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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Contrarian
Date: February 26, 2019, 8:11 am
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Why are you assuming the couple in the movie theatre weren’t the
first ones there? Maybe it was the couple beside them that left
the one seat, if that was the scenario.
I don’t think there’s enough info in the movie one, we’re they
asked to just shift over? Was the whole row asked to shuffle
around?
And why, if you arrive late, can’t you sit in separate seats,
the movie is about to start and you can’t chat through it, just
watch it separately and meet up afterwards.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Songbird
Date: February 26, 2019, 8:55 am
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On the plane, I'm not moving unless the seat I am moving to is
as good as the one I am leaving. I prefer window seats and I
will not willingly take a middle seat.
The movie theater scenario...my theter has assigned seating, but
before it switched over...
We had the exact scenario and declined to move. the seats we
were in did not have seats in front of them, but the seat to
which I would have moved did have other seats in front of it.
Sorry, I am a short person, and not having someone in front of
me potentially blcoking my viewwas the reason I chose the seat.
You don't have to move, and you don't owe anyone an explanation
if you decline to move.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: February 26, 2019, 9:16 am
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--- Quote from: drzim link ---
>
> Airplane--It's so common to pay extra for a seat, even just an
aisle seat in the regular economy section. When someone asked
me to switch, I told them I paid extra for the seat and were
they willing to make it right? (meaning pay me the difference
for me to move to their middle seat). Funny how they never
press after that....
>
> Movie--here is where it's up to you to not be a jerk. You and
your friend get there early because you anticipate a full house,
and you both want to sit in the middle. You start to sit down,
and there is an empty seat next to you, with another couple on
the other
> side. Why do people feel the need to leave an empty seat, when
they can pretty much guarantee that these seats will fill up,
being that they are in the middle of the row in the middle of
the theater (=prime seats). So just politely ask the couple "is
this seat taken?" and if not, sit down! It's that simple.
>
> I've even moved over a seat (once the theater started getting
crowded and I knew the seats would be in demand) when people who
sat down after me left an empty seat. If you don't leave single
empty seats in between, no one will have to move later on.
>
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I'm glad someone did that! On the flight where the attendant was
shifting everyone around, I thought she might come to me with a
request and I was ready to say "This seat was $150 extra, I'll
only take cash. American." But then I realized that I wasn't
willing to move even if I marked up the seat so it was going to
be a hard "No."
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: lowspark
Date: February 26, 2019, 9:47 am
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Ditto the majority concensus. Neither time were you obligate to
move, nor were you rude not to.
I agree with what everyone has said regarding airplane travel.
I have actually been in the movie situation and didn't move. I
get to the theater early if I'm going to see a popular movie
specifically so I can pick a good seat. That often means sitting
there for 20 or more minutes before the film begins. Now, I've
put in all that time and someone comes along two minutes before
the feature begins, and I'm supposed to give up my seat for
them? Sorry, not going to happen.
Another example happened to me quite recently. I was at a social
gathering of about 12 or 15 people. Some people were sort of
milling around with some people sitting at a table, which was
normal for the venue. We'd been sitting there for quite a while
when Mary decided to join the table too. Only she decided she
needed to sit next to Mark who was seated way at one end where
of course, there were no empty seats. So she told everyone to
move over one seat to accommodate her. I was like, umm, no. I've
been sitting in this seat for a while and it's my seat now. If
everyone else chooses to move around me, well that's their
choice, but I'm staying put.
That suddenly gave everyone else the courage to say no. No one
wanted to move but everyone felt like they had to. Guess what.
Mary sat at the other end of the table and the world continued
to exist.
I think people think that if they ask someone to move, the
person or people they ask are somehow obligated to do so. And by
the same token, when asked, some people think they must oblige.
It's simply not true. Often, it's not a big inconvenience, or
there is some compelling reason to go ahead and move. But it is
still at the discretion of the person being asked to move.
#Post#: 26836--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Jayhawk
Date: February 26, 2019, 10:21 am
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I was at a conference a few years ago - one of the reasons
people go to this conference is to network with other business
people. I didn't know anyone except the folks I came with. At
any rate, during one event, I sat at a large round table
(probably seated 10). I was alone for awhile. Eventually, a
couple others came and sat down, leaving one space to my left.
Soon, another group came in, all from the same chapter, 6 or 7.
One of the them asked me to move over so "they could all sit
together." I declined. I said, "No thank you, besides, one of
the reasons we're here is to network, right?" The asker's eyes
got big and her mouth was a big O. I got the impression she
wasn't used to people saying No to her. She didn't push back,
though and everyone else in her group was fine with it.
#Post#: 26844--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: JeanFromBNA
Date: February 26, 2019, 1:11 pm
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I don't understand why adults think that they have to site with
their travel companions for short flights (less than two hours).
It's not like they'll get lost on the plane and never find each
other again.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: bopper
Date: February 26, 2019, 1:17 pm
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1) If you want me to trade seats on an airplane, they must be
the same or better.
2) If I can move down a seat so you can have two together, i
will do so. However, if the seat is significantly different
(e.g., I have an aisle seat), then I will not. If I have
particular seats because of leg room, I will not move.
#Post#: 26847--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: lowspark
Date: February 26, 2019, 1:56 pm
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--- Quote from: JeanFromBNA link ---
>
> I don't understand why adults think that they have to site
with their travel companions for short flights (less than two
hours). It's not like they'll get lost on the plane and never
find each other again.
>
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While it's certainly not a big deal if I can't, I do prefer to
sit next to whomever I'm traveling with if possible. It's
someone I know and will probably want to talk to.
And I don't think it's a crime to ask, particularly if the
person being asked to switch will get equal or better seating.
But you have to graciously take "no" for an answer, regardless
of the reason for refusal, if indeed one is given.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Hanna
Date: February 26, 2019, 2:02 pm
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There are instances where I would move on a plane, but not for a
15 year old and never for someone that was being a jerk.
I did offer to move recently recently because of an issue the
flight attendants were having with a woman. She had two
children, a toddler and a baby with her. I could only see that
she was very upset. I offered to the flight attendants to give
my economy plus aisle seat with a free middle seat between. No
clue what her seats were like but I think she had just two in
economy.
This was delaying our flight and was beginning to look like a
scene that would show up in the news, due to her becoming
increasingly more adamant and louder.
Turns out she was expecting a free business class seat. “How can
I fly 7 hours in those seats with two children?”
They took her to the front of the plane and I believe she
thought she was going to get her way, but they put her off the
plane.
#Post#: 26851--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: TootsNYC
Date: February 26, 2019, 2:50 pm
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I'm with you, I wouldn't move.
But one of the problems you had is the rude reactions of the
other people.
The moviegoers who yelled at you about being rude, I'd just
ignore; it'll end soon.
For the plane people, you're trapped there. I might say,
patiently, "I'm sorry you're unhappy, but I chose this seat
specifically. And I can clearly hear you complain about me. Do I
need to call the flight attendant? Perhaps they can find you
seats somewhere else."
I think it's OK to ask (my 15yo's would never agree to it
anyway, they don't WANT to sit by me, so I wouldn't bother; plus
I would assume that someone on the aisle isn't going to want to
switch to a middle seat, and I wouldn't bother for that reason).
I will often change seats to help other people out, but I don't
think a 15yo needs to sit by his parents. So I wouldn't give up
an aisle seat.
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