26, 2019, 5:54 pm
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I agree that you're firmly within your rights not to change
seats on a plane when asked by another passenger. If people
want to play the "airplane lottery" by booking odd seating
arrangements in hopes of being able to get a whole row (or
whatever), they have to take their lumps if their gamble doesn't
pay off.
Since we're telling stories of seat swapping.... I've been on
one flight where the flight attendants asked my husband to move
several times to accommodate families with small children (the
whole flight was a ticketing fiasco and we weren't sitting
together at the time), or to switch with someone who didn't want
to sit next to the small children. He graciously complied, and
even started playing with the other people's kids to keep them
entertained, because that's just who he is.
After everyone was settled, the flight attendants went up to him
and said: "Sir, we know there was an error with your tickets,
and that your wife isn't sitting beside you. Because you've
been so accommodating, once we take off, you're welcome to go
and join her in premium economy."
#Post#: 26868--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Dr. F.
Date: February 26, 2019, 6:38 pm
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I was once on a flight coming home from a stressful job
interview. I had a window seat, which I had paid extra for, as I
have claustrophobia, and being able to see out the window helps.
A couple comes in, sits in the middle and aisle, and asks to
have the window, because, "We're NEWLYWEDS!" Note - they were
sitting together, they just wanted the window, but without
paying for it. I said no. They proceeded to heckle me (sad,
pathetic, bitter unmarried ladies!) and be obnoxious for the
entire rest of the 4-hour flight.
That one goes down as one of my worst flights ever.
#Post#: 26869--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Kiwipinball
Date: February 26, 2019, 6:43 pm
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--- Quote from: Hanna link ---
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> There are instances where I would move on a plane, but not for
a 15 year old and never for someone that was being a jerk.
>
> I did offer to move recently recently because of an issue the
flight attendants were having with a woman. She had two
children, a toddler and a baby with her. I could only see that
she was very upset. I offered to the flight attendants to give
my economy plus aisle seat with a free middle seat between. No
clue what her seats were like but I think she had just two in
economy.
>
> This was delaying our flight and was beginning to look like a
scene that would show up in the news, due to her becoming
increasingly more adamant and louder.
>
> Turns out she was expecting a free business class seat. “How
can I fly 7 hours in those seats with two children?”
> They took her to the front of the plane and I believe she
thought she was going to get her way, but they put her off the
plane.
>
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Yeah, that'd be one of the only types of situations I'd offer to
(what you originally thought might be going on - not because she
wanted a free upgrade). If a young child is apart from any
parent, I would switch. A 15 yo would not cut it for me (and if
(s)he couldn't be alone, why not have a parent swith with
teenager?)
#Post#: 26876--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: STiG
Date: February 26, 2019, 9:35 pm
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Airplane: I will trade my aisle seat for an equal or better
aisle seat only. Even if it is to accommodate small children.
Sorry, but I'm not taking a middle or window seat for any
reason.
Theater: If moving over one seat doesn't significantly change
my viewing experience (not putting me behind someone tall, for
example), I will move over one seat, if the askers are polite.
If they're not? The answer is no.
#Post#: 26878--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: FloBrez
Date: February 27, 2019, 7:15 am
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--- Quote from: TootsNYC link ---
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> I'm with you, I wouldn't move.
>
> But one of the problems you had is the rude reactions of the
other people.
> The moviegoers who yelled at you about being rude, I'd just
ignore; it'll end soon.
>
> For the plane people, you're trapped there. I might say,
patiently, "I'm sorry you're unhappy, but I chose this seat
specifically. And I can clearly hear you complain about me. Do I
need to call the flight attendant? Perhaps they can find you
seats somewhere else."
>
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Yes, this is the parts of the questions that stump me and I
wouldn't know what to do. I can say no but what to do when
someone starts making a scene when you refuse, causing you
unwanted attention, making you uncomfortable. I also have
social anxiety and would probably freeze up.
#Post#: 26881--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Aleko
Date: February 27, 2019, 8:09 am
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> As movie buffs, we arrived 30 minutes early to get good seats
in midsection half way down. A couple arrived after the film
started, couldn't find seats together so asked us to move. We
declined. They yelled at us for being rude. What would you do?
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I'm assuming the tickets didn't assign specific seats? Because
if your cinema ticket says 'seat 24A', that's where you sit, if
only because you can legitimately be turfed out of any other
seat in the house. If you don't like the seats on offer when you
get to the cinema, you don't buy them and then demand other
people give up their assigned seats: you decide to see the film
another day.
So assuming it was free seating: it depends how far they wanted
us to move. If there was a space either side of us and they just
wanted us to shift one seat along, and (a) they asked civilly
and (b) that wouldn't disadvantage us, e.g. by putting one of us
behind a very tall person, I think it would be mean-spirited to
refuse. (Not that that would justify them yelling at us, of
course.)
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: JeanFromBNA
Date: February 27, 2019, 12:40 pm
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--- Quote from: FloBrez link ---
>
> [quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=1017.msg26851#msg26851
date=1551214230]
> I'm with you, I wouldn't move.
>
> But one of the problems you had is the rude reactions of the
other people.
> The moviegoers who yelled at you about being rude, I'd just
ignore; it'll end soon.
>
> For the plane people, you're trapped there. I might say,
patiently, "I'm sorry you're unhappy, but I chose this seat
specifically. And I can clearly hear you complain about me. Do I
need to call the flight attendant? Perhaps they can find you
seats somewhere else."
>
--- End Quote ---
Yes, this is the parts of the questions that stump me and I
wouldn't know what to do. I can say no but what to do when
someone starts making a scene when you refuse, causing you
unwanted attention, making you uncomfortable. I also have
social anxiety and would probably freeze up.
[/quote]
Smile broadly at them, in an etiquette-approved version of
"nyah, nyah, nyah, nyah, nyah."
#Post#: 26894--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: JeanFromBNA
Date: February 27, 2019, 12:52 pm
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--- Quote from: lowspark link ---
>
> [quote author=JeanFromBNA link=topic=1017.msg26844#msg26844
date=1551208281]
> I don't understand why adults think that they have to site
with their travel companions for short flights (less than two
hours). It's not like they'll get lost on the plane and never
find each other again.
>
--- End Quote ---
While it's certainly not a big deal if I can't, I do prefer to
sit next to whomever I'm traveling with if possible. It's
someone I know and will probably want to talk to.
And I don't think it's a crime to ask, particularly if the
person being asked to switch will get equal or better seating.
But you have to graciously take "no" for an answer, regardless
of the reason for refusal, if indeed one is given.
[/quote]
I see that I wasn't clear. People should sit wherever they paid
to sit. It's no harm to ask if someone minds moving, but if the
latecomers have to take leftovers, then those adults should just
suck it up and deal with it.
Children are a different matter. I can guarantee you that
no-one would want to sit next to my 4-year old great-nephew, who
still poops his pants.
#Post#: 26902--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: VorFemme
Date: February 27, 2019, 1:49 pm
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I had someone on a Southwestern flight (open seating based on
the seats that were empty when you're boarding) try to get me to
move out of *her* aisle seat. I looked at her ticket & told her
that was her boarding pass and not her seat number. Then she
looked at the window seat & saw the mother with a baby (maybe a
year to 14 months old? It was November 20017, if I recall
correctly and all three seats were filled. At any rate, she
scooted down the aisle and didn't argue any further. With two
grandmothers (not related to the baby) and Mommy on that row, it
was the quietest baby on the plane, some giggling while we
played peek-a-boo until it fell asleep was it.
It was actually a fairly good flight...
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