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6 Solid Reasons Why Same-Gender Schools Are Not Good For Your
Kids
DIR By: holyfada
Date: September 15, 2016, 5:09 pm
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As much as enjoy basking in the glory of being married and
spending our lives with the people we love, there are certain
moments when we are forced to take life-changing decisions.
Enrolling your children in school is one of those decisions as
you have to find out what school offers what and how it will
affect the life of your children.
We are going to be taking you back this age long issue of
putting children in the same-gender school. This is in hope that
you may find a new reason that would help you make up your mind
as to what school your children would go.
There are so many schools in Nigeria that are same-gender
school; most of them are boarding schools which allow your
children to live with thousands of children from all parts of
the country.
We also know that many people would wave this aside and talk
about the experiences they had growing up in schools like that
and how it has molded them. However, we fail to understand that
time changes yesterday and the kind of children we have in this
generation cannot be compared to the children raised in our
time.
Coeducational schools will always offer your children the best
form of education; there is a limit to how best you can shield
or protect a child.
However, we know you have your own special parental guide that
you follow strictly. Find below some of the reasons why your
children should not attend same-gender schools:
6. It limits your parenting rights
Most of these same-gender schools are boarding houses; this
means that your children grow up basically in this setting. If
you are stern parent who is a disciplinarian, your children may
display a different behavior when they are at home with you.
This makes it very difficult for you to correct them when they
are still young. They pick up dirty habits there and you may not
be able to curb them. Discussing certain things with them may be
weird except you find a way of making them blend with the
environment at home.
Children these days are intuitive, they tend to take in their
environment and read your expressions before they give you
answers.
5. It is not the societal way
When you send your children to same-gender schools, you are
protecting them from the environment in a weird way. We should
note that being in that school is just a phase in their lives.
They will get out of it and be clueless when it comes to issues
that have to do with the opposite gender.
Many of them form the range of students who misbehave in their
first year in the universities because they have just tasted
freedom. It is a delightful experience for them and they want to
explore. At that stage is it really possible to keep the
opposite gender in a different class?
4. When they find means to explore their attractiveness
Children are conscious of the fact that they are being locked
and caged, they want to know what is going on in the outside
world and would always find a means of catching up.
Most of these kids have access to phones where they explore
social media pages; they see some of the things being shared
there and would want to see more.
Some musical videos are actually not helpful. Your children may
be exposed to forbidden magazines and videos while they are
locked up in some same-gender school. Worst scenario could be
when they pick up habits like self-satisfaction; they find it
hard to stop.
3. You change their orientation
Some children despise their parents because they feel they
locked them up in some same-gender school for one reason or the
other. They grow up having this as their mindset and would
always want to make up for the time they spent in school.
Naturally, their level of curiosity is piqued as they would be
interested in doing those things they believe made you lock them
up. They end up making the greatest mistakes of their lives by
doing everything to the extreme.
Why not let them see the world as it is and teach them as they
grow rather than placing them in secluded zones?
2. They do not fit in socially
Placing your children in the same-gender school may rob them of
their confidence; this applies most to the boys. They may have
difficulty approaching ladies and telling them how they feel
about them.
There is this social imbalance that most children who attend
same-gender school have; it takes a while before they actually
blend with the society.
1. Homosexuality + Their orientation about family is weird
Well you may think putting your child in a same gender school
guarantees that he would never engage in sexual intercourse but
little do you know that you just might have exposed him to the
worse form of it. Direct approach on sexeducation still remains
the best. Also Having stayed away from the family at that young
age, being independent is being forced on them. They are usually
withdrawn when it comes to family issues as they have learnt to
stay on their own.
They become dissociated from the family and may become estranged
if care is not taken. They form the bulk of people who can
afford to leave their families for a long time and not feel the
need to check on them.
#Post#: 419--------------------------------------------------
Re: 6 Solid Reasons Why Same-Gender Schools Are Not Good For
Your Kids
DIR By: Dblessed One
Date: September 15, 2016, 5:53 pm
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--- Quote from: holyfada link ---
>
> As much as enjoy basking in the glory of being married and
spending our lives with the people we love, there are certain
moments when we are forced to take life-changing decisions.
> Enrolling your children in school is one of those decisions as
you have to find out what school offers what and how it will
affect the life of your children.
> We are going to be taking you back this age long issue of
putting children in the same-gender school. This is in hope that
you may find a new reason that would help you make up your mind
as to what school your children would go.
> There are so many schools in Nigeria that are same-gender
school; most of them are boarding schools which allow your
children to live with thousands of children from all parts of
the country.
> We also know that many people would wave this aside and talk
about the experiences they had growing up in schools like that
and how it has molded them. However, we fail to understand that
time changes yesterday and the kind of children we have in this
generation cannot be compared to the children raised in our
time.
> Coeducational schools will always offer your children the best
form of education; there is a limit to how best you can shield
or protect a child.
> However, we know you have your own special parental guide that
you follow strictly. Find below some of the reasons why your
children should not attend same-gender schools:
>
>
> 6. It limits your parenting rights
>
> Most of these same-gender schools are boarding houses; this
means that your children grow up basically in this setting. If
you are stern parent who is a disciplinarian, your children may
display a different behavior when they are at home with you.
> This makes it very difficult for you to correct them when they
are still young. They pick up dirty habits there and you may not
be able to curb them. Discussing certain things with them may be
weird except you find a way of making them blend with the
environment at home.
> Children these days are intuitive, they tend to take in their
environment and read your expressions before they give you
answers.
>
>
> 5. It is not the societal way
> When you send your children to same-gender schools, you are
protecting them from the environment in a weird way. We should
note that being in that school is just a phase in their lives.
They will get out of it and be clueless when it comes to issues
that have to do with the opposite gender.
> Many of them form the range of students who misbehave in their
first year in the universities because they have just tasted
freedom. It is a delightful experience for them and they want to
explore. At that stage is it really possible to keep the
opposite gender in a different class?
>
>
> 4. When they find means to explore their attractiveness
>
> Children are conscious of the fact that they are being locked
and caged, they want to know what is going on in the outside
world and would always find a means of catching up.
> Most of these kids have access to phones where they explore
social media pages; they see some of the things being shared
there and would want to see more.
> Some musical videos are actually not helpful. Your children
may be exposed to forbidden magazines and videos while they are
locked up in some same-gender school. Worst scenario could be
when they pick up habits like self-satisfaction; they find it
hard to stop.
>
>
> 3. You change their orientation
>
> Some children despise their parents because they feel they
locked them up in some same-gender school for one reason or the
other. They grow up having this as their mindset and would
always want to make up for the time they spent in school.
> Naturally, their level of curiosity is piqued as they would be
interested in doing those things they believe made you lock them
up. They end up making the greatest mistakes of their lives by
doing everything to the extreme.
> Why not let them see the world as it is and teach them as they
grow rather than placing them in secluded zones?
>
>
> 2. They do not fit in socially
> Placing your children in the same-gender school may rob them
of their confidence; this applies most to the boys. They may
have difficulty approaching ladies and telling them how they
feel about them.
> There is this social imbalance that most children who attend
same-gender school have; it takes a while before they actually
blend with the society.
>
>
> 1. Homosexuality + Their orientation about family is weird
> Well you may think putting your child in a same gender school
guarantees that he would never engage in sexual intercourse but
little do you know that you just might have exposed him to the
worse form of it. Direct approach on sexeducation still remains
the best. Also Having stayed away from the family at that young
age, being independent is being forced on them. They are usually
withdrawn when it comes to family issues as they have learnt to
stay on their own.
> They become dissociated from the family and may become
estranged if care is not taken. They form the bulk of people who
can afford to leave their families for a long time and not feel
the need to check on them.
>
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#Post#: 429--------------------------------------------------
Re: 6 Solid Reasons Why Same-Gender Schools Are Not Good For
Your Kids
DIR By: Hotqueen
Date: September 16, 2016, 4:11 am
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so sad, people should be careful
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