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Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: FloBrez
Date: February 25, 2019, 5:44 pm
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Saw these questions asking for advice on another board. This
never happened to me but if it ever did, not sure how I would
respond. I am not good at confrontation. Have you ever been in a
situation like either of these? What did you do or would you do?
Situation 1
I was in the aisle seat on a plane next to a couple who wanted
me to switch seats with their 15 yr old son, sitting in the
middle seat behind us. I did not want the middle seat, so they
were talking loudly and being critical. What would you do?
Situation 2
As movie buffs, we arrived 30 minutes early to get good seats in
midsection half way down. A couple arrived after the film
started, couldn't find seats together so asked us to move. We
declined. They yelled at us for being rude. What would you do?
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Kgirl
Date: February 25, 2019, 6:08 pm
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I travel a lot and would never trade for a middle seat—apples to
apples only. As far as the movies, come early and you get to
pick. If moving to accommodate late comers did not afford you
the same experience, you had no obligation to move.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Jem
Date: February 25, 2019, 6:50 pm
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My movie theater has assigned seats and when people have been in
my seat or asked me to move I always say, “this is the seat I
bought,” with a smile. I don’t back down.
Same with the airplane. I would just say, “I prefer this seat.”
And let their opinion roll off you.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: SioCat
Date: February 25, 2019, 7:15 pm
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In the airplane situation, I’m not moving seats.
In the movie theater situation, If it’s one seat over, I might
move. One seat doesn’t make a difference. I haven’t been to a
theater without assigned seating in a very long time though.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Winterlight
Date: February 25, 2019, 7:28 pm
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I would not move in the plane scenario. I want an aisle seat in
the exit row or as close as I can get, and usually pay for one.
I'm not giving it up.
In the theater- I don't go to movies often, but at a concert I
would not move since seating is usually assigned. And if you
show up late, I'm definitely not giving up my seat for you.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: NFPwife
Date: February 25, 2019, 8:29 pm
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For the plane situation - I agree. No moving unless it's similar
or better for the person being asked.
I think I've mentioned this before, but I was in row 4 and was
asked to switch seats by a young woman who was in the 18th row
or so. Her husband was seated beside me at the window. I said
no. She said, "But we're maarrrrieeeed!" I said, "Really? Me
too. 25 years." Then I said that she could offer her seat mate
to come forward, but I wasn't going back. (I had two issues with
this, one - I had a tight connection and this flight was
notoriously late taking off. Two - this flight also tends to hit
a lot of weather and being behind the wing that seems bumpiest.
I didn't JADE all that to her, though.) She sulked off really
PO'd. Her husband stayed in the seat beside me for the duration.
I saw something on a flight out of Sydney to LAX, I missed some
of the details, but, basically, the flight attendant was trying
to shift seats around to get married couples sitting together.
It was transpiring in the space in front of me and, in the end,
one young woman, who was originally seated with her husband,
ended up sitting alone in a random seat because her husband
didn't want to take the switch because he'd have a middle seat
in the switch. (He had an aisle, she was beside him. They would
end up in two middle seats.) She still moved, she had tears in
her eyes and seemed really frustrated. I wanted to say, "Sister,
polish your spine! Stay in your seat!" I saw about 45% of it
roll out and the social pressure for her to move was high.
I pay extra for preferred seating either a. in cash (on code
share flights) or in status (cash spent and miles flown) and
I've become more determined than ever that I'm not giving up my
seat unless it's a similar or better situation for me. Including
not sitting in the bulkhead (unless it's a really long haul
flight).
For the movie situation - it's really cheeky to come in late and
ask for accommodations. Just because you ask, doesn't mean
someone has to oblige.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Pattycake
Date: February 25, 2019, 8:34 pm
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Nope, wouldn't move in either case. Especially if the seats were
pre-booked. Double no even more so in the case of the late
people.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: AvidReader
Date: February 25, 2019, 9:36 pm
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On a recent cross-country flight (about 5 hours) both DH and I
had aisle seats across from each other. That's how we fly. In
my row, the middle seat was taken by a father and a small child
had the window seat. His wife had the aisle seat in front of me
and asked to trade, thinking that I might be traveling solo. It
would have been an aisle seat for an aisle seat. I shook my
head no and pointed to my DH across the aisle. She didn't
press. Good thing too. Her row-mates showed up thereafter and
were a parent and small child. The small child in my row was
very well-behaved the entire trip. Didn't hear a peep out of
him and his dad kept him engaged. The small child in the row in
front of me fussed the entire time.
Decades ago I was on a flight, solo, and had the window seat.
The middle seat and aisle were unsold and therefore unoccupied.
I was asked to move by a flight attendant. They explained that
they had a passenger with a medical issue and it was deemed
prudent for that person to have the entire row. It was obvious
that the person was not well. I gladly accommodated the
situation.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: Hmmm
Date: February 25, 2019, 9:43 pm
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For the plane, no I would not give up my aisle seat so a 15 year
old can sit next to their parent. If they really didn't want him
sitting alone, the parent with the window seat could ask to
switch with the person sitting in the window seat next to him.
For the theater, if I only had to move over one seat, I would
move to allow 2 people to sit next to each other. I just don't
see a big difference in experience if I'm a seat or 2 over.
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Re: Asking To Switch Seats When You Don't Want To
DIR By: drzim
Date: February 26, 2019, 2:40 am
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Airplane--It's so common to pay extra for a seat, even just an
aisle seat in the regular economy section. When someone asked
me to switch, I told them I paid extra for the seat and were
they willing to make it right? (meaning pay me the difference
for me to move to their middle seat). Funny how they never
press after that....
Movie--here is where it's up to you to not be a jerk. You and
your friend get there early because you anticipate a full house,
and you both want to sit in the middle. You start to sit down,
and there is an empty seat next to you, with another couple on
the other
side. Why do people feel the need to leave an empty seat, when
they can pretty much guarantee that these seats will fill up,
being that they are in the middle of the row in the middle of
the theater (=prime seats). So just politely ask the couple "is
this seat taken?" and if not, sit down! It's that simple.
I've even moved over a seat (once the theater started getting
crowded and I knew the seats would be in demand) when people who
sat down after me left an empty seat. If you don't leave single
empty seats in between, no one will have to move later on.
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